What should i do about this i love her but i cant stand the fact that she may want someone else please help?

Question

OK SO WHERE DO I START WELL MY GIRLFRIEND OF 2 YRS TOLD ME YESTERDAY THAT SHE MAY NOT LOVE ME ANYMORE SHE SAYS SHE IS CONFUSED AND DOESNT KNOW WHAT TO DO, SHE CHEATED ON ME 2 WKS AGO WITH SOME RANDOM GUY BUT THEN BEGGED ME FOR FORGIVENESS WE HAVE A DAUGHTER TOGETHER AND I LOVE THEM BOTH MORE THAN ANYTHING IN THE WORLD SHE NEVER HAS CHEATED ON ME BEFORE SO I GAVE HER A CHANCE OUR RELATIONSHIP YOU'ST TO BE PERFECT UNTIL I CHEATED ON HER WHEN SHE GOT PREGNANT WE BROKE UP FOR 4 MONTHS AND THEN GOT BACK TOGETHER AFTER I FINALLY REALIZED THAT I REALLY LOVED HER AND THAT SHE IS THE ONLY GIRL I HAVE EVER LOVED SHE DATED SOME GUY DURING THAT TIME AND THEN LEFT HIM FOR ME AGAIN AFTER 2 MONTHS OF BEGGING HER BACK THE FIRST COUPLE OF MONTHS AFTER WE GOT BACK TOGETHER WERE GREAT AND THEN SHE FOUND OUT SHE WAS PREGNANT AGAIN SHE SAYS ITS ALL MY FAULT AND THEN SHE CHEATED ON ME I KNOW GIRLS GO CRAZY WHEN THEY ARE PREGNANT AND SHE DIDNT WANT TO GET PREGNANT AGAIN BECAUSE SHE IS SCARED ILL CHEAT ON HER

Answer 1

Wow...you guys sound like the perfect cheating couple. It sounds like u are meant to be. Why not have an open relationship?

Answer 2

You set the standard, and now she's following. I think you both need someone new. Neither of you will ever trust the other in the long run. I think you are now just together because of the child. But sticking with a known cheater is not a good long term idea, even for another cheater. You are going to have to learn to trust her without the childish games if you want to keep her. Its a risk you never know for sure what can be going on. Both of you cheating, not making things easier. you both "NEED TO GROW UP" and take responsibilities for your actions, learn to be honest with each other. That's the thing about dishonesty. Once you deceive someone, they have a hard time trusting you again (and vice versa). This is the reason so many people break up over such a thing. They always have that thing in the back of their mind and it's difficult to live like that, as you are finding out. This relationship is pretty much doomed. Look @ this as a learning experience. I think you two should break-up. When you are ready to settle down, don't blow it again.

Answer 3

What in the World!!!!

Both you you need to GET IT TOGETHER with a quickness. Sounds like a hot mess and what's worse is that you have a child that's stuck in the middle of this. And don't think for one moment this wont affect your child in the long run.

Love is thrown around way too loosely in this "relationship" Love takes responsiblity. Love takes commitment, consistency, communication, respect and understanding by both people involved. You both seem to be sorely lacking in several areas. Seek out Christian counseling either together or apart.

There is ABSOLUTELY no excuse to cheat no matter male or female... pregnant or not pregnant, scared or not scared. Harmones have absolutely NOTHING to do with a persons heart. You both were playing house by living together prior to marriage and participating in pre-marital sex. You were bound to head for disaster.

You can't make someone have the desire to be honest, loyal or faithful to you, and you'll be unable to do the same. Work out your individual issues from your past by seeking counseling and growing up. You're parents now and it's not all about you both anymore!

Answer 4

You both have a tough situation to deal with. Seems like the best thing that the 2 of you could do is get family counciling. You both have cheated which was wrong. You both probably need time apart as well. If the situation is fine with the two of you then do nothing and continue to wonder if she is going to cheat or if you are going to cheat on her. Then the worse part is that you have a daughter together. Time, Counseling and Prayer, Prayer, and Prayer is the KEY. Go before God and seek HIM in all that you do and HE will direct your path. God bless

Answer 5

You will have to be the mature one here and stop the revenge getting. She may have the last insult but the bigger of the two has to take the last blow and not respond. Sounds like you took it, Good job, so now stop the cheating.

You have a plethora of crap to solve if you two are gong to work it out, but that doesn't sound like the case. Sounds like she's looking for the door.

Help her find it. The words "I don't know if I love you or not anymore" actually mean "I don't want to be in a relationship with you anymore".

A strong team can get past cheating but a cheater who admittedly doesn't love you anymore is going to keep looking for someone else even if she lies right next to you in bed.

When she finds him you are going to hate women for a long time because you will see a side of her that will make you sick.

Get the hell away from her before you get slammed!!

Good luck!!

Answer 6

Ok, so is she pregnant now? I didn't understand that end part.
It sounds like you guy's may need to go for some counciling. they say you hurt the one's you love the most, but if you're having problems and breaking up, getting back together, no wonder there is no trust. Do you really love her? look inside you're heart and find the answer. If she is wanting to be with some one else, you have to let her go, and deal with it, for the childs sake.
All relationships are hard, and they all take alot of work, but there has to be love and trust. I don't believe you can truly love someone that you can't trust. good luck!

Answer 7

It just doesn't sound like either of you are very serious about your relationship. You both need to step back and look at what you're doing to each other - it sounds like games to me and that means you're both too immature for a true relationship and possibly marriage. If you can't both work this out then just go seperate ways and look for someone you can be serious and have a future with. As for the daughter - either agree on something or let a judge do it.
Good luck!

Answer 8

She may have cheated on you because the anger built up so bad in her from when you cheated and when she was pregnant which made it worse. My bf cheated on me and i still have hatred for him. You should not push her to stay with you, just back off and let her figure her self out, if she really loves you and wants this family to work out she will come to her senses. You don't have to keep begging her to trust you or any thing like that, she's the one that has to feel it in her heart to trust you, and she might not because she's guilty her self. good luck =}

Answer 9

Both of you are confused. If the two of you are sure you want to stay together, then I suggest you both go for individual and couples therapy. Even if you don't stay together still go because you'll have to deal with your individual problems and try to learn how to be responsible co-parents.

Two wrongs don't make a right, but you started this cycle by cheating on her.

I don't know your ages, I guessing early twenties. You have kids. You don't have the luxury of being f**ked up.

Part of being a grown-up is thinking b4 you act and accepting responsibilities for your actions.

Answer 10

From what you are describing, it doesnt necessarily sound like she is thinking of someone else. Im wondering what makes your pain of her cheating any more than hers with your cheating.
At this point, you need to be as supportive as possible. Loving and patient. Let her know that all you want now is your family together and tell her how much you love her.

Answer 11

Her fears of you cheating on her do not give her permission to cheat on you. Nor does you cheating on her make the situation any more correct. Also it seems this is a habitual thing for her and you, and do you want to be caught in this vicious cycle of hcheating, begging to be taken back and so on.... This is no way to live, find someone who will respect you more, regardless of feelings herein. It does not sound like a healthy relationship.