my husbands mad at me because he is stressed about something?

Question

i only want an apologe which he want give but he wants sex. why should i give himwhat he wants and i not get what i want because he did me wrong and i feel he should be the one to apologize he made me angry because he kept blaming me for stuff and yelling at me so i told him i no longer felt the same which i don't he don't understand what he is doing

Answer 1

Well I don't know about you, but when my husband and I have been fighting, I really don't feel like having sex with him, until we get it resolved. I suggest that the two of you talk it out, get it settled, then have some fun.

Answer 2

There could be many things that caused him to act the way he did. You need to cut him some slack about it. I'm not saying who is right or who is wrong here, but you can't allow it to escalate into something much bigger than it is already.

What is important is that you two need to sit down and calmly talk to each other. You need to communicate your love for each other which surely was there when you got married or you wouldn't have said "I do" would you? I suggest you both read in the Bible I Corinthians 13 "The Love Chapter" to find out what love is and isn't. First of all, love is patient and kind. It doesn't seek its own way at the expense of others. It is of the type that one person sacrificially will die to save the other person's life.

You surely had this at one time before. You need to rekindle the fire that you both once had for each other. If you can't do it alone, then I suggest that you find a Bible believing church and talk to the pastor together, or you can go to a counselor for help.

Answer 3

A very wise man once said, "Would you rather be right, or happy?". You are your husband's sounding board and yes, sometimes you will have to take some anger from him just like he has to take yours. The fact that you recognize that he's not really mad at you and he's stressed about something else already puts you one step ahead. My husband takes his stress from work and brings it home sometimes, but I just listen and let him vent. Then he goes off and and takes it out on some tools and a piece of wood. LOL Then he comes back later and has calmed down and everything's fine. Men are just built differently than us. They can get mad at their best friend, punch him in the mouth, and then share a beer and laugh about it as they bleed. We women tend to hold grudges for much longer and would never speak to our friend again. Try to take comfort in the fact that he trusts in your relationship enough to know that he can get angry and take it out on you, but you'll still love him. That kind of understanding and patience is what makes a relationship work.

Answer 4

That could be his way of saying sorry. A lot of men express their love through sex, he probably just wants to feel close to you. Many men have a very hard time saying the words 'I'm sorry', so this is probably his way.
Why not take advantage & de-stress? Maybe you'll both forget the tension between you and everything will go back to normal? Might be worth a try!
Good luck!