Is this cheating?

Question

I meet this guy we exchanged phone #'s, he told me he lives with his old lady. We never hang out, but talk on the phone every now and then. I think he's really cool. On his part is this cheating for him to be my friend.

Answer 1

If it's ok with HER and ok with YOUR partner then it's OK .
However; if SHE does not know about it then it's a problem. I wouldn't take his word for it.. caller her and ask...

Answer 2

Being that I'm married and a man ... I can tell you that either he's thinking about cheating (if he's not already cheating) on his as he says "old lady". Perhaps he really does just want to be friends with you, BUT ... a man + a "pyt" can spell out T-R-O-U-B-L-E. Maybe you can keep your head cool ... for a while ... but the fact that you think "he's really cool" could be an indicator that you might be willing to check him out a lil' further. With all that being said ... why would you want to be the reason to break-up either a happy home or even a not so happy home ... to be continued!

Answer 3

I need more info, for example, are you single? The first problem I see is that he took your number and gave you his. There is no reason a man in a relationship should give a woman he just met his number. To me, that's his way of seeing what else is out there. Even if he's just a friendly guy, you or another woman might take his advances to mean something romantic which would only make his relationship hell and his "old lady" could possibly be another woman's worst nightmare. Regardless of this guy's intentions, is it worth being his friend knowing that if he's trying to keep you a secret from her, she could blow up at you if she finds out?

Answer 4

It really depends on what kind of friends the two of you actually are, and, what kind of phone conversations you are having. If the two of you are developing an emotional and/or physical relationship, then yes, I think he is cheating on his "old lady" as you call her. If you are some hidden secret attraction that he keeps from her, then yes, he is cheating. If nothing else, he is cheating on her trust, if she has any in him.
If the two of you are just shooting the breeze on the phone, and, he has no problem talking to you in front of her, then there is nothing wrong......but, for some reason, just the vibe I am getting from your question, it is wrong......and.....I really think you already know it is.

Answer 5

It depends what you are talking about. If you are talking about intimate subjects usually reserved for the wife or gf he is emotionally cheating on his wife.
Emotional affairs are often viewed as being as devastating to a relationship as an affair that involves only sex. However, some argue that emotional affairs are more devastating to relationships because even though many relationships can survive when one party is not being sexually fulfilled, most cannot survive when one of the parties are not having their emotional needs met.
So it is up to you to decide whether you are cheating together or whether your conversations are just conversations between friends.

Answer 6

its cheating if he has to keep it a secret from his woman. a lot of people have the wrong idea of what cheating means. if the relationship with this guy is open and the woman and is ok with it, no matter how far it goes, its not cheating. if he has to do it behind her back, then its cheating, because it breaks down the communication and betrays the trust between them.

ask yourself how you would feel if your man was having secret phone conversations with a female. if its something you would be hurt about, then dont do it. its the golden rule. and you dont have to be religious to see the wisdom in it

Answer 7

No, this is not cheating.... unless, of course, the conversations you two have gets into the sexual realm. If that happens, it's up to his "old lady" as to whether she believes this is cheating.

Unfortunately, the act of cheating is quite subjective. President Clinton made reference to his belief that oral sex wasn't cheating. Of course, he was only trying to cover up his boo boo, but it set the stage for many discussions. The long and the short of it is this: What one couple think of as cheating may not hold true for another couple in a more open relationship.

Answer 8

if you both hide from the other parts, of course it is cheating. The fact that you came here to ask people is a prove that you feel bad and know you are doing something wrong. Otherwise you would not need our opinion/advice. It seems you wanna hear what you already know but you don't accept it. Agree?

Answer 9

not at all my best friend in the whole world is a female and I have been married for years and I talk to her all the time about everything even intimate things and I do not consider cheating in the least little bit. but like the other person it depends on what your goal is...a friend or a boyfriend and like the one person said if you are havin phone sex then thats a whole nother story

Answer 10

Why waste your time with a man that has somebody else and can't hang out? There are too many men out there to get yourself into something like this, there is no future and he should never have given you his phone number knowing that he lives with someone else. Your not going to get anything out of this so let it just go, say goodbye it's been nice but I need to find someone who will be mine, some one who will be able to go out places.

Answer 11

Hmmm...

Putting yourself or himself in this case, into scenarios where emotional attachements can occur isn't cheating yet, but it isn't smart, either. One thing leads to the next. If he was a good guy, he wouldn;t have given you his number for any reason other than business, and then it would have been an office number. Not cool.