Is my wife being silly over $36?

Question

My wife and I plan to start trying to conceive our first child after January 1st. She has 3 packs of birth control left to last her until then. They cost $36 total ($12/pack).

We talked about throwing out the birth control now that way she will have the pill out of her system in January and we hopefully can conceive faster.

She said she doesn't want to throw them out because she paid $36 and doesn't want to waste the money. She can't give them to anyone so she said she feels bad about throwing out $36.

I told her $36 isn't that big of a deal and I can work an hour of overtime and she can stop worrying about it. I know she wants to start in January, so this is not an excuse to delay the baby making process.

Is she being petty over $36? Its not that much money!

Answer 1

She is being frugal and perhaps thinks that after the baby she can start them up again. No need to fight over $36

Answer 2

Well...maybe your wife just needs to see the situation from a different perspective. The $36 is spent, gone. It's already gone regardless of what happens with the pills now. Whether she takes them until they are gone, throws them away, a bird flies wildly through your house and eats them, a leak in the roof floods the area where the pills are and they are ruined, or even, god forbid, a fire rips throught the house and they go up in smoke. I think you get the idea. So, now that we know the $36 is gone no matter what, there's a choice...you (well, your wife) can insist on consuming the remainder of the pills so the $36 is still used for it's intended purpose, or you can consider it the small cost for getting a jump-start on one of the most exciting times in your lives! And, it may not even really have to be a cost because like some others said, she could probably hold onto the pills for use afterwards (depending on the expiry date and if she plans on breastfeeding or for how long). On the other hand, if she just doesn't see it your way (or mine, lol)...I wouldn't push it. People are different and in the big scheme of things whether she takes them and you wait 3 months or whether they get thrown away and you get a head-start on the conception thing, it all won't matter in the long run and isn't worth any stress for either of you. Good luck to you both and I wish you a speedy conception, a healthy pregnancy, a safe delivery, and the baby of your dreams!

Answer 3

She may be the type of person that needs things very organized in her life and she probably isn't thinking of the fact that it is "Just" $36, she is thinking that there has to be a marking point to try to conceive. To her the end of her taking the pill is the beginning of another time in her life. Although you both agree mentally that January is the best time for you to conceive, for some reason subconsciously her body is telling her that this isn't the right time. When you do get pregnant and you have your little one that is the most perfect little one for you...you will realize that everything happens for a reason and that the minute the 2 of you conceived was the best time to get pregnant, your baby will be perfect for the 2 of you. What ever she feels is right go with it. A woman's intuition and gut feeling are usually strong for a reason. So the 36 dollars is just the reason she is giving, So don't worry about the January dead line that you both thought would work, just let everything happen easily and whenever she feels is right. Everything else will fall into,place. Good luck with your little one, and have fun with all the baby making.......just kidding, lol, have a great day

Answer 4

No she is not being petty over $36. You may have to live the life of a woman for about a month in order to understand. If you two don't make that much money, then medication for $36 is a big deal. If your perscription is a rare one and cannot be found at anywhere else except for one pharmacy, then it's a big deal. If she or if you don't have insurance, and she goes to planned parenthood to pay $36 for birth control...then it's a big deal. first of all its HER medication. you don't have the right to tell her what to do with it or even to suggest that she throw it away. she may be saving it for after the pregnancy to go back onto the pill to keep from having any accidents (before you two are ready for another child). How would you like it if she told you that she wants you to throw away something of yours that you treasure a lot? you'd throw a fit wouldn't you? because that item is special to you and because it may be rare, you probably paid a lot of money for it. show some consideration for other people's things. you to may be married, but she still has her own personal belongings. and the medication is one of them. Besides, there is a reason that birth control pills are suggested to be followed every single day and the instructions are followed to a t. as another poster suggested, do you want her to get pregnant right now? if the answer is no then you need to let her do her thing wtih the pills. it's not going to kill you. you maybe thankful later on. it is very possible to get pregnant after missing one pill. that is how powerful birth control is. if you have any questions about this then you should address them to her doctor, not to her. respect your wife's decisions. it will not kill you to wait a couple of months. and to answer your first question...no she is not being silly over $36.

Answer 5

First of all, she could get pregnant within a week of getting off the pill. Doctors are strict about taking them every day at the same time for a reason. If you don't want to conceive until January for sure then she SHOULDN'T get off the pill until then. As for not "throwing away" the $36, I like some of the other suggestions of keeping them for after the pregnancy (although check for an expiration date). I don't think she's being silly and it doesn't sound like she's getting cold feet since you've both decided on January. They say marriage is about compromise, so maybe this is just one of those times you nod and smile.

Answer 6

It's an excuse. Whether she uses them or not she already paid the 36 bucks and that is gone. 36 dollars is not even a drop in the bucket of what it costs to have a child and the cost of raising that child. In the end she will spend far more then she will ever keep track on. 36 dollars won't even fill up a gas tank.
She doesn't want to have a baby yet.

Answer 7

It sounds like she is trying to put off having children, and I believe she is right. If $36.00 is even a thought, you cannot afford children. You should wait until you have some money in the bank. On top of diapers, food, clothing, etc, you will also need money for education. Even if you send the kids to public school, you will still have to pay for college, which will probable cost around $100,000 a year by the time he/she gets there. That does not count buying the kid a car at 16, sending the kid money in college, etc. Please wait. There are too many people who are poor, yet still decide to selfishly conceive a child.

Answer 8

She is being practical. That isn't a bad thing and it is much better than having someone who would throw away that $36 without a second thought. Just go along with her on this and stop making a big deal of it.

Answer 9

Hmmm she might be saying she wants a baby in January but she really is thinking that she wants to wait. When a womens biological clock starts ticking then 36 dollars to $3600 dollars or even more really doesn't matter. If she really wanted to have a baby she would throw those pills away. You might want to talk to her about this and ask her to be honest.

Answer 10

it's a little strange, but here's what i would do...
i would give her the 36 dollars in exchange for the birth control pills.
do it in a nice way. i'm sure that taking a break from the pill will be better for her body come time you both start "trying". if she is worried for whatever reasons you both have for waiting until january, offer another form of birth control.