Okay, so my "best" friend has a boyfriend right, and that kinda made me the third wheel for about 6 months. She started to hang out with him more and I was just kinda by myself, because I didn't want her to get mad at me for trying to ruin her time with her boyfriend. So I let it go. Now I have a boyfriend, but he goes to a different school. And it seems like my best friend is pushing everyone away for her boyfriend, making him her life basically, and is forgetting that he's not the only person that cares about her. I've talked to her about it countless times and I dont know what to do now. I am stubborn, so I'm just not talking to her (of course, she's not talking to me either, for she is too busy being with her boyfriend every 2 minutes) But we were best friends for 5 years, and I really dont want to lose her, but I want her to stop being so caught up in her boyfriend too. Its been like this the past year, and I'm just to the point where I dont care what she does. Any advice?
2006-11-03 03:35:19 · 11 answers · asked by Roo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
OK well first off this is so typical of high school girls and their friends.I am asuming that you are in high school? Next you need to give her a little room to figure this out. She knows that you will always be there for her. That's what BEST FRIENDS are for. Right now it seems the boyfriend is her whole world, but not to worry she will not forget you. Keep on keeping in touch with her, even if it is frustrating to you. Maybe once or twice a week send her an e-mail or a quick phone call. Ask her if you could get together for a girls night maybe a movie or just hang out alone together. Tell her how important it is to you. Good Luck!! Hope it works!!
2006-11-03 03:42:08 · answer #1 · answered by mptodora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you've touched basis with her about her boyfriend and nothing has changed shows that she doesn't care about you at all. Talk to that girl one more time and just tell it like it is. She needs to get her priorities straight and her boyfriend is not the only person on this planet. If this situation still won't change, move on and continue to make new friends. You don't deserve a friend like her. Boys come a dime a dozen but best friends last forever. The bottom line is to do what you think is best for yourself. I hope this helps. Good luck.
2006-11-03 13:56:30 · answer #2 · answered by Lady S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay I had the same problem. Except the fact that my best friend and her boyfriend wanted me to go and hangout with them lol when all they did was flirt with each other I mean it was kind of awkward. I was kinda like the third wheel. I think you should kind of do the same thing with your boyfriend, nevermind that. What you need to do is go and talk to her boyfriend see if he can go talk to her about since he is the only one that she might listen to. Have you tried to email her? or im her? that is a way to talk to her. Just make sure that you don't insult her or her boyfriend if you do your dead meat. Jstu talk to her boyfriend ask him to talk to her. that is my best advice.
GOOD LUCK!!
2006-11-03 11:44:25 · answer #3 · answered by Juice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's your friend but she's a *****! Anyone who would push their best friend away for some dick isn't your friend. And the fact that you have brought it to her attention and nothing has changed, that's even more ****** up! Don't worry, when he dumps her for someone else, you'll be the first person she runs to crying. I know I was a little harsh, but that same thing happened to me and I guess i'm still a bit sore about it.
2006-11-03 13:03:09 · answer #4 · answered by Pinky Dinky Doo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like your friend doesnt have her priorities in line. it should 1. school attendance and good grades and 2. then she should try to find sometime and hang with you and her other friends 3. then her boyfriend she could spend time with, she needs to her school attendance and grades and friends are important.
2006-11-03 12:17:35 · answer #5 · answered by mamas_grandmasboy06 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should instist a day with her, and bring her where one of your guys favoret spots are and tell her what you have told us on yahoo, honestey is forgoten alot easier then shadyness or lying. just talk to her about your concerns, i promise in the long run it will be worth it!
2006-11-03 11:42:28 · answer #6 · answered by Katrina M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my best friend is doing the same to me !
i tried talking to her but all she does is cry !! its verry frustrating !! she calls me only when she needs me to get her outta home to meet tat guy !! this is absolutely sick !!
dont let it get to u !! keep to urself .....sometimes we hav to let go !!not of you frndship ....just ur frnd she will realise your value when she needs a girlfrnd to talk to !!! they will come around !!
or else set aside time for you guys to meet up and tell her your feleing left out !
i noe its a tuff thing to do cos they think we wanna ruin their lives but they donno tat we were a major part of their lives once and now they dont even care !
just b there for her ...let her noe tat
itll take sometime but she will realise tat no one can replace a best frnd
take care
all the best
2006-11-03 11:51:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
man just 4 get her if shes like that she wasnt a friend in the 1st place
2006-11-03 13:15:57 · answer #8 · answered by monkyz_r_pimp_59 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you become besotted by a boy, doubtless you will not only do the same, but understand.
2006-11-03 12:19:58 · answer #9 · answered by steven b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seduce her boyfriend. When she confronts you about it, say you were proving how bad he was for her and you will have her back.
2006-11-03 13:32:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋