My husband and I both work fulltime. We have 2 schoolages children 5, and a 2 year old. I want a housekeeper 3 days a week and she would also cook and do the laundry those days. He says he is worried that they may steal something! Any ideas. I am exausted and this would take a load off of me and a lot of stress and help my family stay happy. I sometimes work and 7 days a week and still have to go home and clean my husban would help but he works to.. I say if we can afford it why not please help with this.. Thanks
2006-11-03 02:47:50 · 20 answers · asked by Sexy PR Mom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I agree with you, just get one that is not attractive to your husband and is a good cook. If you can afford it then you need to tell your husband that he can do it for a month himself and it don't wear him out to do all that you do then he can take those chores over. I can tell you that he don't want the tasks. Good luck and happy maid hunting.
2006-11-03 02:51:19 · answer #1 · answered by 51ain'tbad 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with Val (I had the same thought before I even read her reply) why did you have kids if you work full time and cant be home to take care of them? what material things are so important you are willing to let someone else raise your kids and clean your own messes?
If you say in order to have a nice home Im gonna go off for sure. A home is family and family is home, you can live somewhere that you can afford to be home, raise the children you chose to bring into this place called planet earth and for gods sake clean up after them and you and your husband.
If you feel a job is more important than taking care of your own children and home then take your money and pay for a housekeeper. Tell hubby oh well its too bad too sad that you are willing to work 10 to 15 hours a week to have someone come in and clean up after y'all. As for stealing...BS he sure doesnt care that the two of you are stealing your childrens most prized possessions...their parents.
2006-11-03 05:21:18 · answer #2 · answered by quarterhorsemom 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My wife and I went through the same conversations about a year ago. I was concerned that the housekeeper would steal from us; it really bothered me to have to give her a key. In the end, we got someone to come four days a week. My wife asked all of our friends, some of her colleagues, etc for recommendations. You just need to take your time so that you find someone you can trust. Your husband can also install nanny cams for a little extra protection.
2006-11-03 03:29:20 · answer #3 · answered by Bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You work, he works - if he can't give 50% to the cleaning and laundry and cooking then you should get a maid. If you can afford it, do it. He is being paranoid, but I think once he sees the stress lifted from you and your home being orderly, he will enjoy the benefits of spending time with the family in this new environment.
2006-11-03 04:01:49 · answer #4 · answered by corinasanc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you NEED help. One way or the other. Either he helps you himself (if you both work there's really no reason you can't share the household duties). If he's not willing to pitch in then, he needs to let you get the help you need. Get a nanny cam or something if you're worried about stealing, or at least screen potential applicants to make sure you get a reputable one. Go with a service like merry maids, or something, and keep you valuable locked in a safe. There are ways to deal with it. Sounds to me like he's just making excuses. Don't fight about it thought, just have an open discussion and work out the details as mature adults. We've got to help each other.
2006-11-03 03:37:23 · answer #5 · answered by Matt B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you use a reputable agency you shouldn't have a problem with stealing. However, if you put the household chores on a schedule, and have your husband AND children help with them, you should be able to maintain a home while working full time. Millions of families do. :)
2006-11-03 04:11:05 · answer #6 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
excuse me ?, your husband would help but he works too? Well honey my hubby and I both work as well and we do our housework together. Sounds like you have a selfish babied husband whose mother probably stayed home and did everything. tell him this is the year 2006 women need domestic help since he is too lazy to help you. Why should you after working out all day come home to clean too ? That is ridiculous and your hubby needs to see that. Good luck and god bless.
2006-11-03 05:25:08 · answer #7 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the best investment you can make!!! You can come home, relax and enjoy time together - not worry about the mess because it is gone. Trust me - it is like getting an accountant to do your taxes. You know you can do it yourself, but the stress and time it removes makes it all worth while!
2006-11-03 03:36:35 · answer #8 · answered by fffrrreeeddd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a housekeeper......Use a company that screens people. Word of mouth if a wonderful way to find someone. I found my housekeeper from a neighbor and she is wonderful!!!!
2006-11-03 03:56:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be afraid they might steal something doesn't really seem to be the real reason why he doesn't want somebody to help you. another question: he would help but he works, too? well so do you and that apparently is not a good enough excuse for you, why should it be for him? i say he has two choices, either help you himself or get the help. good luck!
2006-11-03 03:34:34 · answer #10 · answered by gabriela 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋