They are waiting for you to stop talking so that they can start talking, often about something quite unrelated or vaguely related but to do with them not with what you said. Or we (yes I do it as well) don't really HEAR - for example if someone says they are tired, bored with their job, frustrated, lonely - in the main we say "cheer up, life's too short" or something similarly dismissive.
2006-11-03 02:37:06 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Most people have so much on their minds today and are too busy thinking about their own lives that they do not have the time to worry or listen about others
2006-11-03 02:39:30 · answer #1 · answered by Mary Smith 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Two things that I noticed
1: You didn't give your question a Question Mark.
2: You answered it yourself anyway.
And there I go, talking about how observant I am...
Anyway, the people who do listen to you, are mostly doing it so that they can figure out how to sell something to you, or take something from you.
The old saying is that 'ignorance is bliss'. If you start noticing things, most of the things that you notice will probably be depressing.
I don't even know if you're going to read these answers with any kind of attention; if you do, then:
"thanks for listening". ;-)
2006-11-03 12:23:22 · answer #2 · answered by Fitology 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes practice to become a truly good listener.
Maybe people don't see the importance of become a "healing force". They are more worried about their own opinions than making you feel better. They are too caught up in their own thoughts and worries or an answer they are going to give you than actually just listening to your words.
If someone constantly does that to you while you're trying to talk with them, either say "I really need you to just listen to me for a minute" or I wouldn't talk to them about anything of importance again.
2006-11-03 10:42:29 · answer #3 · answered by redrobot 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most people and this is wildly generalised, the non- listeners find it hard to listen to themselves, they don't listen to the little voice that tells them things and have no idea who they themselves are. For some people talking for the sake of talking, is used as a smoke screen against taking on other peoples feelings. If they are in denial about their own inner workings they are going to be no use to you if you expect them to listen. To be a good listener you need to have capacity- emotional capacity, mental capacity and spiritual capacity and an understanding of how good it is to be trusted enough for someone to talk to you on a deeper level.
Listening is not about solving other peoples problems its about being "there" for others, but we do have to be there for ourselves. Active listening takes energy, means we leave our stuff alone and that we focus completely.... how much are you asking from individuals who are not really aware of themselves... just bless them and find the earth angels who have always got "their ears on good buddy"
2006-11-03 13:33:05 · answer #4 · answered by ~~~VeNuSeEd~~~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The art of listening is hard to get the hang of, however, if you really care about people and what they have to say then it shouldn't be to hard to master. Where people go wrong is they seem to feel that what they have to say is more important or they use their words as weapons and don't care what you have to say.
Don't waste your time on those losers. Remember, the word is
be considerate and polite.
2006-11-03 10:50:24 · answer #5 · answered by kekeke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because many people are blithering idiots that have nothing worth listening to to say.
It's an expenditure of energy you give away to someone decidedly when you actually stop and listen to them, if they are idiots... I haven't the time or inclination to stop what I am doing and give them a tangible piece of my life that I will never ever get back again.
I listen to intelligent people, funny people and artistic people.
That's about it. Hopeless, aimless whiners need not apply here. I have nothing for them.
2006-11-03 14:12:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well I think that most people tend to have an authoritarian personality type which makes them good a following orders and not so good at listening or communicating in general
2006-11-03 12:46:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe some people dont like or know how to deal with other peoples worries, I know if people start whinging at me, I switch off or change the subject!
2006-11-03 10:47:05 · answer #8 · answered by Annie M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This question is very sad ;(
I hope you find someone to listen to you, if that's what this means.
Listening is a really hard skill to operate.
2006-11-03 12:49:29 · answer #9 · answered by : 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone is like it. I know alot of friends who are really peitient when i talk to them.
2006-11-03 10:49:25 · answer #10 · answered by - 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋