i need help to stop spending money?

Question

i dont use cridit cards i will spend all that in the house to make me happy but the stuff is never for me.my husband is about to leave meplease help me

Answer 1

You are an adult and have complete control over what you are doing. So just stop doing it.

Answer 2

Ma'am just buy what is the necessity not the luxury. Many of us do not know how to differentiate the word wants from needs..Credit cards is not the problem here, it is helpful if you have to buy an expensive item for SOMETIMES.The problem is your ways in using your credit cards.. Just put in your mind that credit cards are not your own money, it is the money of the company who wants to dig more money from you..so think seriously first before you use it, if not then you will have a thousands or millions to pay for the interests...If you're rich you should still know how to control your spending and be wise in buying things..If you will never control this problem of yours then as you said your husband will leave you not tommorrow but now..So please ma'am help yourself before it's too late.Buying things can't always make you happy, the happiness you will get there is just temporary, because it's just material things. Having a good relationship to God will give you an endless happiness, because if you apply God-given principles in life such as be simple and do not love money then you will find true happiness that you cannot find in spending so much money.. If you have Bible please read 1 Matthew 6:9,10 where it said that money could just give you sorrow, pain and injuries... if not use wisely. I hope somehow I help you ma'am.That's all

Answer 3

I was in a 10 year emotionally abusing marriage, that I realized after I told him to leave. I was very unhappy. Spending money, most of the time on my children, made me happy...but only for a bit, then the "high" feeling went away replaced by unhappiness again. One reason, because then we fought about money, and unhappy at myself because I "failed again" Please look at things from a wide angle. Look at your life, why are you so unhappy...look to those things to fix first. Talk with your husband, explain to him that you are unhappy and this is causing a vicious circle of spending. Ask him to help you. Talk to a counselor maybe, get yourself "Happy" Remember, it isn't easy, change won't happen overnight. Ask your husband to help you. And then make a concentrated effort to change your behavior. This isn't a problem that only you deal with, it is very common. Some people turn to drugs, alcohol, etc, to escape the unhappiness you are dealing with, you just chose shopping. Good luck

Answer 4

I like the suggestions of finding a few hobbies to keep you busy as well as a budget. If you don't know how to budget then maybe you can ask a friend or a relative to help you. also...when you go to the stores, make a list of what you need, not what you want. that always helps me to stay on track with my spending. And maybe you can reward yourself with something small like once a week to maybe once a month...depending on your situation.

Answer 5

get your husband to give you a daily cash amount, say a tenner. Cut up your cards. Use the money you have in your pocket and that way learn to budget. when it runs out, you don't buy stuff. Just remember to save money from that sum to get food and water, or you may die all for the love of shoes.

Answer 6

Go to some kind of financial advisor or counselor for credit. Spending money foolishly is often rooted in deeper problems so you may want to mention it to your family doctor who may send you to see another professional to talk with about this behaviour. Why jeopardize your marriage, get yourself some help.

Answer 7

Maybe you need to hand over your money to your husband and find something else to do besides shop. If you have kids, take them outside. If not, you go for a walk. Thats what I do. I just bring the kids outside when I feel the need to blow all my money..It's like money burns a hole in my pocket!!! LOL..Good luck!

Answer 8

get a bank account a savings separate from your other ones put most of your money in it don't keep cards for the account or check's. And use your self control to understand you have money in-case of any thing but you really don't have money is what you have to think in your mind. good luck=}

Answer 9

Put your money in a bank account, that way every time you need to spend you will have to go to the bank, and that will make you more conscious about it, plus keep a track of everything you buy, and I mean everything, and check it every week

Answer 10

Get a hobby to keep yourself busy.

Ask your husband to help you budget.