How can i be polite in telling my mother in law that i dont want her in the delivery room. The reason being that i am not comfortable with her seeing whatever is going on. I know its a miracle and all of that but its a miracle that i dont want her to witness. If you know what i mean.
2006-11-03 02:30:00 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I would rather just have my husband and my mother in there with me
2006-11-03 02:30:27 · update #1
I think because it is my body i am only comfy with certain people seeing it I think it is fair that i only want my mother there she cleaned me when i was little for gosh sakes and my husband well he has seen it My MIL doesnt have the right to be if im not comfortable i dont want it to affect my labor and i think it would
2006-11-03 06:59:30 · update #2
say her "look i now its a miracle and u'd like to witness,but why THE BLOODY HELL don't u understand i don't want u there?!!i'm already irritated enough with the birth pains,so move ya lazy *** OUT of here and let me concentrate to the birth!!!",or u can just say her "please"and maybe she'll listen to u...
2006-11-03 04:56:59 · answer #1 · answered by kalliste 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of women don't feel comfortable having their mothers-in-law in their delivery room. My mother-in-law would never ask to be in my delivery room. Just because you have you mother there doesn't mean that you have to have your mother-in-law there too. You're the one pushing the baby out and so you have to feel comfortable. Tell her exactly that. You aren't comfortable with her being in your delivery room but she can come see the baby in the hospital if you want her to. You call tell the nurses to keep her out of your delivery room or don't tell call her until after the baby is born. Good luck.
2006-11-03 02:37:13 · answer #2 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's completely understandable...I didn't even want to witness what was going on down there when I gave birth...I bet it looked disgusting, miracle or not. It is totally your decision as to who is all there in the delivery room. Maybe you could explain this to your husband (if you haven't already) and let him explain to his mother that there are only one or two people who you want in there and that you are not comfortable with any more. She should understand and if she doesn't then don't worry about it...she will get over it as soon as she sees your beautiful baby
2006-11-03 02:34:55 · answer #3 · answered by Chi1linVi1lain 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simply explain to her that it is your preference to only have your husband and mother in the delivery room. Assure her that it is nothing personal against her, it is just what would make you most comfortable. Afterall, giving birth is about you and the baby, not your mother-in-law. Her feelings may be hurt but just make sure that you are polite yet assertive so she knows that it is not up for debate or discussion. Your decision has been made.
2006-11-03 02:45:12 · answer #4 · answered by micg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I live in canada and we can only have 2 people in the room I had the father of the baby and my dad.... I would just tell her how you feel and tell your husband too maybe he can talk to her and tell her that you arent comfortable with her being there and that you both think it should be just you and him but as soon as baby is born she may come in ...if that doesnt work tell your doctor how you feel and I'm sure he can kick people out It's whatever mommy wants that goes. they want you as happy and calm as you can be. I would not let my mother in law in good luck on the baby!!
2006-11-03 02:43:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you told your husband this also? Maybe he can help telling your mother-in-law. I would say I am not sure if I feel comfortable having a bunch of people in the delievery room when I have the baby. It is your decision, you will need to feel comfortable while giving birth. Good luck with what you decide.
2006-11-03 02:34:24 · answer #6 · answered by shorty 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can understand where you're coming from. My mother-in-law never discussed it with us and ended up in the delivery room when the time came to push. She didn't really feel comfortable seeing what was going on down there either so she just stayed up by my head and sat in a chair. She was still able to see the baby when she was born but didn't want to see any of my body parts. It is totally up to you though, if you absolutely don't want her there and you don't feel comfortable telling her yourself, your husband should. He can just say "Mom, this is something we just wanted to do ourselves. It is something special for us to share." Goodluck!
2006-11-03 02:39:06 · answer #7 · answered by megkenzee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, although I understand where you are coming from do you really think that it is far to your husband that your mother be included but his mother not be included. It seems a little selfish on your part to me. If his mother is welcomed then your mother should have to sit in the waiting room also. By including your mother and not his you may cause your mother in law to have some hard feelings so tell both of them that you only want your husband in the delivery room and that they are welcomed to join after the baby is born.
2006-11-03 04:55:14 · answer #8 · answered by juicie813 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell your doctor your preferences. Your comfort during delivery is key... because you're going to go through a lot of pain from childbrith you really don't need someone there that you don't want to be there.
You should express your feelings to your husband and let him know that you want him there because of privacy reasons. A video can be taken where its not giving away your privacy.
You should tell her. She has to know your reasons for not wanting to be in the delivery room... She should accept them if not then your doctor can override ANYONE from being the room at all.
2006-11-03 02:41:29 · answer #9 · answered by Eshi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you love her very much and want her to be the first visitor to come and see baby, but the birth itself will be a private and intimate event shared between your husband and yourself. You shouldn't have to explain yourself further. If she starts arguing the point, listen politely but don't agree to anything she suggests, keep repeating that it's between you and your husband. When the big moment comes, make sure she isn't phoned until after baby arrives and make a big issue out of her being the first visitor. If hubby isn't on board with this and refuses to stand up to mom, let him know that he can wait outside with mom if he wants to. This is your big work here, and you decide whats happening in the room. Period. Good luck.
2006-11-03 02:48:42 · answer #10 · answered by chicchick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had my doctor tell everyone that we could only have one person in there because they needed room to work. I only had my husband and I because I didn't want any of them watching me push a watermelon out! lol Your doctor or the nurses can tell them that only two people are allowed, and ask them to say that it's usually the husband and your mother because it makes it more comfortable for you. They do it all the time! Tell your mother in law that you'll have to check out who can be there and you'll get back to her. Good luck!
2006-11-03 02:34:26 · answer #11 · answered by justwondering 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋