Does loving a man has to be so tough??

Question

He sweeps u off your feet, makes u want him, fall in love with him......
Once he gets u, he controls you, ridicules you, verbally and emotionally abuses you, uses you, lies to you and plays mind games with you. Finally, when you had enough, he still wont let go of u, makes things difficult for you.

Why go through all these when all you wanted to do is to love him.

Why does loving a man has to be so tough??

Answer 1

In order to love someone you have to learn to love yourself. If you are taking this abuse then you must not love yourself very much. Life is short why put up with an abusive husband. Leave get out and run. Find someone that is going to love you for who you are.

Answer 2

That doesn't sound like love is being returned to this guy. There are many good men out there who do not have these behaviours and sounds like you need to find one. Nobody, male or female, has the right to treat another person like this. Soon enough these feelings of love that you have for this man will turn to resentment and then the real problems begin. Do yourself a favour and give this guy a kick to the curb and go on with your life and soon enough you will meet a male who will treat you with the respect that you deserve.

Answer 3

Loving A man does not have to be so tough. The problem is that you are choosing the wrong kind of man to whom to give your love. If you go for the "sweeps you off your feet" type, you're dealing with someone who is both aggressive, and experienced at getting what he wants. Instead, look for a man who is more reliable, responsible, genuine, honest, mature, and goal-oriented in life.

Answer 4

Loving anyone should not be that hard. when you love someone you don't ever want to hurt them. If hes as mean as you say that he is then maybe he doesn't love you. If that is the case then you need to move on. I know that's easier said than done but in the long run it is worth it. He treats you that way because you allow him to do it and he knows that your not going to leave. Maybe you should leave for awhile and when he sees that he cant live with out you then hell come crawling back on his hands and knees.

Answer 5

Something Specially
For You

I said a prayer for you today
And know God must have heard-
I felt the answer in my heart
Although He spoke no word!
I didn't ask for wealth or fame
(I knew you wouldn't mind)-
I asked Him to send you treasures
Of a far more lasting kind!
I asked that He'd be near you
At the start of each new day
To grant you health and blessings
And my friendship to share your way
I asked for happiness for you
In all things great and small-
But it was for His loving care
I prayed the most of all.

By: Kenny P. aka-Cobra

Answer 6

Yeah....... I know all about it. I think it has to do with them testing us ~~~~~ seeing how much we can put up with. See if we really are going to stay~~~ give them unconditional love. Maybe they are insecure.... hurt us before we do it to them..... Most men are afraid and don't know what to do with their " feelings". But a strong woman can deal with it and break open their shell. But ~~~ only if they have a true and sincere love. Games have no place in a honest and true relationship.

Answer 7

I wish , I could give you the answer your looking for ,but all men aren't like that ,I say find somebody else that will love you the way you love them.

Answer 8

that sounds like you never had your pick of the litter..maybe you need to try and sweep a guy off his feet..take the lead...maybe thats what the *right* guy is looking for.....

Answer 9

I hear you, I understand you, been there and all I can say is that is life. Not intended to sound mean, I guess that boys will be boys. I think it is breed in them to be controlling.

Answer 10

Sounds like you have dated the wrong kind of men. My husband is amazing and none of the above - so I can't relate.