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what are your beliefs about corporal punishment given in homes and school??do you think that it teach a kid something??

as far as i think you cannot make a kid behave untill the internal feeling of right and wrong devolops in his mind...i mean untill he himself not realise whats wrong and whats right..

well i have seen most of the parents beating the **** outta their kids in the name of dicipline and they say that if we wont beat them they wont know whats bad and whats good..And even those kids are whipped regularly still they dont realise whats good and whats bad What im saying is Its not a magic tool..

well forget what i think..

I JUST WANNA ASK YOU WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT THIS??ANY OPINION?

2006-11-03 02:26:22 · 10 answers · asked by cool k 2 in Social Science Psychology

10 answers

i believe its a punch of crap. There are better ways of treating your children, and more effective. Beating them is just gonna make them fear you. There are several learning theories that have proven to work. I strongly believe those are the best!

2006-11-03 02:36:11 · answer #1 · answered by Amber 2 · 0 1

It only teaches the child to be afraid of the authority figure. It can lead to anger, hatred and a complete lack of respect for all authority. Any form of punishment without communication is a bad idea. Corporal punishment can work as a way to modify behavior but it does nothing for healthy mental development and can only delay a child's true understanding of right and wrong.

A child needs to understand why it is unacceptable for them to have done what they did. Some parents/teachers either give up too soon or don't bother at all to try to help teach a child these things. They jump straight to the punishment and the child is left confused and frightened and has only learned that the punishment is bad, not the act they committed. Even sending a child to his/her room without a detailed explanation can be damaging.

All children learn at a different pace. It's a parent/teachers responsibility to understand what a child is capable of learning at any given time. If a child is getting older and does not seem to be grasping certain concepts then it may be time to seek out the help of a professional. Beating them into submission will only mask the problem.

Corporal punishment teaches a child to weigh right and wrong by using fear as the factor rather than an intellectual understanding of the issue. If you remove the object of their fear (the authority figure) you have a child that feels that it doesn't matter what they do because they have nothing to be afraid anymore and as long as they avoid authority figures, they can do whatever they want.

You're left with people that have been conditioned to believe that all authority exists only to hurt or punish and not to help them with their mistakes and they will be resentful of this. This type of upbringing can create teenagers and adults that feel that a crime is only "bad" if they get caught and there is no reason to obey any law unless an authority figure is watching over them.

2006-11-03 08:27:57 · answer #2 · answered by Pico 7 · 0 0

I think that children are going to learn at one anothers own pace. no kid is going to wake up one day and realize what right and wrong is.

Corporal punishment is a form of punishment that does just more than teach what is bad, it could lead to other things; children have been known to lash out at other kids, do bad at school and isolate and not express there feelings cause there not sure if they will be beatin because of it.

i think its ok to give your child a spanking, a timeout, no desert, or grounding by taking things that they love to play with away, but there is no straight reason that would justify beatin a little kid that can't defend themselves and if i ever saw a parent doing that then i would be the one doing the beatin and it wouldn't be on the child.......................... all and all children deserve to feel protected by their parents, they should be able to talk to them so that when someone wrong happens there is an open healthy relationship where they can be taught in a respectful manner.
good question though!

2006-11-03 02:45:05 · answer #3 · answered by kevin-g 2 · 0 0

Since this is in the psychology category I will answer based on psychological theory. Behaviorist do not support the use of punishment for several reasons. First, it doesn't stop the targeted behavior. For example if you are out shopping and your child throws a tantrum spanking him will not stop the behavior if anything it will make it worse. Second, it teaches the child that aggression is okay. Third, you are not teaching the child the appropriate behavior. Fourth, you are teaching the child to discriminate settings. Example, your child curses so you wash his mouth with soap. You have only taught your child to not curse around you. Finally, you will teach your child to fear you which can inhibit other learning. There are much better ways to discipline such as time out and removal of pleasurable stimuli. The best way to teach your children is through example and by praising appropriate behavior.

2006-11-03 04:11:51 · answer #4 · answered by Stacy 4 · 0 0

Beating a child senselessly, as I have experienced, is wicked and, it does not make the child any better. Children have to know above everything else that their parents or guardians love them in spite of what they do, even when the caregiver feels compelled to spank the child.

I still tell my 29 year old son that I love him and though I will not support any wrong doing on his part, I will never change my feeling toward him. It's a done deal!

Children have to be taught kindly and gently and thoughfully how to behave and always tell them why. They will ask questions because they are curious little beings and need to know things. That's is how they learn and grow and conceptualize. Talk to them even when it is the last thing you want to do. It's not hard. Love is not hard!

They will understand when they are taught. Knowledge brings understanding. That's a reality of life. When they understand, they will know what is expected of them and they will perform accordingly. They will not develop it in their minds just so, they have to be 'fed' in the same way you teach them to eat with a spoon and then with a knife and fork. Teach them! Teach them! Teach them! Then they will know!

2006-11-03 02:46:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

only as a last resort most kids have a good dose of common sense and do quite well given the opportunity to practice good behavior,however there are those 'throwbacks' that no matter what you do are gonna wind up on the wrong side.... I needed some strong discipline at times when as a kid and turn out ok, it's called playing it 'by ear' there are no perfect solutions

2006-11-03 02:43:39 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0 0

i think of that the punishment could desire to extra wholesome the crime, or the undesirable behaviour. If a new child does some thing to bodily injury somebody, then being bodily injury themselves provides them an thought of what they have executed to that individual, and it does it interior the main direct way of getting to grasp, it incredibly is thru journey. what's meted out to the new child shouldn't in any respect be extra severe than what that they had executed to the guy, nevertheless, and could continuously be defined why they are receiving the punishment (what they did incorrect and what they could desire to be getting to grasp from the punishment being given). So if a new child smacks somebody, then smacking them and telling them that they shouldn't try this returned using fact it is the way it feels, that shows they what they have inflicted upon somebody else. yet you shouldn't hit them harder than they hit that individual. and you shouldn't hit them if what they did wasn't actual, which incorporate mouthing off. All that does is prepare them that if somebody says some thing which you do in comparison to then it incredibly is okay to hit them. in case you like a sturdy occasion of this, then word very almost any women persons/female. you will word that they are going to hit a guy/boy in the event that they say some thing to them that they do in comparison to. considering the fact that maximum situations they don't get hit returned for this action of theirs, they experience no longer in basic terms that hitting the guy replaced into ok yet that they could do it many times returned with out recrimination.

2016-10-21 04:59:07 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

i think there is a huge difference between being violence which is beating the hell out of ur kid, and between corporeal punishment which id slight and can't hurt
this kind of punishment i use it when the kids touch things that could electrify them or like when they touch the stove (or gaz...) because when they r very young i can't explain to them the fact of electric circuit or that gaz can intoxicate them; so i just beat them on their hands (with my hand not with a heavy object) telling them not to touch this thing again or they will be beaten again
if they say a bad word i would never beat them, but when they could inflict permanent damage on themselves i do prefer to hurt them just a little for their safety

2006-11-03 02:47:29 · answer #8 · answered by mallouna 2 · 0 0

I think you're right. beating kids don't do nothing but building hate and negative thoughtsin the kid's mind. they might think that their parents do not like them. they miss the whole point (well, there is any). parents should try talking to their kids instead of mistreating them and abusing them physically.

2006-11-03 02:40:11 · answer #9 · answered by lizie 4 · 0 0

Bear with me a moment while I pick this apart.

2006-11-03 02:39:17 · answer #10 · answered by Lucianna 6 · 0 0

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