We been together for 4 years and for the most part he is a good guy. Latley though his mood swings are unbearable. Last night he got into a verbal dispute with his ex wife and her fiance over the kids he has with the ex. Anyways to make a long story short he comes home as Im cooking dinner and starts screaming and yelling and belittling me as if he was taking his argument out on me and he was doing this infront of my kids and his kids(his kids come over once a week and on the weekends great kids) Then he starts screaming at his 11 year old daughter and 7 year old son as if they were animals and of course made them cry.Everytime he has an issue with the ex and her fiance he treats everyone around him like crapp and I dont know how much more I can take. Does anyone have any advice on what I should do? Thank you
2006-11-03 02:21:35 · 16 answers · asked by onehotmama 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I forgot to mention he doesnt drink or do drugs
2006-11-03 02:26:37 · update #1
One more thing he isint mean to my kids but he gets real mean with his kids when he is in that state of mind and I dont like it one bit even though they arent my kids I love them as if they were
2006-11-03 02:28:09 · update #2
I also forgot my 2 kids arent his they are from a previous relationship I was in for 10 years that went bad (he left me and his kids for a pill poppin stripper)
2006-11-03 02:43:08 · update #3
Wait until he is calm and sit down and talk to him. Have the children write letters or draw pictures to express their feelings. He obviously has a huge problem and needs to address it quickly before he alienates all the people who he loves.If you could record him and play it back he could see just how much of an *** he is.
2006-11-03 02:30:03 · answer #1 · answered by rhonda y 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So long as it doesn't get physical, be there for him. That's the tough side of a relationship. Apparently he's going through some rough times right now and it's important that he vents a little. Better at home than in the streets where he may vent on the wrong person. It's called SUPPORT!
But if it turns physical, you and the kids are outta there! Okay???
2006-11-03 10:27:00 · answer #2 · answered by the_pharaoh109 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and have a talk with the boy. Find out what the probs are with ex and let him know you are willing to help and support him, but his behavior is affecting you and the kids.
P.S. Why aren't you guys married if you already have children together???
2006-11-03 10:28:41 · answer #3 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The word is THERAPY. Get some help dear, I mean this guy obviously has a problem. A problem he doesn't want to talk about. And the only way you can get your sweetheart back, is to go to the extremes to help him. Because that can terrorize your family once again.
2006-11-03 12:59:17 · answer #4 · answered by meamy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Protect your kids. You don't need to be in a relationship like that, I am not going to tell you to leave him because i know how hard it is when you love someone. You need to talk to him and ask him what is going on inside his head. what is making him blowup, it might not be his ex-wife that is causing him to react like that, he may be stressed at work and its all building up on him. You need to tell him that you are not his enemie you want to help him. maybe go see a dr.
2006-11-03 10:29:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie,
take him and sit down and talk and ask him why is it that he does that. let him know how you feel about it and why it hurts you. if ya cant come to an understanding then you need to give him an ultimatum because that is not healthy especially not to the kids.
wish you the best of luck.
2006-11-03 11:43:49 · answer #6 · answered by SHORTY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to go the counseling, regardless of him going. Hopefully he will go too, but if not... counseling will give you the tools to DEAL WITH THIS! You do not need this verbal abuse now... or EVER in your relationship! ESPECIALLY the kids! Try to 'get over it' with counseling... if not... get the next train outta town. A sad reality.
2006-11-03 10:27:25 · answer #7 · answered by cheesytoast 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to decide who is more important in your life, your boyfriend or your kids? Does he have a drinking problem? or maybe he just needs some anger management classes to learn how to re-direct his anger and trun it into something positive.
2006-11-03 10:25:30 · answer #8 · answered by chanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you and the kids are not punching bags. (just a metaphor!) And that if he needs to let off some steam, that he needs to go to the gym. And then I'm wondering...Why is he so mad with his ex? hmmmmmmmmmmmm! Have he truly let her go? He should not be that mad if he is happy with you! You and your man needs to talk!
2006-11-03 10:27:12 · answer #9 · answered by Child of God 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he's calm talk to him, tell him it upsets you and the children. Could he be persuaded to attend anger management classes? His behavior isn't acceptable and could escalate into something physical if not nipped in the bud.
2006-11-03 10:26:56 · answer #10 · answered by F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋