From the consistency of answers to my previous question (previous info below):
Is moving\changing from a close friendship into a relationship a big step/difference? Can the girl really be that afraid? Would she tell you that is her main concern? If so, will you always just remain friends or will it gradually change over time?
When do you know if you’re ready for a relationship?(both in early twenties)What is the difference, if you technically act like a couple already? Is it only the physical aspect?(kissing/sex/holding hands).
Anything I can\should do? She DON’t like speaking about it…. Leave it as it is?
Am really a dumbarse in this area!!
2006-11-03 02:07:42 · 13 answers · asked by sircrazydude90 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
OTHER INFO:Might be useful....
When I mention the topic of commitment\feelings and relationships with my close female friend she changes the topic and won't speak about it,even though I'm not referring to 'us'.I only ask for her views,she goes quiet.WHY won’t she talk about this with me???
Recently she thought that I started dating a girl and she practically ignored me for a week and contact is still on-off,not like it used to be.Was this jealousy or just a coincidence?My behaviour HAS NOT changed towards her and I'm not actually dating anyone.I was told she is happy for me, if so,why wouldn’t she ask about this girl,seeing she’s a good mate?
Also when I joked she had a new boyfriend she shouted down the phone "what f**king boyfriend! There’s no one, I wish I had one,f**king hell".Why'd she get so angry?
Am to meet her this wkn,she said no serious conversations(referring to relationships\commitment\feeli... I believe),I asked her why and she’s gone quiet on me since.WHY?
2006-11-03 02:08:20 · update #1
OTHER INFO:Might be useful....
I keep going out with my close female friend,(in touch practically everyday) we go to dinner, lunch together and for drinks in the evening. We also take roadtrips together to the coast and to the country for walks, usually followed by dinner and its just the 2 of us. While we're out we flirt, tell each other everything, feel very comfortable with each other, sort of act as a couple....
I've noticed that she does not like it when I mention other girls that have caught my eye, she changes the subject ASAP. When I mention if she's interested in anyone, the answer is always no,she hasn't pulled anyone when out,etc...we kissed once after 1 night out(a few months bck,very passionate) but nothing since (wud remain only friends),we just keep meeting up,in constant touch etc
2006-11-03 02:09:06 · update #2
She don't want to talk about it, what can I do if she won't speak to me?It's like she's pushing me away.At this rate the friendship will be getting damaged. How can I ask her to go on a date?we already go out alone!She knows how I feel about her,I'd be surprised if she didn't.How would I tell her?
Any other explanations?
2006-11-03 02:09:33 · update #3
ok speaking as someone who has very nearly wrecked a relationship by not telling my fears to my lovely fella, i can tell you she probably is scared. she's probably been hurt badly in the past and is having trouble telling you, most ppl use info like that to get at them, sad but true, not saying your like that but she needs to trust you 110% before she can open up to you. take it slowly and dont pressure her, tell her how YOU feel, about everything, her, life in general, be completely open to her so she starts to feel safe in doing the same. dont give up hope.
2006-11-03 07:09:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, either she's not ready or she's afraid. Most likely she is afraid. Most girls will go through this when it comes to 'commitment' with a guy friend, specially if you two are really good friends. She probably is afraid that if you guys go out, you will break up and it will end your friendship. I've gone through this many times. You just gotta let her know that you care and always will, no matter what the outcome. If she wont listen then try to write it out to her. Maybe a letter, [reccomend letter over email, it shows that you care enought o physically write it out] Tell her how you feel and how it won't affect your friendship. Just be truthfull to her.
Or maybe she is jsut waiting for the first move. I know with me, I don't like guys to ask "can I kiss you?" cause it ruins the mood. If you think she wants it [since you guys have already kissed] just try, BUT ONLY if you know she will be okay with it. Don't take the chance if you think she will be upset. If the mood is right, maybe just a quick kiss...But remember, ONLY if you think she wants it.
2006-11-03 02:15:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this girl maybe is jealous of other girls that you want to date it could be number of reasons she wants you for herself or if you meet someone new she gets left out.
sorry your question is so long and is kinda mixed up !!!
you have a best friend who you want to date but she wont let you talk about it but hates you mentioning other girls ??
when you are out alone again ask if you could become more than mate just ask outright tell her you she has been your freind for a while now and all you can do is think about her can we try it out.
bring her flowers to let her see at the start you are being different.
2006-11-03 02:12:20 · answer #3 · answered by Nutty Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 08:14:27 · answer #4 · answered by liguori 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obviously views you as just agood friend maybe even like a brother. I was in this situation before and eventually i became so uncomfortable with him wanting to change the relationship from just friends to more than that I had to quit talking to him. If you really care about this girl and value herFRIENDSHIP don't mess it up, find another girl if you need a romantic relationship.
2006-11-03 02:12:31 · answer #5 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might not feel the same toward you as you do her. If you value your friendship, maybe you should take a few steps back and not be too pushy about it. You don't want to scare her off, do you?
2006-11-03 02:12:34 · answer #6 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try and discuss anymore with her, make a move and she will either respond or not but at least you will have your answer.
Best Of Luck.
2006-11-03 04:53:00 · answer #7 · answered by fluffy bunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she has feelings for you? jealousy of other girls for a start is a sure hint!!
2006-11-03 05:35:02 · answer #8 · answered by olivia_kayla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry, didnt read all of that , but my advice is leave it as it is, it sounds confused enough already babes,
find someone who isnt going to mess your head up!
2006-11-03 02:13:08 · answer #9 · answered by kt_sub2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not surprised you're confused...
I'm confused just reading your question!
What was it you wanted to know again?
2006-11-03 02:15:08 · answer #10 · answered by Bored at work 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋