its been two yrs. since hes been divorced and she has a boyfriend but any time she has a fight with her new one she calls work or cell just to b---- at him. im getiing tired fo it he ends up hanging up because he cant get a word in edge wise. they have children the last one bieng 19 they really need to get along, i know she still loves him but its over how can we get her to just talk instead of bieng bitter and nasty?
2006-11-03 02:03:08 · 9 answers · asked by kimberly d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's not her therapist, he needs to put a stop to her calling him when things aren't going her way.
2006-11-03 02:08:23 · answer #1 · answered by Backwoods Barbie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-21 04:57:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A) As hard as it may be, let your man deal with her. She is his ex wife, not yours. In the long run, both he and their children will respect you for it.
B) He can't make her be any more or any less bitter/nasty etc. If he was able to accomplish that, I doubt they would be divorced in the first place. She (the ex) will have to come to those terms on her own. You can't force anyone to feel/act in any way.
With this said --- What YOU both can control is how you each react to her. Do not argue with her, or allow her to control or manipulate your feelings. This only allows her more control, and encourages her negative behavior.
Its not as much "how to get her to stop" but more so "how we refuse to react or give her attention for her negative behaviors."
The children will be able to pick up on this as well, and learn better ways for handling problems throughout life.
You have my empathy -- I hope your situation gets better! =)
2006-11-03 02:12:30 · answer #3 · answered by ~Untold Wisdom~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait now... are you sure you're not talking about MY ex? I can't count how often this has happened to me as well! I finally put a stop to it by politely telling her that I'm not interested in hearing what happens between her and her boyfriend. It's really none of my business. We're not "friends" we're exs! There is a difference. We can be civil and cordial with each other, but there's no reason at all that we would ever need to share intimate details of our own personal relationships.
2006-11-03 02:12:49 · answer #4 · answered by loving father 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Her new personal life is her own problem. He has to set some ground rules. He needs to tell her that he will discuss anything pertaining to the kids, but that is it. I had been married 15 years and divorced for almost 4 and it has worked out good for me that way. He will need to be forceful and hang up everytime the converstion veers towards her personal life.
2006-11-03 02:07:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You cant its not going to happen. My husbands Ex-GF is the same way. We had to change everything (phone numbers, residence, he even dropped the friends they had together and none of it helped. I thank God they dont have kids together. Get a restraining order is what i have been told that is the only advice i can give you
2006-11-03 02:12:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can't. That's the added bonus that you get when you hook up with a man that was married.
All you can do is keep the conversations short and to the point.
2006-11-03 02:05:50 · answer #7 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
DONT DEAL WITH UR EX!! UNLESS U GOT A CHILD BY THA PERSON THEN YEAH U HAVE TO DEAL WITH THEM FOR UR CHILD BUT IF U HAVE NO CHILD BY THIS PERSON THEN GO ON WITH UR LIFE AND MOVE ON!!! DONT TRY TO BE NO FRIEND , BUDDY, ECT. NONE OF THAT BECAUSE TO ME I THINK IT WONT WORK....IF YALL CANT B TOGETHER ROMANTICALLY THEN Y TRY TO B FRIENDLY?? YALL MUST NOT SUPPOSED TO B WIT EACH OTHER.....
2006-11-03 02:12:21 · answer #8 · answered by *STAY ON MY GROWN WOMAN* 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her to see a shrink.
2006-11-03 02:08:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋