2006-11-03 02:01:44 · 20 answers · asked by Misty H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You cannot stop him if he does so stop worrying and live your life!
2006-11-03 02:04:13 · answer #1 · answered by Lt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the fact that you have this fear means it came from some reason to have the fear in the first place. If she/he has given you this reason in the past... the feeling may never go away -and rightfully so. However, there may also be no reason but your own paranoia...
Spouses should not really have secrets from eachother. If there are times she/he's off/out and you don't know where/why... this is not good practice for a relationship, and it will naturally pose insecurities. If you have nothing to hide from eachother (and she/he is totally open and honest to you about what she/he's doing - same as you) then you shouldn't, and probably won't again, have that fear. And this isn't a poor trust issue, it's simple RESPECT to the spouse and relationship to tell eachother what you're doing at all times. Not saying you can't be without eachother - just communicate what you are doing when you're not together.
If the two of you DO communicate, but still have a funny feeling or think there's lying going on... well then....
If you cannot stop your fears, you can only be sure to be in a relationship that will not pose such fears onto you. After all, people fear things for a reason. It's usually yourself trying to tell you something..... ... ..
2006-11-03 02:26:02 · answer #2 · answered by TrendChick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i htink its normal to have some jealusy but if you really really really thing your spouse is cheating then they are. but you have to learn to differenciate jealusy and that feeling. but dont comfront them until you have some hard evadince becuase it just makes it worse. if you really love this person its harder but if its real then they arent cheating now if they cheated before then your just nervous that they will again.. i just say stop thinkin about it let them do there thing but keep an eye out for suspicious things..
2006-11-03 02:16:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't. There will always be things which will cause you think he's having an affair. You just have to live with this fear.
2006-11-03 02:04:27 · answer #4 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always expect the worst from your partner, so if somthing goes wrong you wount hurt that bad. Dont worry about the cheating if it happens worry about it then. and live life at its fulllllest.
2006-11-03 02:37:39 · answer #5 · answered by chinoko 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he/she has cheated before then u wont get over it because they will do it again. but if they have been faithful to you then u need to put a little trust into him/her. are u pleasing her/him in the bedroom and outside.?
2006-11-03 02:05:55 · answer #6 · answered by me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any evidence that he or she is cheating? If not, don't let your fears ruin a good marriage!
2006-11-03 02:07:12 · answer #7 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The trouble is not with your husband it's with you. You probably have massive insecurities which are causing your fear. If you don't deal with your insecurities they'll takeover your life.
2006-11-03 02:16:25 · answer #8 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Embrace the fear and confront it.
2006-11-03 02:04:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she does she does nothing can do about it so trust her and love her and make sure it not your fault that she does cheat .p.s dont be with her 24 /7
2006-11-03 02:10:48 · answer #10 · answered by thomas a 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like a trust issue. maybe you should talk to him about how you feel and then, based on his response, make a decision on what to do.
2006-11-03 02:05:40 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋