Have you ever had a boy who was bad for you and you knew it, but he just had this power over you that kept you coming helplessly back for more? I know I'm not alone here - so many of us girls have been through it!
I thought I was immune - I've always been very strong and dominant - the Queen B*tch my friends have always called me ;)... but now I'm with a guy who I know is a bastard, but whenever he looks into my eyes or strokes my hair I melt like a schoolgirl...he just knows how manipulate me, to push my buttons, to make me do anything. I can't resist. How do these guys do this to us, and how do we break their spell?
2006-11-03 01:47:15 · 12 answers · asked by Amazon Karen 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
In some ways you've just answered your own question. Women have to be alot stronger in these areas because then it only says that we'll fall for anything and that's a lie. I've been through this but it took alot for me to stand firm for myself and to know what's important to me and my heart. If you had a daughter how would you communicate it to her? Be happy with yourself and your life and make decisions that will make your life more positive and enjoyable. NEVER settle for less because you are worth so much more.
2006-11-03 06:32:01 · answer #1 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
poor you - i have been there also - still am kinda - your best bet is to just tell him it's not working out between the 2 of you - that's what i did when he disappeared on me one too many times, but then always came running back after a few weeks - i could not take the roller coaster & then under no circumstances should you contact him. so many times i was so tempted to call him, text him or email him, but i stuck to my guns. when you tell him it's over and when you cut out all communication you have taken back the control, which is an important thing. my guy still contacts me, but i refuse to see him cause i know i will fall under his spell again - i do talk to him now & then, but have let him know that i am involved with another guy (kinda true). you know he's no good for you - do not continue the relationship - consider him a stepping stone to the real thing - get back your self-respect. he only manipulates you because he knows he can. be strong & focus on all the negative things about him when you are feeling weak. it's the only way to "break the spell".
2006-11-03 15:07:36 · answer #2 · answered by livetall1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the worse boyfriend and it was a "process" to get rid of him because he made feel guilty that if I let him go, he would not have a place to live.
It helped to date other guys and I eventually had to move and change my number because he was persistent and it was scary!
I am so happy now, I have the perfect boyfriend and I can't see why I wasted my time with such a loser. I can only assume it was pity.
Move on girl!
2006-11-03 14:10:19 · answer #3 · answered by Myra G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl we have all been there. It is the power of the "bad boy syndrome". It always seems to get us in trouble. You know he isn't good for you - but you can't say no to him. As long as you realize you have no future with this guy, it can be fun for a while. However, it is extremely hard not to get your heart involved. It is pretty safe for me to say - You will probably get hurt by this person. You will have great memories but you will get hurt. The good news is pretty soon your logical side takes over after the infatuation fades and you will decide to cut all ties.
2006-11-03 13:34:32 · answer #4 · answered by Stiletto ♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This boy is a manipulator. He knows that if he touches you and caresses you you will melt. Because some where inside you you think he must really love me to touch me like this.
Hun for him its a game, truth he is playing you. A real man will never try to push your buttons. Believe me he does this to all the girls. He's a vampire sucking your energy. Time to back off. Don't allow him to swoon you away from your feelings.
Definition of *********.= BABE IN TOTAL CONTROL of HERSELF.
2006-11-03 12:57:20 · answer #5 · answered by Tracey K 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people fall in love. He is giving you something you need. Personality types (queen *****) don't really matter when you fall for someone. Everything ends up boiling down to the human basics. Emotions and the inner instinct to reproduce.
So anyway, just enjoy it. Why fight something that makes you feel so good?
2006-11-04 20:00:30 · answer #6 · answered by mynickname 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The time always comes for things to even themselves out...
If you feel that you have always been a *****... He is your penance.
He isn't doing anything to you that you don't somehow feel that you deserve. and we all somewhat enjoy cleaning our slates and evening up our score cards.
It's all a game hon and we pick and chose our drama in the form of lovers and life in general. You will either allow him to do what he does and be what he is TO you or you will eventually get tired of it and put him in his place in turn and it will at that time be only because he felt he too deserved it.
"All the world's a stage and all the men and women players."
The word came from somewhere... it is not street slang so much as it is a timeless truth.
Good luck to you! I hope that both of you think highly enough of yourselves, so as not to allow it to destroy either of you in the end. No one, no matter what they say or do deserves that. It took me, (an otherwise strong and secure person.) 8 years in hell with a man I only thought I loved to know where of I speak...
"We teach people how to treat us." Lou Tice
2006-11-03 13:47:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
spells were went to break, he has the gift, and knows how to use it, if you don't get away from that, Girl, your life will wast away as long as your with him.
Just call him and tell him to move on. And then you move on.
If your together, Girl, pack him up and move him 0UT and don't let him embrace your life, you have to embrace your life,
Only you have the power to brake it.
True love has no spells, or games.
2006-11-03 12:29:14 · answer #8 · answered by Faith Walker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean. I dont want to spill all of this out for the world to see, so if you want to e-mail me or IM me, we can talk. I have bee through this multiple times.
2006-11-03 09:57:33 · answer #9 · answered by Brittney 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its women's nature, girls don't like "wussy" guys that kiss as* and are needy, even if they adore those needy and/or desperate guys as friends and love them as buddies (even if they're real kind)
2006-11-03 16:34:27 · answer #10 · answered by S--slick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋