I am happy to look after the kids if you want to have a career ?

Question

I have thought about this and the way things are going in the world. Women for some unknown reason want to be out of the house and working. Well I am more than happy to wake up, make her lunch. Drop the kids at school take the dogs for a walk, do the washing, have a spot of lunch with friends, take the horse out for an afternoon ride, pick up the kids, do a bit of shopping, look through jamie olivers cook book and chose something nice for dinner and get that ready for when she comes home.

How many women actually want this ? Or do you still believe in sexism if it suits you ?

My parents were around when I was little and I think it is a horrible idea that both parents should be at work.

Both my parents were self employed, Photographer and Illustrator.

Why let someone else bring up your children ?

And there is no way that I would get a part time job !!!!

To clear things up I am not married yet. But would be happy to do all of the above and more.
Dont see what all the big deal is!!! Plus I wouldnt have to do the cleaning as i would have a cleaner/house keeper for that anyway.

Answer 1

I like the idea myself. My husband and I both work full time, we've been married a year. We don't have kids but he's told me he wishes I made all the money and he could just stay at home. He's a pastry chef so he'd love to do cakes out of the house, and he would make dinner every night too. I know if we did have children, he would love being home with them all day while I was out working. Society will deem it backward, just because for decades it's been believed the man to be the bread-winner, but I feel whatever works best for the couple is the way to go.

Answer 2

I agree with you.

I'm an independent woman, have been to University and got a good education...I'm not in my dream career at the moment, but am working....but....

If I was married and had kids I would happily play the little housewife and look after the kids, clean, cook dinner etc etc. I think there would be more satisfaction in creating a nice home and having a good relationship with husband and kids, than gaining a good career.

I want to join the Police eventually...but I would be prepared to turn down promotion etc for the sake of raising a family properly. Depending on how much money my husband earnt...I would work part time or occasional work if necessary.

Answer 3

I believe that one parent should stay home and look after the children, at least until they are old enough to go to school then they should take a part time job that allows them to be there to take and collect the children from school. i believe this is what children need for a stable up bringing. i don't think it matters whether its the mum or the dad that stays home. The most sensible way to decide this (rather than gender) would be who is earning the most money at the time. The person who is earning the most, should obviously be the one that goes to work. However, in reality, I most people cannot afford to give up work in such a way and unfortunately both parents do end up going out to work.

Answer 4

I'd love to stay home, but I wouldnt be too lazy to clean the house either. My husband and I cannot afford for one of us not to work so that will most likely be out of the question for us. It's not possible for everyone. If it is, and its agreeable then I totally understand. However, if I supported my husband (which I wouldnt have a problem with) I'd pissed that I worked all day and he was paying someone to clean the house.

Answer 5

If your wife can have a career that would allow you to keep a horse, and have a maid do most of the ground in chores around the house...HEY GO FOR IT!

My husband's wage is 3 fold what I can earn, so for me to be employed is just stupid. I miss work, and the respect. Men tend to get 3 fold respect for being a house husband, because he's breaking stereotype barriers. Women get -3 fold respect, because we are not doing anything to contribute.

So, honestly... If I could earn what my husband earns, and if he could do what I do as well as I can, then HECK YEAH!

Answer 6

I really think woman don't know what they want at first. Most woman just want what work best for the family and of course children. If one of the parents is willing to stay home full time and you can afford it then that is great. I don't really think it matters which parent does that whatever works best for the family. I'm not sure if you are already doing this or not or this is just a question you have for the future. Just remember at first staying at home with babies (before school age) is sooooo hard and soooo much work. It really is, and it takes a team to make it work!!

Answer 7

Nice wish we were rich enough to have a horse and go shopping everyday. I do all the this you mentioned about taking care of the kids and house work and I work full time. Not saying I'm poor but our purchases have to be planned out and budgeted. I sure hope you or you're wife are not griping. You seem to have a cushy life.

Answer 8

Wow, you make that seem really easy and fun. You need to wake up. A woman who stays home with children is NEVER finished with her day. They work their butts off cleaning, cooking, running errands, etc.. I doubt they have time to play with the horse and walk the dog much, let alone look through cookbooks and shop. Get a grip guy!

Answer 9

I stayed home with my first two children, and I've worked at home during this last pregnancy so I can stay home with my baby who is due in Dec.

In my opinion, at least one parent should stay home to care for the children. It's a big responsibility and a lot of hard work. It takes the support of your spouse to be able to stay home with the kids.

Most of the women I associate with want to stay home with their children, but some aren't able to due to a husband who doesn't want them to or who doesn't make enough money to support his family.

My husband and I have sacrificed a lot so I can stay home. We have one car, we don't take long vacations anymore, and we clip coupons.

Answer 10

None that are stable that I have met want a "Kept man" (and "kept man" is a bit of a contradiction in terms IMHO).

Don't buy into the hype. You need to be a confident (not arrogant), flexible giver and a gentleman if you ever hope to meet Ms. Right. And then you need to be smart enough to recognize her when you meet her.