2006-11-03 01:33:57 · 13 answers · asked by hyiik 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Other - Holidays
In time you will care again. Your still at the stage where memories of your mom at holiday time hurt. But eventually you will be able to remember and enjoy the holidays again. I am speaking from experience because my only child died 8 years ago, and it took about 4 years for me to be able to enjoy holidays again. I am so sorry about your mom, grief is a brutal thing to go through. You can't go over, around or under it, you can only go through it.
2006-11-03 01:39:57 · answer #1 · answered by my2cents 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will always be sad and miss your mom. The only thing that time does is dull the pain some. 10 years from now you will have new memories and smile more but still miss your mom.
I'm sorry I don't have better news for you. I lost my grandparents 20 years ago when I was a teenager (I was so very close to them). I still miss them and think about them during the season. I cry less today and the hurt only comes up occassionally not every day. I can imagine losing your mom would be similar if not worse. The other thing that time brought me was the ability to remember them and be thankful for the time we did have together.
Try to remember some happy memories with your mom and know that it will get better with each year.
2006-11-03 09:59:25 · answer #2 · answered by Holly O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my Mom 10 years ago. I still miss her. Its very hard the first time around without your loved ones. Though, the pain does subside. You'll always have your memories & you can continue to keep the traditions you shared with her.
You may feel like skipping a year or two, but try to think how she'd like you to carry on. Volunteering to help others at a shelter or with a food drive can occupy your time. You'll feel better helping others & a change of events can help.
When you feel you're ready, you should go back to your traditions. You can tell stories of past times together, look through old pictures & don't forget to make new memories.
My heart goes out to you.
2006-11-03 16:20:30 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry my heart goes out to you!
You can do somethings your mom loved to do - I bet she was a great cook - Make her favorites to keep her there with you, I don't think she would want you to be unhappy ever. Start your own traditions to keep moms memory alive. God Bless and I hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving and Christmas - your mom is with you always!!
2006-11-03 10:26:09 · answer #4 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is pretty common. My wife and I have the same problem - a lot of our family actually died at the holidays and it makes them very grim. However, with time that feeling passes a little. It's hard to celebrate a family holiday when you remember the joy your mom brought to event. However, I'm sure she would want you to celebrate her life and enjoy yourself.
2006-11-03 09:37:50 · answer #5 · answered by texascrazyhorse 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes but it is hard. I lost my wife 7 years ago and the hurt is still there especially around the Holidays. Time passes and the hurt eases to an ache but if it wasn't for the girlfriend I have now I would really be sad. Please do not worry as there will be better times ahead.
2006-11-03 13:49:54 · answer #6 · answered by Marvin R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother was obviously a huge part of your holiday celebrations...and her passing makes it feel like she took those joyful holidays with her, I'm sure...
I don't know if they'll ever be the same but I'm almost certain (being a mother myself) that your mother would truly want to know that you're keeping these holidays as precious as they must have been to her.....
Keep her traditions with those memories and share them with others.... Smile for her....
I hope your fond memories of her are many and that your heart can learn to celebrate those memories during these special holidays you two would share.....
Peace to you.....
2006-11-03 10:19:18 · answer #7 · answered by ~Me~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is actually your friend on that one. Yes, it will get easier, but it will never be the same. To me, the cruelest thing about losing someone you love is that life goes on. It simply goes on. Best wishes to you and Happy Holidays! Very sorry about your Mom.
2006-11-03 09:38:25 · answer #8 · answered by Char 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom died the day after Christmas. I try to take something to a nursing home and give it to someone who rarely has visitors and never gets gifts to honor my mother. Try it it will help ou through this painful time and also help someone else's mother or dad.
2006-11-03 13:26:25 · answer #9 · answered by DRAGON LADY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i felt the same when my grandfather died cos we were so close but yeh it does change mind you i still dont care about christmas i think its over rated cos noone understands the true meaning of the day anymore anyway
2006-11-03 09:36:26 · answer #10 · answered by mustang_rws 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋