Do you think we put too much pressure on men to buy gifts? Why or why not?
2006-11-03 01:27:02 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think some of the women don't want to look like "golddiggers". Expecting a gift is not 'golddigging'. I just thought since this was pretty anonnymus, ya'll could be honest. Some seem honest, others look like they are trying to explain to themselves why they shouldn't expect.
2006-11-03 01:50:52 · update #1
John, I said this is for the women. You should have answered the MEN'S question. Sorry, but you can't get 10pts on this one. Try answering my previous question.
2006-11-03 02:05:47 · update #2
Well I don't, I feel if he can't give you a gift to be generous, I wouldn't force it on him, cause then the only reason he's buying it because you getting on his nerves about it. If he don't care enought to buy me a gift from his herat I don't want it.
2006-11-03 01:37:10 · answer #1 · answered by babycakes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now .. the other side.
Yes some men I have spoken with in the passed are in a panic mode ... at times they don't know what to buy, how much to spent...
Help 'em out ladies...... leave little notes around with things I'd really like ... written on the top ... buy the guy a gift buyers map.....
In reality ... small gifts & flowers should just be a way for a couple (yes you ladys too) to send the "I'm thinking about you" message ..... It should be a way to say you care ... not a competition over who gets the biggest & shinniest widget!
Teach the man..... work on your programming skills.....
2006-11-03 10:02:53 · answer #2 · answered by John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! Absolutely. With all the comercializing of holidays, especially bogus ones like Sweetest Day, even Valentine's Day. Think about it. The price of flowers, roses specifically triples. Candy, cards, it is balogna. I don't care if I get a gift. I would rather we stay in bed and snuggle or treat it like another day.
I don't believe in buying just because it is a so-called holiday!
I want something from the heart when HE feels he wants to buy it. There is more gratification in buying someone something or making someone something, when they don't expect it.
2006-11-03 09:34:27 · answer #3 · answered by Tracey H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can't speak for all women, but I am guessing most women are just like me.....we aren't as materialistic as men think we are. I would rather just be loved and appreciated for all I do. It is nice to be remembered on holidays, but not necessary. Taking me out to dinner for my birthday is nice, but I do not need an expensive gift. In all honesty, I like getting cards from my man best because he is usually not a "sensitive romantic" type and he always writes something tender to me in all the cards he gives me. I have saved every single one he has ever given me. Thats what I like best as a "gift" from my man.
2006-11-03 09:43:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, what's a golddigger anyway??? Because a woman wants things in life doesn't mean that she's a golddigger. How many people out here, whether male or female would tell their daughter - Go out and marry a poor person! Please! Excuse me, a "wealth challenged" person.
If a man is willing to give, more power to him. Men aren't out here deliberatly looking for a poor woman to marry!
Hope this helps.
2006-11-03 10:21:50 · answer #5 · answered by Charlotte C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I get gift from my husband just because. There is no pressure or demands, he likes doing things for me. And he knows he gets a lot of brownie points when he do so.
2006-11-03 10:05:41 · answer #6 · answered by freakaristic20032000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, unless you specifically ask for one. My ex used to always buy me gifts, most of which i didnt want or like. I used to tell him that it made me feel like he could 'buy' me with gifts and show off to everyone around that he could afford to do it, when all i really wanted was for him to have been a good husband (soon to be ex i will add again) to me.
2006-11-03 09:52:45 · answer #7 · answered by Need_to_know 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't ask for any - he just gets them. He had to bug the heck out of me for my Christmas list. If you ask and ask for gifts I would wonder why you (hypothetically speaking) were really in the relationship - love or material items?
2006-11-03 09:32:02 · answer #8 · answered by Carey L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This really depends on the person. Cuz i was never one for material things as long as I have love and i know I am cared about. So I say no
2006-11-03 09:30:24 · answer #9 · answered by nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a guy really likes you, he'll want to get you a gift for whatever occasion it is. I would bring this conversation up to him. If he's diggin you, he'll be willing to get you something. If his birthday is first, I wouldn't get him a gift. I don't like to get burned.
2006-11-03 09:31:23 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋