Can I put a restraining order on the kids that harass my child during school?

Question

My child everyday at school is harassed at school by the same to boys everyday. Mind you the 2 boys are 18. I've talked to the school and teacher during the period this happenes and nothing is being done. Even while I was with my child at the mall, the same 2 boys where there making fun of him right in font of me. is it possible to put a restraining order on them. How would this work since they are in the same class as my son. I would not like him to change classes i would want the 2 of them 2..

thanks!
cathy

Answer 1

I do feel badly for your son, but people are allowed to make fun of other people. Personally I think that people who taunt others are despicable, but there isn't exactly a law against it.

How to handle such situations is a life skill that needs to be learned by your son. He won't always be in a controlled setting such as a school where to a certain extent behavior is regulated. Simply put, he needs to learn how to handle himself because he alone has the ability to control how he allows himself to be treated.

In a controlled setting such as a school it is certainly possible to try and restrict such behavior, but realistically there is no way to enforce the restrictions 100% unless you are dealing with really small children.

A lot depends on exactly what these boys are doing or saying to your son. If it has become physical, I wouldn't hesitate for a second to get the police involved. Absolutely no one has to put up with that.

If they are just plain making fun of him (his haircut, clothes, abilities, etc) then your son needs to learn an effective way to deal with it. That could range anywhere from simply becoming tougher emotionally to actually confronting the boys who are harassing him.

You didn't mention your son's take on all of this. Does he find it simply annoying? Hurtful? Embarassing? Could he care less? What is his body language like? Is he confident? Does he have low self-esteem?

Answer 2

Well you can, but you don't have anything to use for the restraining order. It takes more then a bully to get a restraining order, has he hurt your kid? Yeah hes 18, so he should know when to be quiet, when to tell the kid to shut the f - up, and when to knock him one(off school grounds ofcourse)
Hey the teachers arent doing anything, so if your kid takes it into his own hands off of school property they can't blame you, but you can blame them.
I use to be bullied a lot. Just because I preferred to be quiet and alone. So what? I didn't care what people thought...but on many occasions I'd run into the idiots outside of school, and suddenly come the next school day we are both in the principals office. Why? Because I guess he told his mommy I picked a fight.
Your son has to walk like a man, it is time for him to really show these guys or anybody that he isn't going to let them get pushed around.
There is a middle way, you can demand him to switch classes, if it is such a problem then he should. But otherwise it wont be long until your kid leaves school anyways, so is it really worth it?
Your boy is now a man, and just like in prison - he has to draw a line, otherwise everybody will pick on him.

Answer 3

In this post Columbine world I think you can probably force the school to take more action. But a restraining on the bullies per se, no that can't happen.

The Bullies do have a legal right to be at the school so enforcing a restraining order would be impossible and thus point less.

But again I say that you may be able to take some kind of legal action against the school. It is their duty to protect your son, they know that he is being bullied and they know that bulling in this day and age can have horrible consequences. It seems more reasonable to move those two boys classes than to take a stand of "Oh let's just wait and see what happens."

Answer 4

You can't put a restraining order but you can put pressure on the school. Your son should really defend himself, but when you are talking about 2 people and not 1, it makes that difficult.

Hire a lawyer. Go to lawyers.com and find one. You can sue the school for failure to protect your child. On that website above, you will also be able to find state laws when it comes to education and the protection of your child. If you go to any law library in your area (public libraries sometimes have one and community colleges definitely have one) you can find actual statutes and information that can help you with this matter.

You don't know how agravating it's going to be if you take the two boys to school b/c then all their friends will start to pick on your son. But if you sue the school, they might expel those two kids and relieve your son of any future harrassment.

Another suggestion, call the local newstation. They have those help me reporters, that will investigate for you. They will even come into the school and put heat on the school officials. This is free.

If you find that noone can help you, change your son's school. It will be easier on him in the long run.

Good luck.

Answer 5

There is a lot of concern about bullying these days. You need to have him discuss this with his guidance counselor or some authority figure at the school. They will do something about it.

Since the bullies are 18, you may have some legal recourse against them, but beware the lesson you are teaching your son. If he doesn't learn to stick up for himself, he'll never survive in the real world.

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Answer 6

take it to your child school administrator if that don't work and something happen to your child sue the hell out of them . but there are rules at public schools about bullies so follow up on it .