I am currently dating someone, who constantly does not keep thier word. I mean its about the simple things, like calling me back or even keeping a date as planned. And they always have a excuse for it. I mean I live by the saying of "excuses are tools of incompetence and those who specialize in using them seldom accmplish anything" So should i trust that these excuses are valid or should i just down grade the relationship.
2006-11-03 00:31:42 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If u have addressed this with them and made it clear this type of behaior is not accepatable to you and they continue to do it they don't respect you. Once knowing this only you can decide if that means you should or should not stop dating them.
2006-11-03 05:15:30 · answer #1 · answered by Tony 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We have generally abandoned the "my word is my bond" thing long ago. Life is too complex. Language is too imprecise as commonly used. I would bet that there are moments of flexibility in your life when you intended to go somewhere and be there at a certain time when something else came up. It could have been a traffic detour that you had no control over. It could have been the relative weighting of something that had to be done first.
People who plan, say, a building construction build a critical path to plan out what is going on. But they don't carve it in stone that on Tuesday the windows will be delivered and on Wednesday they all will be installed. They expect it to happen, but they also expect that other things happen, the delivery truck was in a wreck, a bigger contract like with the government or a larger company required the installation crew to be elsewhere for a previously contracted emergency job.
If you want to live in a rigid world of your word like your great-great grandparents, fine. It could get needlessly lonely sometimes though, because most of our culture doesn't and often can't if they even wanted to. Sorry.
2006-11-03 02:13:38 · answer #2 · answered by Rabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knowing that it bothers you and they STILL continue to do it, means that they don't really give a damn about you. If they did they would stop doing it or at the very least make an effort to stop. You are not asking for much. One or two excuses might be valid, but not all of them! DOWNGRADE!
2006-11-03 05:28:21 · answer #3 · answered by pinkrosegreeneyes bluerose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we have to stand up for something we feel deeply about, and from the sounds of it, you have a relationship with someone who does not believe in keeping their word, so it really depends on how much you want to remain with this person, You need to communicate with your mate and just explain it to them that you are sick of this situation, if they can not keep a promise do not make them, I will not say just walk away from them because I do not know you all and only you can tell if this person is worth keeping, follow your heart not the words of people who do not know you to understand what it is you are going through
You just make up your mind and follow through with whatever it is you want to do, make this person sit down and hear you and how this is bothering you okay..........Good Luck...........................
2006-11-03 01:03:40 · answer #4 · answered by Lil Angel 68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try communicating, telling the person how you feel without being a nag. I'll use myself as an example normally I am an organised, punctual person, but when I met my partner he knocked me for six! (Not literally, I hasten to add) My head was in the clouds, like totally!!" It was only when it was pointed out to me, that I realised how this could be perceived by others! Hope this helps and good luck!
2006-11-03 00:39:52 · answer #5 · answered by waggy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not the first thing on their mind, it will never change. If this isn't how you want to be treated, get out now, before you become further entrenched or even obsessed. Some people like to use you as a yo-yo. And if you let them, they'll continue to do it. Trust me, I've been there.
2006-11-03 00:50:34 · answer #6 · answered by charleston chew 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump Them
now before you get to involved in a relationship with them. Sounds as if they are making excuses to not be truthful with you and if theres no truth or trust there will "never" be a happy relationship
2006-11-03 00:41:34 · answer #7 · answered by nygayart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id say downgrade it. your partner obviously doesnt feel as strong about this relationship as you do. sorry to be saying this but maybe there is someone else in the picture... too many excuses its really not worth putting yourself through it...and if there is no trust, there is nothing..
2006-11-03 00:49:14 · answer #8 · answered by geminilovingacancer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would you like to see how they react to you behaving in the same way (just before you let them go)? Teehee.
Good luck; make room for the one who'll treat you in the manner you deserve.
2006-11-03 02:03:22 · answer #9 · answered by Zeera 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
respect yourself enough to walk away. ignoring the "small things" just means they have no respect for you and they no doubt think you'll continue to let it happen.cut them loose and find a real man who will honor and cherish you. good luck!
2006-11-03 04:30:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋