I have a 2 yr old and a 7 month old, do you think I would drop off my two children with someone to go out and have sex with someone else? The answer is no, My husband accuses me of cheating on him most of the time. I don't and would never risk my family over another guy. How do I get him off my back? Or this will never stop? Plus if he is so attached to me, when I come up to work to see him he doesn't even want to talk when he is not even busy, he won't look me in the face. Is this because he wants to go good infront of his employees? What do I do?
2006-11-03 00:26:36 · 22 answers · asked by fourcheeks4 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have never gave him a reason, I have never been to a club or had many boyfriends. I sit at home and take care of my children
2006-11-03 00:33:11 · update #1
Sounds like a classic case of the cheating hubby. Cheaters usually always start accusing their partners of cheating to hide their own guilt. Investigate this a little more, but don't accuse.
2006-11-03 00:29:46 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I was a SAHM for 8 years and went through the same thing with my hubby. I believe it all stemmed from the fact that he was working and I was at home. He would get home feeling frisky and the last thing I wanted was someone else hanging all over me! Anyhow, I told him flat out that his accusations were unfair and started keeping a journal of all I did in a day and he backed off. He did say he was jealous because I got to stay home all day - like it was a cake walk!! 3 kids of our own plus 2 daycare kids!! Anyhow, don't let him continue his accusing ways!! Sit him down and talk about it - tell him how it makes you feel. Good luck!!
2006-11-03 09:52:20 · answer #2 · answered by busymomof4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think one of three things is happening:
1. You may be inadvertently behaving differently or in a way that could cause the appearance of infidelity. He may feel that he is loosing you in some other way. At a friend's wedding, the priest gave some good advise which I will try to paraphrase here: As a couple, you both need to avoid, even the *appearance* is impropriety and always talk about your feelings *before* the other comes to his/her own conclusions (which usually tend towards the negative).
2. It all in his head. He may be having trouble at work and transferring the source of the feeling too you since he feels he can talk to you in a way that he may not be able to speak to his boss or clients.
3. And lastly, he may have found himself attracted to someone else in recent history. While the feeling may have reinforced his commitment to you, it also open up the opportunity, in his mind, that you might be attracted to other men.
2006-11-03 08:45:35 · answer #3 · answered by Al 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is not going to change without intervention of a therapist. He accuses you of cheating wont talk to you or look you in the face in front of his employees. Yea you have a problem. If he doesn't get help things will get worse. Insist that he see his doctor and get a referral to a family therapist. If he wont go you need to see one yourself because at soon his accusations are going to eat away at you.
2006-11-03 08:58:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time when someone is accusing you of cheating it is because they have guilt weighing on them. I don't think the problem is you cheating on him, it might be him cheating on you. I don't know specifics but why on earth would he NOT look you in the face when you come to see him at work?
2006-11-03 09:02:38 · answer #5 · answered by ladysteelersince1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people will accuse and accuse for a few reasons. 1) they have extremely low self-esteem but take it out on you or 2) they themselves are in fact cheating, almost cheated, asked to cheat, or is currently thinking of cheating in the future.
It's a way to take the pressure off of themselves and displace it back on your shoulders. Tell him to grow up or get out.
2006-11-03 08:32:49 · answer #6 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually the one accusing is usually the one at fault. You need to check on him and see what he is doing. He might be having an affair at work or someone at work may know he is having an affair. I think you already think something is wrong otherwise you would not of mentioned the work deal.
2006-11-03 12:51:27 · answer #7 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wonder if he was cheating on you. My ex used to cheat and he would pull the same things, accusing me of cheating. Would he be willing to go to marriage counseling? I would ask him. Hang in there, I am sure this is very hard on you. You sound like a dedicated mother and wife.
2006-11-03 09:39:45 · answer #8 · answered by Carey L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex was forever spying on me and checking up on me and accusing me of cheating. Turns out he was the one doing it! I would never have cheated, I loved him. I am no longer with him, I left. My baby was 20 months old at the time. He was the cheat not me.
2006-11-03 09:11:38 · answer #9 · answered by the quiet one 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then he might be cheating on you. Men reverse things as you probably well know. He can't look at you cause he has a girfriend or two. Tell him you two go to therapy and save the marriage or it is over. Love yourself enough to get out of this relationship if he doesn't go for professional help....you deserve to be happy and love doesn't hurt!
2006-11-03 08:30:32 · answer #10 · answered by angeleyez1956@verizon.net 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋