What does a guy want from marriage/his wife/his long-term partner?

Question

I have been with my guy for 1 year and 7 months, we live together but aren't yet married. There have been bad times and good, but tell me, what is the thing men are looking for in a wife??

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Answer 1

The real thing is what most mature men look for. Real love, committment, honesty, mixed with kindness, understanding, forgiveness, patience and trust. They want a wife who will: be there for them even when they make mistakes (and they make lots of them), take care of them when they are sick (they can be big overgrown babies), remind them of important matters to you both without nagging them (they have so much on their minds they worry about without saying anything to women that they tend to forget things), be a combination housekeeper and a maid (although they want a clean house most of them do not pick up after themselves), have dinner on the table for them when they get home from work (most men like a good home cooked meal), have some things in common with him (preferably recreational things the two of you can do together on his days off and/or during vacation times), Sit down together from the very beginning and both of you set ground rules for each other.

You'll find that if the two of you are happy and secure in your marriage you'll have a good sex life too. Sex is a bonus not a foundation.

There will always be money and financial issues causing troubles so as a woman it's up to you to place priority on where the money should go first and formost, but it's equally important do discuss those issues with your husband and make the final decisions together (if he wants to think he made the decision all by himself to make himself feel macho and/or to build up an ego don't contradict him.You know the truth and that's not important anyway). Most women have to work just to help out in order to have extra money to go out on. Arrange your work scheadule to match your husbands or so you'll be home before him to get dinner done if not as he walks in within the hour of his arrival, giving him time to shower and change clothes before eating (most men can't cook and those that do leave such a mess for women to clean up it's not worth the headaches).

These are simple guidelines for a happy and healthy marriage that many mothers over the years have failed to teach their children for whatever reasons. That failure has caused family life and living to deteriorate drastically over the years.

I hope this gives you some insight as to what a man wants and expects out of a marriage and what you're heading for.

God Bless and good luck.

Answer 2

If you're partner is abusive you have the right to get out of the relationship. You have an obligation to get out of the relationship! Staying with an abuser will just suck the soul out of you. Also - it's not healthy for your daughter - though she may love her dad - to have that kind of relationship as an example of what relationships are. Would you want her to stay in an abusive relationship? No, of course not, so why are you setting that example. If you can be happy with this guy that's great. But are you going into a relationship for the right reasons? Maybe you should consider breaking up with the partner first, then moving forward with the guitarist - not the other way around. Also - will you be on the move with the guitarist? That's not a very stable life for your daughter...and really - this needs to be about her. Good luck, and really - the romantic in me says go for it with the new guy! :)

Answer 3

It's not what a guy wants, it's what you want. And you had better be sure that you are SURE you know what you want.

The best wat to look at the situation is to ask yourself how you two would be after twenty five years of marriage. Is she high maintanance? Does she have a huge price tag attatched? FDoes she expect you to be the sole provider? Do you both wants kids? How many? Religious problems?

One key: Is she really and truly your friend? Without a great supportive friend as a partyner, you have noithing at all. Most marriages are unhappy to a great ddegree.

So what if you've been with her for a long time. If she gets on you for noithing, is controlling, and then wither thinks you deserve tha bad treatment, or else, tries to make it up, you are in pofor misery.

The thing is that you have to read a book like How To Be Your Own Best Friend. When you have learned those lessons, be someone else's best friend in the same way.

By the way, avoid women who absolutely turn you on beyond everything else. Attraction is no way to search for a partner. You need SOME attraction, but you want to stand up for yourself when abvused and not feel she'll bolt and you will die without her. Plenty of fish in the sea.

Also, go inot codependents anonymous and learn about boundaries. It sounds like you are not sure, and mixed signals means NO SIGNALS.

I've been with someone over ten years. She wants no marriage. It's OK with me. But we have a lot of common interests, such as sciences, the nautrail world, the artys, music, laughter and comedy, pl;ays, shows, polituics, and we are truly friends who are there for one anopther. without judgement. We also have learned hopw to disagree without being nasty to one another, which is another imperitive.

Answer 4

That is a good question. I always wondered how that worked... If you live with a woman (as if you were married), what is the incintive to getting married? Why do you wanna get married? What difference will it make to you? For a guy it may feel as if he has lost his freedom ESPECIALLY if you have lived like you're married but not married. Sorry I don't have the answer, but I truly think there is no good answer for this question.

Answer 5

A life partner, someone I could be myself with, someone I could trust, a loyal person, my best friend, a woman who was as commited to the relationship as I was and someone I knew would be there through the good and the bad times without running away from the bad times, a woman who loves unconditionally and loves me for who I am....luckily, I found that woman and she is my wonderful wife.

Answer 6

I think we all want warm fuzzies. We want someone who will pay attention, and Listen to us, be glad to see us, and get to know and understand us, and help build us up, to be a better person. Not change us, but not belittle us, and encourage us. And acknowledge how wonderful a person we are. When we know we have gifts to bring to the world, that gives us a reason to live, doesn't it? I think this is the emotional bond, that is missing in so many marriages.

Answer 7

What men want in women vary. You say you have been with him for more than a year, I am sure you know what he wants that is why your relationship is going strong. But for it to last even longer, it must be give & take. But if you really want me to spell it out, these are what men want:

1. Men want a fun and exciting (female) companion.

2. Men want great sex (consistent, frequent, and passionate lovemaking score high with men).

3. Men want to share meals with their woman companion (especially when she cooks for him).

4. Men want you to support them in their work and boost their confidence.

5. Men want you to look great, keep in shape, and express confidence about your body.

6. Men want you to listen to them and treat them with respect.

7. Men need private time, to unwind, to engage in sports and hobbies, and to spend time with other men.

Answer 8

Someone who doesn't NAG, ask too many questions, trusts him, believes in him, makes him feel special...treats him with honesty and respect, someone that wears make up and dresses nice..sexy here and there.......also if he doesn't marry you within 2 yrs of the start of your relationship he never will or if he does it won't last.

Answer 9

You better find out if that`s what Your after.Perhaps Your`s doesn`t want to be tied.As simple as that really.Perhaps He doesn`t feel the need or see the point.It`s a male thing.

Answer 10

This is easy for me to answer now, andif you had asked me not so long ago, I coukldn't have done it:

Respect (and loyalty), Integrity, a good attitude, affection, and she has to be very interesting.

Conversely, I need to be highly interesing to her, respectful, demonstrate integrity and affection, and not surrender my confidence to her (and by confidence, I do not mean arrogance).