I got the idea from several places to wash my 6 year olds mouth out with soap, because he was talking ugly. I did it last night and now he is still mad at me and is acting like a tried to 'kill' him or something. He was talking ugly in front of a friend of mine and also called my friend an old, ugly, woman right in front of her. BTW, he is usually not like that, but yesterday it was one thing right after the other with him. He is acting so upset with me, that I am thinking that it was a mistake to wash his mouth out. What is your opinion on that method and will he ever get over being mad at me, because it is breaking my heart.
P.S. Please don't be mean.
2006-11-03 00:08:56 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I am a 33yr old mother with a 13yr old daughter and if my daughter dared to disrespect an adult in that manor I would do the same. My parents did it to us and it didn't kill us, but it sure tasted bad. It made us think twice before talking ugly again. Your son will be fine, you are teaching him a lesson so don't let him know you feel bad for punishing him. You didn't hurt him or damage him in any way.
2006-11-03 00:19:42 · answer #1 · answered by shellygirl 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I don't know how effective the soap is, but it almost sounds as if your son has you wrapped around his little finger. No child likes to be disciplined and will be angry with their parents, but feeling guilty and apologizing for disciplining him will only cause your child to behave worse as he will learn he has power over you. Of course when I say discipline, I don't mean abuse. I don't think washing your child's mouth out with soap qualifies as abuse, but I never saw what it would teach a child. I've always had good luck with timeouts, but every child is different. The most important thing is ensuring your child understands you are the parent and you know best.
2006-11-03 00:17:16 · answer #2 · answered by Angel Baby 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he'll get over it - I certainly did when it happened to me when I was a child! It's a lesson he'll remember. I know it's hard when your child gets mad at you, but you're not there to be his friend - you're there to bring him up correctly and discipline him when needed. You did the right thing - good for you! Hang in there - no child likes to be disciplined, but you have to do it! And do NOT act all guilty in front of him or apologize or anything. Just talk to him like normal, even if he doesn't talk back. If he says anything, just matter of factly tell him that that's what happens when he talks ugly. You will not put up with it, and if he talks ugly again, the same thing will happen. Stand your ground and make sure you follow through!
2006-11-03 00:13:37 · answer #3 · answered by They call me ... Trixie. 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
What I did with mine is......I got down to her level and looked in her eyes, firmly held her arm and I said that is not nice to say things like that, make him apologize to your friend. And If you continue we will go home or in the house or whatever... make sure there is a punishment for things of that nature....and FOLLOWING THROUGH is the key. If the 2 of you have something that you regularly do together tell him this week because of your bad nature we are not able to do this....The key is to be Persistent and ALWAYS follow through.... I have a 19 year old daughter and a 2.5 year old son...Good Luck...
2006-11-03 00:17:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you should do just the opposite!
Tell him if he doesn't start acting nice to you that you are going to wear out his bottom like you should have done in the first place.
And if he doesn't, give him a spanking that he will never forget.
He's playing you like a fiddle. Believe me, I know.
Let me tell you how you should have handled it in the first place when he called your friend “an old, ugly, woman” right in front of her.
You should have told your friend, one minute, I’ll be right back. Then grabbed him by the arm and drag him into your bedroom, tell him that he is never ever to talk to an adult like that again, pull his pants down, turn him over your knee, and start spanking him with your hand firmly until he is crying like a baby. And a real cry with tears... not a fake cry. Then stand him up and tell him that he is going to apologize to your friend or you’re going to turn him over your knee again.
Then brough back the crying boy to apologize to your friend. That's when both of you can forgive him.
That would have completely solved his bad mouth and you certainly wouldn’t have a little boy upset with you but a little boy that respects his mother.
This stuff is not complicated unless you want to be politically correct instead of raising your child how he should be raised. This is your family and not a self-help book... make it one.
2006-11-03 00:12:26 · answer #5 · answered by Raylene G. 4 · 4⤊ 2⤋
You're his parent, NOT his friend. You MUST discipline your child when needed. I'm not going to say whether the whole "soap in the mouth thing is right or wrong but you absolutely did the right thing by disciplining your child. He'll get over it. Honestly, the psychology of it all is that he'll respect you, and know that you love him enough to discipline him. Love without discipline is what has gotten most of our young people where they are today. Love your child enough to disciplin him, you'll be glad you did, and so will he.
2006-11-03 00:16:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
He'll get over it...
Whatever you do, don 't act like you're sorry for disciplining him or he'll think he can do it the next time and get away with it because you were so sorry that you punished him. Do talk to him, have him explain what he did wrong to be punished so that you and he both know he understands that actions have consequences. Tell him you love him and give him a big hug.
2006-11-03 00:13:09 · answer #7 · answered by Nasubi 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I personally wouldn't wash my childrens mouth out with soap but, everyone has different parenting styles, he will forgive you so don't worry. One thing you do need to do is find out why he had such a reaction to your friend, what is the reason why he doesnt like her
2006-11-03 00:23:39 · answer #8 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that what you did was wrong. He has to understand that there are consequences for his actions. Don't let it break your heart....he will get over it, and hopefully in the end he will have learned a lesson. If it makes you fell better you could apologize to him..saying "Im sorry I HAD to do that (NOT im sorry I DID that), but your behavior was unexceptable. I would hate to do it again, but I will if you continue to use ugly words like you did last night. And STICK TO IT.
2006-11-03 00:13:25 · answer #9 · answered by BiancaVee 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I haven't heard of parents washing their kids mouths out with soap since I was a little kid, and that was a long time ago!
He'll get over it and hopefully he's learned his lesson!
2006-11-03 00:10:46 · answer #10 · answered by kja63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋