He lays on the couch from the minute he walks in the door watching T.V. and dozing off. He gets up to go to the bathroom and when He eats dinner. He falls asleep on the couch and hardly ever sleeps with me. If me or the kids talk to him he is so into the T.V. he don't even hear us.When I wake up to go to work he is still on the couch watching T.V. I know that it is a man thing but damn man is he lazy, addicted, being inconsiderate for not talking to us, and not considering that we do need him to associate with us? When I tell him about it says that I am jealous of the T.V. and puts it all off on me. He does work at a hard job in construction.
2006-11-02 23:57:49 · 37 answers · asked by jjkk 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Accept it or divorce him.
2006-11-03 00:27:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! You must really B____ a lot at this poor guy!! You call him lazy but in the same breath you say he works hard in construction & comes home every night after work! Maybe after a full day of noise he just wants peace & quiet. Plus you get a whole bed to yourself!! No hubby snoring in your ear!! Are you serious? Look at the facts here dear: Your Husband comes home everynight (instead of going out on you!) So what if he is a couch potatoe - you said he works hard! Maybe he is more comfortable on the couch maybe your matress isn't comfortable...god it could be a lot of things- so what is your complaint? TALK to him!! Ask him why he chooses to sleep on the couch! Then Give him more reason to come to bed with you & I am sure he will.Stop NAGGING at him!! seriously!! dahhmn! I think you are reading way too much into this!!
2006-11-03 01:21:53 · answer #2 · answered by lil redneck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, talk to him about how dangerous it is. If that doesn't work, have a member of the local fire department come over and do it. If that doesn't work, get rid of the couch. I mean this. If he can't be an adult, he can't have nice things. Seriously -- there are few dumber ways to burn down your house, and possibly die, than falling asleep with a cigarette on a couch. Deaths of this type are going down, but only because the number of smokers is going down. PS -- in the meantime, like, TODAY, buy a fire extinguisher and keep it next to the couch.
2016-03-19 03:04:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to him about it, in a gentle way, with low expectations. He'll claim it's from work. I can tell you still love him, and even respect him. You might be able to help him get off the couch without him even knowing your helping him get off the (friggin') couch. Guys will claim that laziness and addiction are from stress (usually work), so to approach him in an intimidating manner won't produce lasting results.
Bottom line, if he's worth it.....try some sweet techniques to get him more energized for a few months.
I'm sorry to say, but after that, if there's NO improvement, then the relationship is not going to be rewarding.
2006-11-03 00:22:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anytime that either person in a relationship cannot validate ones feelings it's not a good thing. When you marry it is not "me" anymore it's "us". For him to carry on this way after it has been told to him is a real sign of disrespect to you and the children. We all work hard and would love to loaf around as he does but, we don't because we realize we have responsibilities within the home that need taking care of and do so. I was married to a man like this and after suggesting things change and giving him adequate time to make the changes. I still found him laying in the sofa stuck on the TV and he found the divorce papers on the dining room table. You teach people how to treat you and by putting up with this is telling him it's ok. So, it's up to you to let him know what you need from the relationship and if he's not got it in him to provide it then he needs to walk away with his TV and sofa in tow! Bless you
2006-11-03 04:48:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably suffering from depression. The best thing you can do for both of you is to seek counseling. He will probably be resistant to it at first but you need to gently insist that it is for the best because you love him, the kids need him, and you don't want to lose your best years together to the idiot box. Suggest alternatives - family walks, going to the park, playing a board game with you and the kids, etc. Institute at least one family night where the TV doesn't even get turned on. Tell him that you miss him in bed and try to work out a time that he comes to bed. He is probably not getting proper, restful sleep in front of the TV - that will contribute to his depression, also.
Let him know that you are doing this because you love him. Don't try to strongarm him, don't yell or give him ultimatums, don't turn to tears. Do this calmly and sincerely.
2006-11-03 00:06:36 · answer #6 · answered by greyrider 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, It is not a man thing. My husband works hard to but he does not act like my children and I are not there. When he comes home he does want to relax for a little bit and wind down from his day but that is understandable. If I was you I would tell him that there needs to be some changes made. If he is not willing to change and show you and the kids some attention and love then I would get out. You and your children deserve to have a father/husband that is there for you even if he had to work hard.
2006-11-03 00:24:06 · answer #7 · answered by cmsmith114 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you have been taking his role of the father and it has been tough on you. Tell him that the t.v. needs a break and that you need to connect as a family again. My mom is like this toawrds my dad, but he never says anything and when I am at her house she is a total channel surfer. It's annoying! Tell him that you would like to talk to him asking him to help you in parenting and in this marriage if he wants to save it. That him sitting on the couch all the time is a major turn off and he can't expect you to turn on a light and have sex. He probably is angry that you can't have sex, make time
2006-11-03 00:09:36 · answer #8 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
ALL men put their shortcomings on us. He is a selfish beast. You need to get him to go to therapy with you and work on this or your life won't get any better and you will fall into depression, if you already haven't. ALSO you are NOT the problem here and don't let him make you think you are. He is the problem and only HE can fix it not you. OR try making a date a week with him to go out for dinner and or a movie..maybe movies since he likes TV so much. Have the children over night at family or a friends house. When you two get home seduce him. Get a teddy or wear something sexy, light candles and put on romantic music. If this doesn't work he needs therapy. IF he won't go and change you should move on to a man who you deserve. Love yourself enough to leave him then.
2006-11-03 00:03:58 · answer #9 · answered by angeleyez1956@verizon.net 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Sorry but that aint no man thing. I heard of guys falling asleep in front of the tv once ot twice but not as a habit & certainly not for as long as that! Your husband is a lazy couch potato to the limit & needs councilling
2006-11-03 00:01:56 · answer #10 · answered by Claude 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well, he's probably exhausted from work!! And maybe he's depressed about something. Be glad that he comes home every night, even if he does sleep on the couch!!!
2006-11-03 00:39:06 · answer #11 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋