What's the first step?

Question

Yesterday, I asked a question about being ready. With the addvise of others, we've made our minds and hearts up!! We are gonna get married!! I'm so excited. The thing is after he offically asks me, What is the next step? We dont have alot of money, but we want it to be something to remember. Not a wedding day where we get dressed up and go to the chaple on main! (no offence to anybody) We want a church wedding!! That is kinda small, but really nice!!! What is the next step, once he offically asks me to marry him? Help Please!!

Answer 1

marriage license?

Answer 2

First and foremost, sit down and decide what you both really want. Make sure you are on the same page as far as goals in life. Do you both want children, how many, how will they be raised, what if you can't conceive or can't carry to term, how will finances be handled, what responsibilities will be handled by whom, how will you handle disagreements, what holidays will be spent with each others families (this is often a big issue because of pressure from both families), what are your expectations of each other in the relationship - these are all questions that should be addressed sooner rather than later. I would suggest you both read The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman as well as a few other books on marriage/relationships. Reread on a regular basis throughout your marriage. Make sure you are both in this for the long haul and not just until there is a problem.

If you want a church wedding start checking out churches. Keep in mind that at some you may have to join and/or take several months of 'classes'. There are some churches that have been converted over to beautiful wedding chapels. There are also lots of churches that know weddings are a good money maker and are very easy to book. Start out by going through the phone book - call and find out what is required, fees/deposits, dates available, etc. Before you committ both you and your fiance go check out the church together to make sure it is to your liking. Make sure that they will allow your choices in music, flowers, decorations, etc. Do they have a decent area for yourself and your bridesmaids to change and prepare.

Talk to friends and family, get recommendations on halls for the reception (if the church you choose doesn't have those accommodations), companies to order invitations through (or enlist a friend or relatives help in designing your own - buy the ink for their printer and provide the materials), photographers, florists, deejays, caterers (or put together a buffet), decide where you want to register, etc. Choose your dress, your fiance needs a tux, are you going to have anyone stand up with you? What will they wear? Honeymoon destination, etc. The list of preparations is pretty long. Enlist a friend who has been there, done that to help you. Make sure you thank everyone properly throughout and when it is over.

Good luck to you both.

Answer 3

The Preparations, Preparations include various activities, from sending invitations to organizing the reception. "The more orderly this preparation is, the more foresight and planning are applied, the less will be the fatigue and tension," says H. Bowman in his book Marriage for Moderns. "Under the best circumstances," he cautions, "there may be some fatigue, and it is sensible to make every reasonable effort to minimize it."
The Expenses, A reasonable budget is essential. It is not reasonable or loving to expect a couple or their parents to go into debt to pay for a wedding that is beyond their means. Many who can afford a more elaborate wedding still choose to keep it modest. In any event, some couples have found it helpful to have a checklist for estimated and actual expenses. It can also be useful to have a list of deadlines for all the things that need to be organized. Entrusting deadlines to memory is very likely to be stressful.
"What God has yoked together let no man put apart"
A Permanent Bond
After the Wedding Day, With an abiding love, such qualities as long-suffering, kindness, goodness, mildness, and self-control—fruitage of God's spirit—will be easier to demonstrate. These qualities are necessary for a successful marriage.—Galatians 5:22, 23
Showing Love and Honor, Allow for Mistakes

Answer 4

The next step is to set the date. then decide who and how many people to invite. Next find the place, make the plans and get the license...you are ready!

Answer 5

Make sure he doesnt have another girlfriend.

Answer 6

vanhammer has it about right. My best wishes for you both!