A room for the kids in the new house?

Question

Hi,
My husband and I just bought a 3 bedroom house. My husband has 2 kids from previous marriage (boy 9 and girl 4). Originally we thought we'll have the master bedroom and each kid will get a room. But my husband thinks that maybe because the kids usually come in every other weekend, we can put them both in one room and then use the extra bedroom as an office, and also in the future, as a bedroom for the new baby that we are planning to have.
I am not too sure about this because I thought that the kids will feel more at home when they are with us if both have a room. So my husband is asking me: What are you planning to do with the new baby.
Any thoughts what the right behavior is in this case?

Thank you!

Answer 1

Check with the local government. There are restrictions about boys and girls sharing a room. In many localities it's illegal. Especially with the boy rapidly approaching puberty.

Answer 2

I can't believe your husband is more concerned about having an office then rooms for his children!! Regardless how often they are there! Doesn't he want them to feel as if they are apart of the family?Plus They need a room of their own as visitations have been known to change!! And a baby doesn't require much room so you add the nursery into one or the other room depending on the sex of the new baby! No it is never a good idea to put opposite sex children in the same rooms, on the couch, floor, your room, etc...as a lot of state laws restrict it as do most ex wives and husbands! If your husband needs an office then set up a corner in the family room a corner of your bedroom, basement, attic, wherever there is room- a desk doesn't take up much space either. but make sure the children have their rooms! He should have thought about his office before he bought only a 3 bedroom house! His kids should come first - he can live without an office - if nothing else tell him to set at the dinning room table! I really feel bad for these children!!

Answer 3

At this age boys and girls need their own room.
Deal with the baby when that occurs. You will have time.
When that decision is necessary include the kids in the discussion. It will certainly help relations to include them in the decisions which affect them. That will pay dividends down the road. Teenagers hate being told what to do with no input from them. It is all part of growing with them. They will probably willingly agree to one room if asked. Try to force them there and watch the sparks.
This whole discussion revolves around learning to solve problems.
The first rule is don't make a problem where there is none. The second is include the affected parties in the decision making process. That is how you get agreement that the solution is not optimal but that they can live with it because they have also weighed the options.

Answer 4

i have 3 children, so when i moved away from my ex i got 3 bedrooms apartment and was so stupid to put 2 children in the same room - elder was at that time10 and smaller 5. then, in just 2 years the elder one became a young man - he is so tall and muscly and looks like a guy, and this smaller one, who is 8 now is still a baby. u can't believe what im going through - they constantly fight and yell. so now with my new husband we re desperately searching for bigger house with a room for each child. so i really don't know what will u do all together - u have too small house. i say what if u give now each child an own room and later one room to a baby and one child sleeps in living room on the couch, otherwise u won't manage. u can't put 2 children this different age in the same room. they will kill each other

Answer 5

Let them have separate rooms now. Forget about the office. I'm sure you have a writing table in your room. When your baby arrives, let the girl share the baby room with your baby. The other room can then be turned into an office *** guest room where the boy can sleep.

Answer 6

I would give them their own rooms to begin with. The one with the bigger room can double as an office and when you have the new baby( it will propley sleep in your room for a few monthes) you can have the girl( cause she is younger) share a room with the baby. It would make her feel like more apart of the family.

Answer 7

I wouldnt give them their own rooms. THey only visit every OTHER weekend. They are both young and siblings..Put them in the same room BUT personalize their individual sides of the room. Perhaps a divider of some type as well. Like others have already stated, you are a good step-mom. G;luck!

Answer 8

Buy a bigger house? Seriously though,,the girl will want and need her own room someday anyway!! She can't share a room w/ her brother when they get older! Put the baby in with the girl for now,, then in a few years you may want to expand the house and add a room! Good luck! :)

Answer 9

you can put an office almost any where. even in the corner of your own master bedroom. the kids that visit should have thier own room , even if it means putting your baby into your kids room.

Answer 10

i think the kids should have thier own rooms,, to make it feel more famliy like ,,like they have a place. as for office is it a nessary office or just a place for dad to hang out. and for future baby,,you can allways build on a room.