What was your experience like when you told your close friends and family members that you were in love with the same sex? And are you still having trouble with the situation?
2006-11-02 23:43:18 · 11 answers · asked by ? 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I am not gay first off and the only reason why I am answering this question is because I am a mother who oldest daughter told me that she was gay,
and I feel like I can tell you how I felt speaking from someone who is not really into that life style but have a child that I love with all my heart that is.....I hope what I say helps you to understand somewhat of how We the family feels at times (I am not speaking for all just myself for sure okay)
Anyway, My daughter has always known how I feel about this life style, so she didn't want to tell me face to face, so she decided to tell me in a letter, when I first read it I had to read it over & over again because of course I thought it was a misprint or I was seeing things right? But it wasn't and I was reading it right, I was not mad like some people would think I was a little disappointed because of course there will not be a wedding, or the birth of grandchildren but, in saying all of that I love my baby girl no matter what, she decides to do with her adult life, it's not mines but, hers to do with as she please, but I do not have to be apart of it, and when I say that I mean I do not want her life style in my home, or durning holidays, things like that, I have two younger girls and I do not want it around them, because the way I feel is family needs a mother & father to complete it, this is how I feel period, but I will never turn my back on my child but, the life style I will not except around me...........I have nothing hatful to say or mean or nothing like that I just do not want it pushed apoun me inside my home is all, but she my daughter is always welcome to come over..................As I said I can not speak for all parents just myself and that is how I dealt with it, If she would have told me face to face I would have given her a big hug and kiss because she will always be the daughter I brought into this world and will love forever more.............................
2006-11-03 01:17:49 · answer #1 · answered by Lil Angel 68 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 08:06:59 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My family decided to ignore it and go about as though I was continuing to lie to them.
My family is good at ignoring the elephant in the living room. Just put a table cloth across it's back it is a coffee table.
I decided that it was better to let them be themselves until confronted with it. Maybe they will realize it is real when I bring my g0y mate for Thanksgiving dinner.
My best friend who has always called me his brother hugged me and told me I had always been there for him and he was going to always be my brother.
It was a beautiful experience because he has always been uncomfortable with homosexuals.
2006-11-03 00:51:39 · answer #3 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My dad was kind of shocked but after about a month he called and asked me was I happy. And we had this big conversation. He asked me some questions about how I felt and it made me feel really comfortable for him to actually get involved.
My mom loved it!!! She loves my G/F. My mom has always told me that the women in our family has always been very submissive to their husbands and to other members of the family. But she felt like I broke that cycle by finding my own independence and my own way of life.
I have very understanding parents. It shocked the H#$$ out of them at first but now they are cool with it and they love what I do and who I am as long as I am happy with myself.
2006-11-03 00:38:18 · answer #4 · answered by Some1Special 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, it's been about 8 years since I first told my parents. My mom still pretends like I'm her straight, male, christian son and my dad won't even look at me. Most of my friends have been accepting and so have most of the other relatives that I've told.
2006-11-03 11:41:05 · answer #5 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My father went over the edge (typical) and my mom was a love about it all-just wanted me to be happy.
As for my friends-Still have my best friend after all these years and she is straight.
After all these years (61) the only problems I have with being a lesbian is finding Miss Right. The problems you might be referring to like new friends or others comments-I just brush off.
No time, at my age, to worry about what others deem as "wrong."
2006-11-02 23:53:10 · answer #6 · answered by dragon 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when i first told my mum she thought is was disgusting, but my partner and i went to England in september to visit my mum and she was just fine with her..she is not 100% with it but since meeting my partner i think she has accepted it a bit more..my dad was ok with it a little shocked at first..my best friend of 30 years is still my best friend i couldnt ask for a better one she is just great..she kinda knew anyway..i would have told her years before hand but she was the one i was most worried about telling i didnt want to loose her, no she is not anit gay, i secretly think she is a bit that way herself..good for her...
2006-11-03 01:15:36 · answer #7 · answered by geminilovingacancer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when i came out to my mom, she threatened to disowned me. i then joined the Army, and went to basic training, and told her i had changed, and was no longer a lesbian. i have always been and always will be but i just decided to keep her out of my sex life, and so far she believes me. my friends are very accepting, and have no problem with it. my sisters tried to get me to change, but that was a waste of both my time and theirs. i haven't told my dad because i don't think it is that big of a deal.
2006-11-03 05:08:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I came out to friends first....and they were totally ok with it. in fact, most had already figured it out. it didn't seem to bother my brother at all. my mom cried a little at first, but she has accepted it. she was actually angry that I had told her sooner (I was 41 when I told her). my step dad acted ok with it (my dad passed away almost 16 yrs ago), although I know he doesn't think I should be able to get married to my partner... oh well! we all still get along!
2006-11-03 00:02:07 · answer #9 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They were all totally cool with it. My family knew long before I actually "came out." So, it was simply no big deal.
I actually ran into an old friend from High School many years later, we had both come out previously to our running into each other and we both laughed when we talked about it. We both knew the other was gay back in high school, but neither of us were willing to come out back then.
Funny how life is.
2006-11-03 02:28:59 · answer #10 · answered by DEATH 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋