I've been here for 8 months now and she told me she cheated on me just once so I told her we can make it through this so I gave her a second chance but I think she is still talking to him how can I tell if she still is I go home in a month how can I tell if she is when I go home I've search for answers every where this is my last chance to get some I hope you can help me thank you
2006-11-02 23:42:32 · 5 answers · asked by rwfrnk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is nothing worse than being overseas and getting that info from a spouse. She can't live with her guilt and unloads on you.
Tell her to keep quiet about it and make sure to be well over it before you get home or she is over. Every one deserves a second chance and its obvious she cannot live with herself and her behavior. That does not remove her guilt only moves it.
Sorry to hear.
Good Luck.
2006-11-03 00:03:21 · answer #1 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and ask her, don't yell. I am a former soldier and when confronted with this situations I would just look into her eyes and tell her that I was willing to give amnesty if she confessed.
I can tell you that every time I knew if they were laying or not and when I could feel inside me that they were laying later on I found out they were.
You can ask around, ask ppl you trust.
Don't tell her when you are coming back, take a cpl of days to check out her movements, maybe you can catch her but please don't do anything stupid that can get you in trouble, its not worth it bro.
And honestly if you are having doubts its not worth keeping her around so my best advice would be to dump this one and get another one that will respect you. It's pretty f**** up that you are fulfilling your duties and she bangs someone else, that's just wrong. The way I look at it is that if you two get married and you have to take second job to support the family she will then cheat on you because she was "lonely", that's not kool. In a nutshell if a spouse, man or woman, doesn't respect, apreciate and consider the sacrifices the other one is making then its not someone that deserves you.
That is my advice hope it helps
2006-11-03 07:55:22 · answer #2 · answered by ttepinzon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey how is it down there I am getting ready to go there 2 more months are so. First let me say this before i became a christan my boyfriend which is now my hubsand was there. I cheated on him. I realize what i had when i saw him i stop because he got real fine. I think it is a phaze for her. Because now we are married! I think you really love her and ya can work this out! She made the first step about being honest.
2006-11-03 07:48:59 · answer #3 · answered by God's chosen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look her in the eyes and ask sincerely. If her eyes dart then she is not being truthful. If that is the case tell her I think you are not being truthful. Ask if it is over and watch again. Ask her if he is got the message or should you help convey it.
Check phone logs on cell when you get there.
She must have felt bad for doing it or she wouldn't have told you. She could have lied and you would have been none the wiser.
2006-11-03 08:03:04 · answer #4 · answered by Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
better you take her along with you where ever u go... or drop her go for a new life... if she can't change
2006-11-03 07:51:13 · answer #5 · answered by Sameer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋