we had sex on our first date,a week later she tells me she"s pregnant..and forcefully wants to have the baby..

Question

could she have had all this planned? that she wants me to be her fathers child? dont know her that much and i cant have a baby with some i hardly know...on top of that she does not want to look at the fact that we are both young to have a child..Yes i know i should have thought about it before but mistakes do happen..she hardly knows me as well but doesnt want an arbotion, could she wanting to have my child hoping to gain somethin from it e.g child maintanance and the rest...

Answer 1

ok if you all had sex one night and a week later she is suddenly "pregnant", then the child cannot possibly be yours. If she is dead set on thinking its yours, i would acquire a paternity test to be taken as soon as the child is born before she tries to go after you for child support or anything else.

Answer 2

Well, if you don't want a baby with someone you hardly know I suggest not having sex with them. This way there would be no way what so ever it would be yours. Well beings you are asking this, I'm assuming that you had unprotected sex. Instead of worrying about her being pregnant, you think you should maybe get some tests done just in case. If you didn't know her, there is always that possibility that she may have something and if she has no symptoms you or her will never know it

Now back to your situation, if a week after having sex she says that she is pregnant, is she sure? You cant tell you are pregnant one week after having sex. And if she is pregnant, might wanna find out how far she is cause chances are it is not yours. Maybe she knew she was pregnant and didn't know who the father would be so she would pick someone. You cant be sure, especially if you don't know her all that well

Answer 3

I suggest that you take the high speed train to the first DNA clinic that you can find because it sounds like a set up to me. There is no way that after a week she can say that she is pregnant and if she really is I can almost guarantee that the baby isn't yours. Go with her to one of her appointments and find out how far along she is. After the baby is born get a DNA test, if she has a problem with any of this then that is definitely a red flag. Stand firm in decision and don't fall for the crap that some woman try to throw at men like "don't you trust me" or "you helped me make it so you are going to help me care for it" or "you are just like the other men, no good because you want to deny your child". These are just examples of some of the guilt trips that some woman throw at men. I am only saying these things because a week is way to early for her to say that she is pregnant with your child, it all seems a little suspicious to me. If you can't afford the Dna test try going on The Maury Povitch Show. I am not telling you to be mean or callous just make sure that the baby is really yours. And to all the woman who will have something negative to say. I am a woman and I am in no way saying that all woman lie about who their child's father is but this is a little suspicious

Answer 4

From what You tell us it seems that way.
If she's telling you she's pregnant after a week, then there are things you should consider. For instance, when was her last menstrual cycle (period)? Did she take a pregnancy test?
It seems as if she's absolutely sure that its your child just after a week, and she Wants to have it.
The way I see it its either she's not pregnant but wants to mess you up, or she is and still wants to mess you up. Its highly unlikely that this child should be yours just a week after you guys slept together, and the fact that she forcefully wants it makes everything very suspicious.

You really are in a sticky situation. Whenever a woman says she's pregnant there's nothing else a man can do even if she previously told him or agreed to not get pregnant. If she really is pregnant and decides to go ahead with it then there's nothing you can do about it. That's why we as men must always make sure that we're the ones taking all the precautions to avoid situations like this. On the other hand I also understand that these are and will be for some time to come very difficult times for you. My advice is above all to stay cool and in control of your emotions. It is very easy for us to do or say very foolish things that we may end up regretting for the rest of our lives.

Like the other answers that you got, I also stress that you request a paternity test, or DNA test. It will settle this issue once and for all.
Whatever you decide to do after you have the correct information is up to you. But remember that being a man many times we have to go through shitty times, and this is just one of them. Learn from it, but stay cool. Things will eventually work out in the end.

I want also to thank the female respondents that contributed with same answers that most people presented. This case is really suspicious, yet you guys were open about that. Really appreciated it.

Answer 5

There is definitely a problem. I don't really think its you...It probably has to do with what is going on at home with her. Maybe this is her cry to be loved by someone. And for a few minutes you were willing. And her knowing that this child will always love her. But she is young, and having a baby is NOT the way to claim love. Its alot of hard work. I'm sure it was a mistake. But.....and unfortunate situation has occurred and you have to be responsible for your actions. Ir is her choice to have the baby or not. The 2 of you need to think really hard and long about this, because this is a life that would be brought in this world. And right now it doesn't look that hard. But believe you, me....Its ALOT MORE than that. Good luck.....Ill keep you in my prayers...

Answer 6

I would try not to stress so much until you know something a little further down the road. First I would tell her ok, you think your pregnant, lets go to Planned Parenthood and get a test and find out what we need to do. Explain that you want to go with her to the appt. We girls and women can lie about things, especially pregnancy if she wants to play that sick game. I think once you show interest in her and the chance she might be pregnant, things will change in her head. Her game will no longer be any fun.

Now on the chance that she is indeed pregnant and it turns out to be yours, then you have just learned a huge lesson at a young age. Read all you can about parenting, go to classes. Don't turn out to be like some other guys who don't take responsibility. Good luck and God bless you.

Answer 7

Once the child is born request a DNA test, if it is yours, take responsibility. Too many young people these day dont take resposibility for their own actions. It took 2 of you to have sex and create a life, it should be a joint effort to raise and support it. A child should have 2 parents, not one. A REAL man is one that steps up.

Answer 8

As a mother of 3 I know that it simply isn't possible for her to determine that she is pregnant in a week's time. But if you look back and believe more time as passed, offer to go with her to a doctor's office for a pregnancy test and advice. The doctor can tell you if she's pregnant and most likely how pregnant she is. Either way make sure you keep access to that information. If the near impossible is true, than ask her to go with you to an abortion counselor. Go even if she doesn't. You can also ask the doctor who can recommend services to help both of you.

Answer 9

Theres just no possiale way in a weeks time for her to know shes pregnant with your child.I would be askig for a DNA test as soon as this babys born.More than likely shes not pregnant and just playing a game with you or she is by someone else and is saying its your kid.I hope you learn something from this.You cant just have sex with someone and not think about using protection.

Answer 10

oh man,you are being fooled here, that baby couldn't be possibly yours....a girl would need at least to weeks to find out she's pg after sex....run away now from that witch! if she gives you trouble ask for a DNA test. She would either refuse or accept the baby isn't yours. if she insists you can get a court order to force her do the paternity test. But that baby is not yours.