ok, well. my boyfriend and I been thinking of taking a well earned vacation to Puerto Rico. The problem is he wants to take his children with him. Don't get me wrong, I love them as my own, but we're with them 24/7, everyday. We don't get to go out much at all maybe once every 3 month. I just want to enjoy this vacation, he works all the time and I work and go to school. We don't get to see each other much too, and when we do, its when the kids are around so theres no spending time at all. Anyways, I spoken to him about this and he told me he can't be away from them more then a day and he trust no one with them!! So how are we to do anything!! Please help me explain to him that he need to stop beening so over protective with his kids and that we need time for us.
2006-11-02 23:27:23 · 10 answers · asked by helpful friend 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am sorry to say but i agree with him. You got yourself in a family relationship. Our kids come 1st and we always travel with them. Try to comprmise and bring a sitter so you guys can go off and do stuff on your own
2006-11-02 23:31:09 · answer #1 · answered by R C 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How about a compromise; a vacation spot that is child oriented. Try Disneyland, or something similar. Wear the kids out during the day, and then you two can have some time alone in the evenings. It's understandable that he doesn't trust anyone to watch his children in these times; try to understand how he feels too. Life is full of compromises, this is a good time to start.
2006-11-03 07:40:32 · answer #2 · answered by grandm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you answered your own question, with this guy he and his kids are a package deal, you either get both or none. So you have a decision to make. By the way, I think he is right, I wouldn't trust anyone else either and I don't think realistically many other parents would. The kids come first, I only have so many years with them, I work and I don't get to spend time with them. A family vacations together, so do you want to be a part of this family. I read some of the other answers. They made me sick to my stomach.
2006-11-03 07:35:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you pick a hotel that has something like a child creche/nanny service or kids club? That way you can spend time with and without the kids? It's a little unfair of you to expect him to cope with being separated from them (he's obviously a very kind Dad) but I can understand your frustration of not getting much time on your own with him. Speak to him honestly before you go, saying you would like to spend some time with him on your own while away - even if it's a meal out on a couple of nights and a few hours in the day. Be honest and kind with him - I hope you work it out.
2006-11-03 07:31:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he keeps being overprotective with his kids he obviously have no feelings for you whatsoever. because if he did he would try his best to make you happy. tell him that you don't have time to take his nonsense. you did what was required on your part by being a good friend to his kids, now its time for him to step up to the plate or you're out of here!! Find someone else that will worship the ground you walk on!!
2006-11-03 13:17:20 · answer #5 · answered by meamy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can afford it, you should take another person with you like a grandmother or babysitter you REALLY trust. I don't think he will be talked into going without the kids, but if you had someone to help you watch them, then you could go out for an after bedtime date.
2006-11-03 07:33:17 · answer #6 · answered by kindofkitty 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WELL I UNDERSTAND YOUR POSITION.... ABOUT WANTING ALONE TIME WITH YOUR MAN... BUT I ALSO UNDERSTAND THAT THIS SOUND LIKE A NO WIN SITUATION.. ARE YOU GUYS GOING TO PUERTO RICO TO SEE FAMILY?? BECAUSE IF YOU DO...SOME OF THEM MIGHT WANT TO BABYSIT WHILE YOU GET SOME ALONE TIME WITH YOUR HUSBAND...BUT I THINK IF YOU SIT WITH HIM AND EXPLAIN JUST LIKE YOU EXPLAIN TO US AND TELL HIM WHAT YOU NEED..HE WILL COME WITH A SOLUTION... YOU DO NEED TIME ALONE AND IT'S SO GOOD OF HIM TO BE OVER PROTECTIVE..NOW AND DAYS YOU HAVE TO BE....AND HE IS JUST BEING A DADDY...TRY AND COMPROMISE WITH OUT GETTING UPSET...HE SOUNDS LIKE A GOOD DAD.. I KNOW YOU GUYS CAN COME TO SOME KIND OF UNDERSTANDING.... GOOD LUCK.
2006-11-03 07:47:07 · answer #7 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your well knowned( you know that person very well) relative and tell your Bf that his children will be guarded by that relative of yours. He can trust you you are his GF
2006-11-03 07:35:00 · answer #8 · answered by POWERBS 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he want go with children, let do that. Maybe he will want go an other time with you. But you said this him?
2006-11-03 07:37:43 · answer #9 · answered by Ben 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should,.....
2006-11-03 07:29:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋