question to all men or woman if you can explain it?

Question

why do men intentionaly look up porn on the net or watch it on tv when knowingly they have a girlfriend there to do that for them or are we not good enough?

Answer 1

well im a woman and i look at porn. men like sex, men are visually stimulated and its all just harmless fantasy. a girlfriend is there and is real, porn is an escape something different and doesnt hurt anyone. if you are hurt by a man that watches porn then thats your insecurities not his.

Answer 2

There are a number of possible reasons that you'd have to explore:

1. Porn temporarily feels good / is stimulating.

2. Viewing porn becomes addictive for some people, so even after they are indifferent to it or have a gf/wife, they still persist in the behavior because it's already been ingrained.

3. Porn offers sexual release/fantasy without any responsibility to the woman shown on the screen. To have consistent sex with a real live woman usually means an emotional commitment of sorts, and fidelity, and hard work to maintain the relationship. Porn is sexual stimulation without obligation.

Women often feel like a man is choosing porn over them and that his interest in it is a rejection of them. (This is understandable.)

At the same time, for many men, the pornography issue doesn't have a direct correlation to much his wife turns him on. This doesn't mean it doesn't hurt his wife/gf's feelings, or that he doesn't need to stop; it just means that the behavior is more pursued for its own sake rather than as a rejection of a particular woman.

Answer 3

Men like porn, plain and simple. It has nothing to do with you or any other woman. He is not sitting there going "Oh, I wish I had HER instead of my girlfriend." They just like looking at sex and body parts. A lot of women do too.

Have you tried watching it together as a pre-intercourse stimulant? My husband and I watch it together sometimes and it gets us in the mood and also gives us ideas for stuff we'd like to try. It can be a tool if you want to use it that way.

However, if you're really upset by this and have told your man that it bothers you and he's still doing it when you're around, then he's being disrespectful to your feelings. Don't police what he does when you're not around though, because really, this is natural behavior for a man. I'd say if he were foregoing sex with you to watch porn, then there'd be a problem.

Answer 4

I am not. Remember psychology works differently for different people. And sexual dreaming is very very different, abstract and natural. ASking your girlfriend to forfil some sexual fantasy 4 u can be just playing. You are responsible 4 identifing what is correct in ur relationship sexual then anyone else. everybody like and needs different things. What documentaries on sex shows this, and shows how people differ on the feelings of sex as an issue. Sometimes people over step the mark. Converse ur partner and talk over your personnal feelings on the matter.

Answer 5

Men scope out porn because they cant visualize things "SEX" in their heads like women can. They have to see things with their eyes.....don't be offended. Its really not the big deal you think. Men are built way different than you think. Just know hes coming to you after he watches.

Answer 6

You sound to like an attention whore with an inferiority complex, in serious need of emotional maturity. You'll never be good enough because you doubt your own self-worth and value based on what others think and do. Get a grip and grow up!

Answer 7

Can it be that old thing about grass being greener on the other side of the fence? The lure of the silver screen?

Answer 8

Women are not always physically availiable nor do they "want to do that for me" every time I want it. Sometimes all it is for is a quick release where we don't want any emotions involved.