Due to the number of marriages that end in divorce, and the bitter legal battles that follow. Women marrying wealthy(usually very old) men, simply to get their hands on his fortune, and celebrities marrying each other simply for publicity, and then divorcing two minutes later.
2006-11-02 22:29:43 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes I think it has. Alot of people go in to it with the mind set of well if we have a problem we can just get divorced. Instead of tryin to work it out. People just don't care anymore.
2006-11-02 22:32:12 · answer #1 · answered by heather_21_2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage certainly has become devalued, people who marry an old man simply for his fortune are nothing but gold-diggers, and celebrities are so hollow they don't even know the meaning of the words "Commitment" or "Marriage". I will agree that celebrities simply marry each other for publicity/financial gains (when he divorce papers come through anyway, take a look at the Paul McCartney and Heather Mills Divorce) I still hold on to the idea that marriage forms a sacred vow of love, respect and trust. I always will hold onto that idea! Without those three, (aside from publicity or money) why do celebrities or women who marry old men, get married in the first place?
2006-11-02 22:37:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's value has changed, not lessened but changed.
In the past marriage was indeed something that was expected to last for life. Divorce was not socially acceptable. Marriages were not generally made in haste for this reason as well as many others. People I think seemed to value the companionship aspect of it far more. Of course the social pressure of not feeling able to leave very bad marriages where violence or abuse happened was also apparent. Women had fewer rights legally speaking, and fewer opportunities.
Today people some people seem to want marriage as a thing, like status symbol, the wedding is like the new car..or new clothes. It's become a fashion thing in some respects.
Women have more opportunity, access to education, equal pay and the like, however society also pressures women now not just to be the wife and mother- but to be everything else as well. The job the great marriage the kids...a woman is supposed to have it all in order to consider herself a personal success, and although we are not emancipated any more in law, we sometimes emancipate ourselves trying to meet all these sociatal expecations.
Women especially, place greater value than they once did on self, persuit of personal aspiration, and are less likely to settle or put up with something rather than attempt to go this distance with it. If a man doesn't give her what she wants, many women today will not even give it the benefit of time or patience. This is not what marriage is about.
We live in a throwaway society and people want instant gratification. Often people believe that they deserve nothing less than exactly what they want, this is not wholly bad but has made our society somewhat selfish.
Some of the more valuable elements of the way marriage was in the past has been lost in part, we have more rights and opportunites but they come at a cost. I think people have lost sight of what marriage really is, and often take that committment less seriously than they did int he past because they are under no pressure to maintain it if they get up one day and do not like it, or can't be bothered to make the effort.
There are benefits to the way our world has changed- undoubtedly, but we must be careful not to lose the important things that stand a good chance of being forgotten forever if we arn't careful.
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2006-11-02 22:45:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother and father divorced in the early seventies, she was treated like an outcast because even then it was unheard of to do such a thing, the man went to work and the woman stayed at home bringing up the family, these days in a lot of cases couples have to juggle bringing up families with at times both of them working to survive and along with this all the added pressures, i am divorced and regardless if i was right or wrong to do it one unhappy person in a relationship can soon turn to two and how long should that really go on until you both admit things just are not gonna work, we only get one chance at life. I don't think marriage has become devalued but evolved as society has
2006-11-03 00:35:39 · answer #4 · answered by JAMIE H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No question about it. Marriage use to be for life. There are so many people who rush into marriage, not thinking that it is a life long relationship, till death do you part and it should be taken as seriously as anything. I think people dont understand that it is about commitment, repsect for each other and mainly friendship and trust. I think it is nice to fall inlove and think your partner is the most wonderful man/woman in the world, but that does not mean you should marry them to prove your love.
Celebrities and gold diggers are not even worried about the value of marriage, as they are very superficial and only care about material things and not the real love you should feel for your partner. I think alot of people fall inlove and they feel head over heels and feel like they cant go a day without this person, but they mistake this wonderful relationship for a trusting, respectful life long marriage.Yes, marriage has become devalued and to be honest I dont even see the point in it anyway these days. I wish some people would use their common sense.
2006-11-02 22:44:41 · answer #5 · answered by Jade22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally. Whenever I'm at a wedding and I listen to the priest rambling on, I think no way do they actually understand all that... A lot of my cousins married really young, to guys they hadnt even been with very long, and I really think it was just a case of "we're in love, let's have a party and live together" because ultimately they know they can just get divorced. It's ridiculous.
I went to a wedding this summer. It wasn't a big fancy occasion at all, but everyone knew that they had something very, very special- and we were all so happy for them. It was beautiful, and just what a wedding should be like. I've been to loads of weddings in my life, and only seen that once.
2006-11-02 22:45:13 · answer #6 · answered by - 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it has sadly become devalued but it shouldn't be. If people worked harder at their marriage to make them work, divorce wouldn't be so prevalent. I know some marriages aren't meant to be and need to end for everyones sake but lots of people just don't bother trying. Also lots don't bother marrying anymore, which is a pity, as marriage is special and can't compare to a lifetime together without the sacrament.
2006-11-02 23:43:22 · answer #7 · answered by cherub 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily. In the bad old days, everyone had to get married young just so's they could get sex. Nowadays, most people are more likely to put off marriage until they meet someone they're head over heels about, which to me means they take marriage far more seriously. There's always going to be unhappy matches and golddiggers (we shouldn't look at the past with rose-tinted glasses - young poor women have always been after rich old men!), it's just that now people have the freedom to leave an unhappy marriage. I think you could argue marriage is comparatively strong now - people have a genuine choice to stay in it, rather than being trapped in it.
2006-11-02 23:01:38 · answer #8 · answered by Nikita21 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe the institution of marriage is antiquated! Religious people out there tell you NOT to live together unless married. They teach the until death do you part routine------The brain washing in some churches is unbelievable! I lived in a 10 year abusive home with the idea UNTIL death us do PART----this man broke my spirit, I suffered low self-esteem all because I was brain washed to believe UNTIL DEATH US DO PART (Fundamental Baptist---HOG WASH)----
I believe now---if two people are truly committed to one another they should be allowed to live together forever without that piece of legal paper----yes it's great for tax purpose benefits but other than that what is the point of MARRIAGE?
I feel if two people are residing together and are committed to one another and are faithful to one another----in all reality this couple is married!
2006-11-02 23:02:18 · answer #9 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone says that women marry old men for their money, but what about the men that go threw a divorce, and they loose everything. They are in so much debt. So
they look for a women, with money . So here we go again,
he ends up hurting her. Where does stop and where does
it begin.
2006-11-02 23:13:18 · answer #10 · answered by wHaT eVeR 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋