if love is so great why then should we suffer so much for it.i am a victim of the pains of love and now iam let wondering why do we love.should we even both getting married or are we afraid to grow old alone
2006-11-02 22:18:36 · 13 answers · asked by ladykash 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Find the right one and you won't have to wonder anymore ... they will not leave you!
2006-11-02 22:24:40 · answer #1 · answered by rebelsgurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being alone is not the worst thing that can happen to you: staying far too long in the wrong relationship is worse than that, for example.
And here, I am speaking from my own experience. Looking back at every failed relationship I ever had, I knew they weren't workable fairly early on but tried to ignore the red flags that came up and stayed in those relationships sometimes many years despite knowing that.
Break-ups, especially if you've been very intimate for a long time, can hurt, but... that's nature's way of making sure you remember the experience, and hopefully learn from it.
Does that mean you should give up? Well, you wouldn't ever get to be good at anything if you quit the first time you failed at it and then swore it off for good. The key is learning from the experience and not holding onto regrets or resentments and seeing it for the positive learning experience it was.
Having said that, there have been times where I focused on my career and didn't feel I had the badwidth to do that and deal with relationship issues in a positive way, and I didn't have any relationships while I felt that way. Eventually, however, I came to realize that partnering is part of being human, and like any other life-goal that you want to be successful at (e.g. like my career), I was going to have to develop the skills to be good at it, and then I was going to have to find somebody who interested me and who was interested in me that also had the good attributes and skills neccessary to make a relationship work.
I'm still hoping to meet that woman one day while enjoying my life in the meantime, and the last relationship break-up did hurt, but I walked away from that with a lot of valuable insight, and I began redefining my whole concept of relationships (with a litle help, of course).
A lot of people leaving bad marriages can probably relate similiar experiences if they have learned from their marriages and worked on their own development.
2006-11-03 00:31:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a personal issue. We love because it is an instinctive human behavior. We want to share. We want to be with someone else. Yet, we hurt each other so badly because of our selfish nature. If you believe in the bible, then you know that the family structure is God's ultimate design. satan has been trying to break that down for all time. The hurt that we feel is what happens when we crack the design of God and give in to the plans of satan. Do not be afraid to love, be cautious. You need to love a person that shares the same blueprint about love that you do.
2006-11-02 22:54:37 · answer #3 · answered by MeToo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We only suffer when it goes bad. Love because Love makes your heart lift and your life swell with joy. Love because it is the only hope for mankind to have a society which is happy and helpful. Find a secure family relationship and you have achieved what should be the ultimate goal.
Good Luck and God Bless!
2006-11-02 22:37:29 · answer #4 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people are better off alone...some people need love... i believe things happen for a reason, we all have personal trials we need to go through in order to learn lessons AND be able to really appreciate the good stuff when it comes. if we never had they yuck how would we recognize the good? its not always fun but in the end you can only hope that you will come out stronger and wiser from it...chin up brighter days will come your way...but don't look at the past...look forward so you can see it coming..
2006-11-02 22:25:33 · answer #5 · answered by never2pink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ideal is to love and to be totally happy and rewarded .
In real life , love means sometimes pain , tears , dissapointments , etc .
But people who can feel the pain are people who can love the most ... they have a sensitive soul !
So do you !
Probably I should tell you to leave that person and to find that ideal love ...
2006-11-02 22:25:59 · answer #6 · answered by alina d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is all about ups n downs....happiness and sorrows....so enjoy it as long as it lasts....enjoy the pain...it feels good when the pain is given by the person u love.
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2006-11-02 22:30:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is said........."it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all"............i totally believe this saying!
as for you, i think having an experience is necessary...so do fall in love and go through everything that life gives you.......i am sure if you follow ur heart u will get the positive result soon.........don't loose heart!
all the best!
2006-11-02 22:26:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but yet we want to try to find love in a marriage.
2006-11-03 00:41:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything worth having takes a lot of work.
2006-11-02 23:29:58 · answer #10 · answered by SheRa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Such is life... love like u have never been hurt before...becoz u never know who wont hurt u... do your part, God will do the rest. for every person who hurt you, they will be hurt 10 times more!
2006-11-02 22:28:47 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋