I suppose this is more or less directed to those who are/been married or is/getting engaged, however everyones opinion is welcomed.
I'm curious to know if you knew that they were 'the one', or did it not come to you until later? How did you know they were the one - was it feeling, instinct, or...? Did you ever feel as though you weren't in love with them at one point or another? Or maybe that they weren't the one?
The overall reason in writing such a topic is basically I thought he was what I wanted, and I would've given everything to make it all work. Now I'm sat questioning if that's what I really want, and if I even love the guy like I had thought I did -- yet I still want him (maybe I'm emotionally addicted or something?), but I don't know if thats my own guilt in the fact he never did anything for me to suddenly change my feelings. Has anyone ever experience such a feeling?
2006-11-02 21:42:56 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was a single mom with two children when I met my husband. My oldest son had always been protective of me and the men I would date. There hadn't been one man that I had dated that my oldest son liked or would even really talk to. When my husband met my oldest son they just clicked. They talked and talked, they hung out, played games, etc. It was pretty cool to see how well they got along. I knew if my oldest son liked him that he had to be a pretty good guy. After we got married we had a child together and he treats them all equally and the same. That was when I knew that he was the one for me. Truly think about your relationship and try to picture your life without him in it. If you think you would/could be happy without him, then maybe you shouldn't be together. But if not, then you may just be nervous. Getting married is a big scary deal and should not be taken lightly. Follow your heart...Best Wishes
2006-11-02 22:04:00 · answer #1 · answered by ddbach1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"The One" is a long process sometimes. You have feelings of being in love with someon, you take it and test it. Be away from him for a short time. If he is all you think of day and nite, at all times and you just cant wait to be with him, its real. As far as your questioning it, thats normal. Emotional attachment is a possibility, but check it out first.
I met my husband at 13, My heart fell to my stomach, my hands shook, and I smiled all day and nite. Every minute was spent wondering when will I see him again. Watching the clock to get out of school. That stare, eye to eye when you meet up, that smile that just says "I am so happy to see you" thats true love.
That is how it happened for me 30 years ago, and I still smile that way when he walks into the room.
2006-11-03 05:52:10 · answer #2 · answered by wingedladyk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Im in a relationship for almost 4years. Everything changed. From all yes till all no. From us (women) will become more irritate & thinking we are changing our feelings, and i guess its common for every1. Eg: everyday having the same food or doing the same thing will make us sick also. Love only last short while feeling can stay forever.....
2006-11-03 05:52:48 · answer #3 · answered by kudos Qi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BEING MARRIED NOW AND DAYS IS NOT A QUESTION OF WHETER HIS THE RIGHT ONE OR NOT....IS ABOUT YOU... DO YOU FEEL GOOD WITH THIS MAN??EVEN THOUGH HE MIGHT NOT BE THE RIGHT ONE?? IF YOU THINK IS A MISTAKE THERE IS ALWAYS SEPARATION OR DIVORCE... THIS THINGS ARE NOT AS BAD AS IT USE TO BE.... A COUNSELOR CAN HELP YOU WITH YOUR CONFUSION BECAUSE IT SOUND LIKE YOU ARE CONFUSE.... AND YOU SHOULD GO AND TRY SOME THERAPY BEFORE YOU MAKE AN IMPULSIVE DECISION....YOUR QUESTION WAS A LITTLE OFF I COULDN'T UNDERSTAND IT MUCH... BUT I DID FELT AS IF YOU FEEL VERY CONFUSE ABOUT SOMETHING IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP.... COUNSELING IS GOOD FOR YOU.. BELIEVE ME IT WOULD HELP.. GOOD LUCK HON.
2006-11-03 08:01:46 · answer #4 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"The One" is a fairy tale just like " True Love".
The question is do you love him and see yourself with him for a long time. There can and might be others who you love but do not go wondering if he is The One. You can look forever and not be sure about that.
2006-11-03 07:36:22 · answer #5 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like another member, slow down the world isn't going to end tonight and if it did this wouldn't matter anyways.Like i said just slow down and the right one will come to you, and you will know because it will feel like no feeling you've ever had.You'll see.
2006-11-03 05:54:34 · answer #6 · answered by cjett63 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that everyone wonders this from time to time. When you are apart does it bother you? Do you constantly think of him and wonder what he is doing? Does he think of you all the time? These are all questions that only you can answer. Follow your heart and your gut feelings.
2006-11-03 09:54:55 · answer #7 · answered by jeffko82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's no magic realisation, you don't get up one day and just know. Do you see yourself growing old with this person? Do you both know, respect and are prepared to support each other in getting what you want from both of your lives?
2006-11-03 05:46:23 · answer #8 · answered by Thanks! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that person cares alot for you and you cares alot for that person. The person will always agree with you, correct you when your wrong, fight for your dignity, save you, remember you and loves you........
2006-11-03 05:49:10 · answer #9 · answered by POWERBS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll just know
see ya
2006-11-03 05:50:40 · answer #10 · answered by timbers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋