i am with my partner for 8 years we have a daughter together i get along with his 3 children iam younger than his daughter
2006-11-02 21:07:56 · 17 answers · asked by bella 28 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They should choose what they feel comfortable with calling you. My grandfather married a lady that is younger than my father way back when I was about 3yrs old. We have always called her by her first name and when I describe her I call her my grandfather's second wife. In your case maybe just dad's partner, if stepmum doesn't work...cause in reality you aren't in a mum position, so most likely older children wouldn't feel comfortable with that 'title'. I think girlfriend doesn't sound as permanant as 8 yrs would make you.
best wishes
2006-11-02 21:14:50 · answer #1 · answered by mariah s 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First name would do
2006-11-02 21:33:36 · answer #2 · answered by Sammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the children decide how they feel comfortable with you. Perhaps they will find it easier to associate with you as a family friend and address you by your first name because of the age disparities. The most you can hope for is to be comfortable around them, and let them decide what relation they want to maintain with you.
2006-11-02 21:12:37 · answer #3 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar problem my son choose to call has Stepmum by her first name, no problem.
It really does not matter what they call you, so long as it done with the respect you deserve.
2006-11-02 21:17:23 · answer #4 · answered by galaxy_glider 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my dad remarried I was grown up and no longer living at home and so felt it very hard to call my stepmother "mum" - She had nothing to do with raising me or my childhood and so I only felt comfortable calling her by her real name, I loved her to bits but always thought of her as my dads wife rather than my mum
2006-11-02 21:15:50 · answer #5 · answered by Paul 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what the question is here, but as you are not married to your partner you are not his children's stepmother. You are his partner. If you are younger than your partner's daughter it is hardly surprising that they don't want to think of you as a stepmother.
2006-11-02 21:11:25 · answer #6 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
His children should call you by your name or whatever they are most comfortable with. I don't think calling you stepmom or mom is appropriate since you are so young!
2006-11-02 21:11:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
infact i dont know what to say. since you are younger than the man daughter
2006-11-02 21:12:47 · answer #8 · answered by Jecs O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When talking about you - my father's partner or by your name
To your face - your name.
You're not his wife, and because you're the mother of their half sister, you're not a girlfriend.
2006-11-02 21:59:18 · answer #9 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them call you by your name, you dont have to be labelled as anything you are an individual.
2006-11-02 21:10:54 · answer #10 · answered by Annie M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋