Boyfriend Trouble?

Question

Right I live with my boyfriend and we have a child together. Last night he was going for just a couple of drinks after work then getting the train home, i was to meet him in the station and drive us home, we live in an awkward area no direct bus or train.
So 8.30 comes- the supposid time hes leaving, he doesnt answer his phone when i ring, then he txts me an hours later saying im leaving now, so i head for the train station sit then for half an hour waiting on him, no sign of him, i txt him he says im just leaving now babe wont be long, eventually has to get a taxi all the way home, and becaue he brings home chips thinks its ok that he left me sitting there lick a spa and that hes over three hours late.
He then comes in, his phone rings once,so he left it down stairs, comes into bed tries to get it on ! and then falls asleep.
Are all men like this, because im not gonna put up with this for much longer, he thinks im over reacting, but if it was the other way around he would go mad

Answer 1

Is that it? ... Is that all he's got to say for himself?..... I agree with you - you should not have to put up with it - and what's more if I were you .... I wouldn't....
I would not be running around like a taxi service at any time - day or night - when you've got a child at home ..... who was looking after them? Or did you have to drag your child out into the night too?.... He should be a man .. and that means keeping his word ... if he says he's going to be home by a certain time ... then he should be - no if's or but's .... he's got a family, a child too.....
What's that about..... his phone going when he gets home and he 'leaves it downstairs' ..... after his night out - who would be ringing him? If it was his friends.... wouldn't they be ringing you to make sure he got home ok? ..... Good on you for not giving him any .... he doesn't deserve it .....
and in my book that would make be extremely suspicious - put together with everything else .....

And yes, there are many 'men' like him ..... I, like a lot of other women have had my fair share of his 'type'..... which is why I would tell you now to be on your guard ..... he's up to no good - no matter what lame/plausible excuses he may give you .....

Answer 2

Men don't get it! Why do they say one time but mean another? You are not overreacting, and he would have a hernia if you did the same thing. Tell him (not nagging) that you did not appreciate him leaving you sitting, alone, in the dark, worrying about him while he was having a fine old time. Tell him the next time, he must stick to the time agreed on, be it 3am or 8.30 pm, and that if for WHATEVER reason he can't make the time, he must phone you at least 15 mins or so BEFORE you leave to pick him up so that you at least A) don't waste your time and B) Know he is alright and not lying dead in a ditch somewhere. Good luck. If he does it again - do it just once back. It works. Trust me!

Answer 3

I think that he behaved quite inconsiderately. I would say this even if you did not have a child together, but you do and this only makes it worse. If you didn't have to bring your child with you, you would have had to go to all the trouble of finding a sitter in order to run around after him.

The way he behaved is just not on. Tell him this and if he doesn't take it seriously, tell him that next time he pulls a stunt like this you will not be hauling yourself out run around after him.

He could have had the decency to call you and let you know not to bother coming to meet him. There's no excuse! make him sleep on the sofa, why should you and your kid be disturbed on a school night because he's an inconsiderate pig?

Don't settle for it. if this becomes a pattern then you are going to end up being miserable. Tell him you are not a door mat and if he has if he has trouble figuring out where the doormat is he can have a long hard look at it next time he pulls this trick again and you lock him out on the front step!

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Answer 4

Yes. This is perfectly normal.

What happened was he had every intention of coming home early and on time. But got told that he was pus*sy whipped and that he could stay for just one more beer!!

Does he do this every night!! I dont think so. It sounds like you keep him on a pretty short leash, Is he not allowed to have a drink with his friends now and again ?

I agree he shouldnt have let you sit and wait for him. But that is a seperate issue. After all he has to wait for you when out shopping you dont seriously think that us men actually like looking in every womens clothes shop only to go back to the first one and buy the first thing that you looked at. Do you !!!!

cut him some slack !!!

Dont get so worked up, just tell him that if he is going to be late get a taxi home and his dinner will be in the microwave or the dog depending on how you feel.

And he can change, but it involves breaking his will and issolating him from his friends.

Answer 5

Give the Man his Freedom.If you start nagging him about wanting to go out chasing Women and Shanting a few Brews down he will leave you,and you do not want to raise a Kid all on your lonesome now do you.I do this kind of stuff weekly,my Girl knows she cannot change me,plus I do make a bit of Money down the Pub.As far as I am concerned it is none of her business what I choose to do,or how long I stay gone as long as I come home with some good old Fashioned Cash.Giving her some Cash to go Clothes shopping normally shuts her up anyhow.

Answer 6

No you are not overreacting. He was completely disrespctful and if he treats you like this in the beginning, it is only bound to get worse.

Have a serious talk with him and let him know that wont be tolerated. Either that or next time when you are suppossed to pick him up, stay home and have a bubble bath and txt him saying I am leaving now as you climb in.

Answer 7

Dump him he is a looser, my ex used to ring me at stupid o clock in the morning and get me too pick him up from somewhere and when i got there he would not be there.

Men like that are selfish and not worth the hastle even if he is the father of your child. thing about you for once and not running around after him

Answer 8

you're totally justified in being cross with him - andmore than entitled to keep it up until he does some serious grovelling.
Tell him how selfish and inconsiderate he was - the whole point of mobiles is to be contactable at all times! If it makes you feel any better - my mate went throught something similar last night - so you're not the only one dating a selfish git!
xx

Answer 9

Having a child around makes it a bit more difficult to break up, you need to set some ground rules espcially that you have a baby, not all men are like this, this man of your needs to start to take some responsibility for his actions

Answer 10

They're not all like this. I'd leave the fecker stew at the station, let him make his own way home if he's going to be late. And tell him to shove his chips where the sun don't shine.