My man, doubts me, why becoz i emailed one of my old male friends living 1000 miles away that he dint aprove, why becoz i posted a question on yahoo very similar to wat he did, giving a our profile n asking for a chat friend. He calls me s lut n cheater. I stood by him defying the world, against the wishes of my near n dear one's and lost many relations in that process. I love him and only knew him as my world. He loved me too but humiliated me every now n then out of his suspicion. We called it of yesterday on his insistance as he says he doesn't aprove what i say & do. The problem here is I cant think of a world w/o him, I love him like crazy, I am on sedatives just to forget the break up but thats not the solution, I knw. How do I live? Can any one suggest? reconciliation is not possible, I think it wont work out, i have my limits to take humiliation & he has his to hide his suspicion, its thu for good now. Pls help ......
2006-11-02 20:56:35 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i was never looking for someone else than him to be dependant on, he loved me truely n cared for my welfare but just that he was too difficult to be convinced that i love him too, n chatting of emailing any of my male friends do not culminate to cheating on him.
2006-11-02 21:10:41 · update #1
may be i lacked to give him the amount of secuity that he required but, i loved him n he knew it. I never was inclined for a break off even after small tiffs off n on. he was to insistant on break off..
2006-11-02 21:13:10 · update #2
its very fresh...you only split up yesterday....the end of a meaningful relationship can effect you like the death of a family member....i know this sounds like a cliche....but it takes time....you will get used to the new life ahead of you...and you will find happiness again...in the meantime try to keep lots of company and maybe its time to make a mends with some of the relatives that you crossed earlier......
2006-11-02 21:01:48 · answer #1 · answered by askaway 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need counselling. You sound exceedingly needy especially since you think of 'your man' as your whole world. That's an unhealthy veiw of relationships. While you should enjoy your partner and love your partner and want to be with your partner, you should have your own life and your own personality. Never give that up for a man.
You need to move on and find a man who respects you and doesn't worry that you are cheating every time you talk to someone of the opposite sex. Your ex sounds abusive. You gave up your friends, your life, he humiliated you and he called you names! Don't let anyone treat you like this again. You are worth so much more than that scum!
2006-11-02 21:01:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First time heals and that is about the only thing that does heal in matters of the heart. So give yourself some time.
Secondly, his suspicions will only worsen as time goes by, let that be your comfort. The fact that you have lost friends and relatives over this man is proof that you are entrenched deeply in a cycle of domestic abuse. The abuser wants his "victim" to be isolated. The second symptom of abuse is his suspicions and his "monitoring" of your personal correspondence.
IF you stay with this partner you can expect more and more loss of personal freedom. As he "conditions" you to abuse you can expect your clothing to be destroyed, you being forced out of your cohabitation and the destruction of something that is very important to you, more often than not, this involves a beloved pet. Yes, I said pet, abusers OFTEN murder the pets of the "victim."
Put this and him behind you. You cannot change him with your love as many, many women would tell you if they could speak from the grave. I am lucky, I was not killed by my abuser, who also became my husband and father to my children. That was over 25 years ago and I see the far reaching consequences of ignoring my gut instinct and getting out, I stayed and now I see the damage in my children.
I wish you luck and strength.
Peace.
2006-11-02 21:13:00 · answer #3 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it will be difficult, but try to stay busy. Reconcile with friends and family that you gave up because of him, maybe volunteer at the local hospital. Just find something to add to you life to keep you busy, get off the medication and soon you will realize how truly lucky you are not to have him in your life. Best wishes and good luck!
2006-11-02 21:04:36 · answer #4 · answered by Badkitty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
where was the trust ? im still friends with all my ex's and my husband doesnt mind. he gets on ok with most of them.. tis a trust things. you are better off without him. his constant questioning and calling you names would be enough for me to tell him where to go and that i deserve better then him. get a back bone and leave him in the gutter . your better than that and you know it. dont let him drag u into the drugs dependancy cos of his insecurities. the question becomes why did you turn to others for companionship if he was giving you what you needed. answer is he wasnt giving you what you needed.. good luck and be happy
2006-11-02 21:06:29 · answer #5 · answered by belliehi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself time to grieve and heal...a breakup is similar to a death when it comes to emotions. In time, you will realize his suspicious nature would eventually destry you and your happiness. Move forward. Experience is the best teacher...and when you learn from a mistake, it becomes a lesson. Good luck
2006-11-02 21:13:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-28 11:39:01 · answer #7 · answered by dustman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get super busy....that should displace the negative energy of your sadness...most men find weakness a turn off...so move on...by the way, you can grieve...find a trusted friend with whom you can share your troubles with...then move on!
i know it's hard...but if you say that this guy treated you with humiliation...i'd say...good riddance to him! i have faith that if you have hope in your heart, you will find some else who would treat you much better!
God bless you.
2006-11-02 21:05:45 · answer #8 · answered by overwhelmed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems you are tired of living with the man and you want to call it off. how can you say reconcilation is not possible if you really love each other. think fast for your good
2006-11-02 21:08:59 · answer #9 · answered by Jecs O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From your previous questions I surmise you were not married.
Why not take a road trip and visit one of your old flames?
2006-11-02 21:30:54 · answer #10 · answered by Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋