i donot know from what mistake he is not talking with me
2006-11-02 20:55:50 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Assuming that your assessment is correct and he is upset about something you did, be persistent. Continue to ask him to talk with you about it. Let him know it's because his feelings are important to you and you care about your relationship.
His behavior is passive aggressive and if you let him be silent and let his silence cause you to feel bad, you are encouraging him to treat future situations similarly.
On the other hand, if it is not about you at all pestering him to talk is a bad idea so you really need to make sure it's about you. If it's not about you, still let him know that you are here to talk whenever he is ready, but give him some space.
2006-11-02 21:06:02 · answer #1 · answered by Zana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you need to make sure that when he talks, you listen. All to often either spouse will jump in with a solution, when what is needed is understanding and a chance to just let it out.
More info would be better here. But maybe it is your approach to trying to get him to talk. If you make him feel attacked or defensive you loose.
Maybe try this, works with my wife when she is not really "Ready" to discuss things. Make a home-made coupon for him. Put it addressed to him, no exploration date, good between you and him only and sign it.
Make it say: Good for one uninterupted conversation, you talk about what ever you want. I will just listen. something like that.
Maybe he isn't ready to talk yet, this idea makes you open and accesable when he is ready.
2006-11-03 06:12:26 · answer #2 · answered by SRC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long as this been going on? It could be a sign of depression but it would be good to find out what is happening. I am including a link to a group that works on strengthen troubled marriages and it is for both men and women although it does focus on abused men. I do know you would be welcomed there and they would try to help you strengthen your marriage.
2006-11-03 05:01:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have financial problems or other problems not concerning you.
most women think it is due to their fault that their husband is upset. in most cases it is not true but not only will not help but also worsen the situation.
ask him why he do not talk with you and if he do not answer, do not persist. let him alone. most men like to solve their problem by themselves.
2006-11-03 05:34:16 · answer #4 · answered by Ormoz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is going on that is not right. He is hiding what the problem is. Talk to him and if he won't open up suggest marriage counseling. If he won't go with you; go yourself. Try to get to the root of the problem as soon as possible.
2006-11-03 05:02:54 · answer #5 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that u are not a mind reader so cant know what upset him if he doesnt tell you! honestly he expects u to guess? sit him down n ask him, talk to him in a nice n calm manner. Men are like babies, u have to talk to treat them like that...!
2006-11-03 05:06:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open the lines of communication. Let him know he can confide in you without the fear of your judgment or ridicule. Comfort and support him, empathisize with his position and always validate his feelings. Tell him how you feel and stay true to your belief of trying to make it work....
2006-11-03 04:57:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
R u also not talking to him? Why not put this question to him and sort out the matter?
2006-11-03 04:58:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him why he is not talking to you or give us more details.
2006-11-03 04:57:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
suggest couple's counselling. or sit and discuss with him with an open mind...
2006-11-03 04:57:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋