2006-11-02 20:46:33 · 16 answers · asked by swish 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I think the two are not that easily compared. Clearly, the difference is whether you are in a profession or career that suits the style you have. Let's take the legal profession, for example. The quiet, intelligent one would be good at research and writing, and the pushy one would be good in the courtroom. The quiet, intelligent one would be great for a firm that does a lot of corporate work, and therefore uses a lot of research and writing, and seldom goes into the courtroom. And either one of them might be good negotiators, depending on what was being negotiated.
In other fields, you might have the quiet one doing the laboratory research, and the assertive one doing the business end of a technology company. Or you might have a publication where one does most of the writing, and the other most of the promotion.
I suppose what I'm saying, in effect, is that what gets the most results is a partnership of these two styles.
2006-11-02 20:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most results you will get being confident, assertive and intelligent. It's not too common to find all these qualities in one person, but it's something worth trying. It is possible to be confident and assertive, but not pushy; I feel sad when I see many people thinking it's not.
But if you, for some weird reason, just have to pick from those two, the answer still isn't too obvious. It completely depends on what you consider as a good result in life; is it money, power, wisdom, happiness, family or what? You can't get everything with a single approach, so the golden mean applies also here. I think you know what you can get better with either of these methods.
Personally, I would pick quiet, shy and intelligent because that's what I'm better at, so that would give better results for me.
2006-11-03 06:16:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tell my kids to always be nice to people you meet, and not to be rude etc. We do this because it is right. A bonus (not why we do it) is that people will do a bit extra for you, or yesterday I bought some conduit which I normally pay $4.60 for, I got for $2.50 a length.
I get more stuff, free stuff, extra help, just for being nice. I do the same thing for others too.A couple weeks ago I bought some flexible conduit by the metre. I only wanted 1 metre and there was about 2-3 left. The lady wrote it down as 1. About 10 years ago I saved her a fair bit of money on her Hot water Service by not just replacing it. what we normally did, but checking it out to see it was only the element gasket leaking. The point is you don't know what the future holds so be nice, Except on here I can be a complete prick. LOL.
2006-11-03 04:57:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a person who is confident, assertive and pushy gets more results in life...
2006-11-03 04:49:33 · answer #4 · answered by svpasamba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confident, assertive and pushy. I can attest to that.
I used to be a mellow, follower sort of person/kid. I did what everyone wanted, I was perfect that way, and I wanted to please everyone. Lots of times I didn't speak up and I regretted it. For instance, one time my doctor sent me home in labor so I ended up having my daughter at home! Now...if I were older and wiser I would've thrown the BIGGEST fit telling my doctor "heck, I'm in freakin' labor here and I'm NOT going home!"
My sister is a drama queen. Sometimes it works for her and sometimes it doesn't . It'll get her thru the ER faster, people feeling sorry for her and handing her money, etc. But it's embarassing! Other people ignore her b/c they think she is a drama queen.
I tend to speak up now like at restaurants that did me wrong. And managers really try to make it up to me. If I was shy, I wouldn't get reparations now would I? I would get that job I want, that promotion. Pushy people walk all over shy mellow/quiet people. Madonna isn't shy so that's why she's super famous and rich and a super businesswoman. Shy doesn't get you very far.
Don't get me wrong, I do believe in being humble. Jesus was humble, but at the same time he was assertive and stood up for what he believed in!
2006-11-03 04:55:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being confident, assertive, intelligent and a good listener will usually yield the best results.
(Note: "More" results are different than "best" results. So if you really are looking for "MORE" results, then of course your second list of options will yield MORE results, though not necessarily the results you were seeking.)
2006-11-03 07:25:41 · answer #6 · answered by Chris Torvik - Indio, CA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confident assertive and pushy will get you what u want, quiet shy and intelligent will get you everything.
2006-11-03 04:48:58 · answer #7 · answered by donjya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confidant, assertive, pushy and yes add one more that is pragmatic.
2006-11-03 05:08:32 · answer #8 · answered by buttar506 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quiet, intelligence is only perceived, common sense speaks louder. An old chinese proverb: Only a fool speaks.
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2006-11-03 04:53:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The squeeky wheel gets the grease. That's just the way it is.
2006-11-03 04:47:57 · answer #10 · answered by Star 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋