Please help me I'm so tired... I fear for my health?

Question

My partner of two years has gone on his annual holiday with his ex-wife and two young girls.
He promised he'd txt and call me but he hasn't every time i've tried to txt him message has come back as failed.
I havent slept since he went and i've got another week to go!!
This is the first time he's gone abroad and i'm worried. I'm n ot even sure where he's gone i know it's portugal but thats it. Please help me ..... whats going on?

I can send txts abroad also international roaming ....for calls. I have just phoned him again but no answer

his ex usually books a holiday in this country, caravan holiday, and i usually go up to wherever they are and visit. This time she booked portugal and only told him last tuesday it was portugal, they flew last thursday

Answer 1

he is intentionally not answering your text messages and calls because--he is busy... He is busy doing what he should not be doing. He is having an affair with his ex. You should have never allowed him to go without you. Actually the kids should go with you and him on a vacation, without the ex. Anyway, what's done had been done. What you ought to do is go on a vacation yourself and have fun going solo on this trip. When he comes back he would wonder where the heck have you been. Two can play his game you know.

Answer 2

Well what I would not do is sit at home brooding waiting for him to call. You must go out and mix with other people and try and have a good time.

On the positive front it could be that he cannot get a signal if he is in Portugal. I was there two years ago and found it the Devils own to get a signal with my network. And I ended up having to use a payphone. You have another week to go so give him the benefit of the doubt as he will probably find a way of contacting you very soon.

You have every-right to fear for your health, so with this in mind and remembering that there is diddly squad you can do about anything just now do stop worrying. I am sure that there is a good explanation. Though I'm sure that others will play the devils advocate here and tell you that he is up to no good.

Good luck and sleep per chance to dream. It will be fine tomorrow you'll see.

Answer 3

Why didnt you go to?
Nowadays split families is a way of life, people who thought they were in love and have children together somehow fall out of love and go looking elsewhere for a new life but what about the children? how can they possible have a traditional upbringing now that one parent has moved out? They cant, and that means they cant have traditional family holdays aswell. What were you thninking letting him go off with his ex? if you two are to have any sort of life together you should be included too, it just cant work like this. So he's off doing god knows what whilst your left at home alone not sleeping for the worry. And he hasnt called? He has some serious issues. If I were you I'd find a last minute deal and take a mate to ibiza or something because quite frankly whats the difference? He's not worth the stress and worry.

Answer 4

I dont mean to be insulting to you, is this actually for real? Did you really allow your partner to go on his annual holiday with his EX wife? The children I can understand, but you should be with him and his children. You did state he is your PARTNER. He doesnt answer his text messages. You havent slept a week? I would suggest you do this. Walk around the home calmly breathing in and out slowly calming the mind, now walk over to a mirror look deeply in your reflection. After you have done that go directly to the kitchen pantry. Pull out some large hefty garbage bags with ties. Go into the bedroom toss your partners clothing in the bags. Do not bother to fold, sort he will do it on the other end. Perhaps his EX may help. Now after that is completed open the front door and toss those bags clear across the lawn, close the door, smile and call the locksmith and get on with your life. Please love yourself enough to never accept this from another man. He is hurting you why? Because you allow him to. Wake up, do alot of praying for strength and get on with your life. You deserve so much much better!

Answer 5

The partner is not responding for his own selfish reasons. The love in the relationship seems to be fading. This is someone that wants to have the his cake and eat it too. Feeling the way you do has compromised your own self-worth. He takes no responsibility in efforts to console you or communicate what is going on. You are taking too much responsibility for what you even said he never fulfills his end of the deal. Just talking or texting. Let him be. Find something for you and try to forget about him as much as you can. It's hard! Do it for you? If not you are going to go crazy. He isn't worth any of that. Easier said than done, I know. Find whatever will help take your mind away from that man.

Answer 6

seems a bit strange really. I mean holidays with his kids, but the ex aswell? what is also suspicious is that this time it was abroad, and with the fear of not being able to text him or call will obviously concern you, but try not to worry, he's a fully grown adult and can take of himself and the kids. Use this time alone to just chill! get together with a few mates, have a night out or get a girly film and stay in. If he's having a fun, relaxed time, so can you.

Answer 7

nobody can answer ur question but ur partner. since he is not around to do that and this things are already upsetting u - why dont u quit worrying.

if ur health is important to u - u should stop worrying and leave everything in the hands of god. i know it easier said than done but just a question did ur worrying and anxiety changed the situation ur into. it did not give any answer to all ur problems nowl.

try thinking positive things that everything will be fine then get busy do something more productive and try to remove it on ur mind.

hope this things will help u
wishing u the best and gud luck
god bless

Answer 8

I don't want to make you feel even worse but WHAT ARE YOU DOING GIRL! why is he going on hols with his ex why don't he take the kids on hols with you a way of you getting to no them and i would think giving mum a break, looks a bit suspicious to me, please listen to your self, you now deep down what you have to do you have answered the question in your message do you want to feel like this every time he go's away and for god sakes stop phoning and texting it will make you go mad, phone some girlie's have a rant with them about it and make the most of the time hes away and when he comes back he better justify good luck babe all the best.

Answer 9

What is it that you're worried about? That something awful has happened to him, or that there's something going on between him and his ex?

If your texts to him are failing, then his to you probably will be too.

I don't know what to suggest to you, really. Telling you not to worry won't help, as you will anyway. Try to relax and find something that will take your mind off it a bit. He'll be back soon enough, and you can find out what's been going on then.

Answer 10

You know faith and trust are key in a good relationship. Maybe he has no service where he is at or maybe he is spending time with his girls. You should just try to relax and try taking up a hobby to get your mind on something else. That is what I had to do when my hubby started going out of town for business a week after we were married and again a week after I delievered our first child. Just remember love and trust will see you through.