is it appropriate to get marrieid at the tender age of 20?

Answer 1

Of course it is all right. You are SUPPOSED to get married at an early age so that you can have your family while you are young and healthy. I was 21 and my wife was 19. that was 26 years and five children ago. Still married, still in love, still on our honeymoon. Don't believe the materialistic naysayers who try to tell you that you need a lot of money and security before marriage--they are wrong.

Answer 2

It all depends on your relationship, maturity level, ability to communicate, and culture. If you have been together a long time, you are secure in your relationship, you are able to discuss things like money, the future, chores, all the un-fun parts of being married, and your family is supportive - then I would say that it could be appropriate to get married at 20.

Marriage is never a sure thing no matter what. My grandparents knew each other three months and saw each other a total of 26 times before getting married and they are very very happy and have been married 53 years. Whereas my mom and dad knew each other for 8 years before getting married and it bombed. I got married a week before I turned 23, a lot younger than I originally thought I would - but I was in a place to do so. We'd both finished college, we were able to discuss the serious and boring aspects of married life, and were truly committed to making things work.

Bear in mind though, if you are 20 you still have a lot of changing left to do. Everyone grows up at different rates, but there are very few people who had the same priorities at 20 that they do even a mere 2 years later. Also, at 20 your ability to have a good and steady income is considerably less that it will be as you get older. As unromantic as it is, money is a major stressor in marriage - at least it can be. You may also find that babies often follow marriage pretty closely and the sum of new responsibilities, fiscal and emotional, can be more than you bargained for.

Many years ago the average age of marriage was a good deal younger than it is today, in my opinion because responsibility was also assumed at a much younger age. You have to be willing to leave behind a lot of the "fun" trappings of youth - partying, carefree late nights, the ability to dump someone when they get old/annoying. You have be willing to enjoy a new kind of life - married life. Which is very rewarding (and I love it personally) but by the time I got married I was done with my desires to lead the kind of life I did when I was younger.

No matter your age, marriage isn't something to enter into lightly - and if you are having doubts (concern over your age) then perhaps giving it more time is the best solution. Just because you don't get married right away doesn't mean you can't still do it in a few more years.

Answer 3

I got married when i was 20 (August 28, 2006). I turned 21 about 2 months later (October 15). My husband is 26 and will be 27 in January. We have a son that turned 1 this past Sunday (that's right...born out of "wed-lock" and i wouldn't have had it any other way). We also have another son that will be here in about a month and a half. We live on our own...pay bills...buy groceries...everything that a couple that is 40 years old would be doing. When you find the right person for you, it doesn't matter if you are 20 or 40, then you know that that person is the one for you. age shouldn't matter.

Answer 4

hi
i got marred at the age of 19 and have had the best 7 years of my life. People told me i was too young but i felt tat i may as well be happy at the moment as we don't know what will happen in the future.
i cant say that my marriage has been all good but the hole point is to work at it and not to give up at the first hurdle or even the 100 th. it is hard work sometimes but worth it
hope this helps
good look

Answer 5

It really depends on the maturity of the people involved. I was married at 18, divorced at 20 and remarried at 33. I even had one child with my first husband and three children with my second (it took us 13 years before we finally married . . . one month before our #3 was born).

There really isn't any "good" age to get married or to have children. These are extremely personal decisions that need to be made only by the two people involved.

Good luck!

Answer 6

I don't see why not. I was married with a baby at the age of 18. Been together for 26 years now, with 3 sons!

Answer 7

I got married at 21 and i was divorced at 22. my mum got married 17 now shes still married to my dad at 52! it is really hard nowdays though lifestyles have changed so much since our parents days. All you can do is try your best, i dont think it matters really what age just be sure its what you want and work hard at it marriage takes a lifetime to perfect!

Answer 8

I got married at 19.So?
20 isnt tender.
2 is tender.
It may seem early though but at the end of it its a personal choice.If youre prepared for the responsibilty then go for it.But please make sure you do it for being in love,cuz frankly no other reason is worth it.
P.S-What,by the way does this question contain to be categorised in the "Pregnancy" section?

Answer 9

It depends on many circumstances. The most important is the Family, its customs, its history. Marriage is not connected to love as much as to civil law and society behaviour. Marriage is a kind of economic cooperation. the status of marriage is different in different countries for exemple. I mean, if you don´t feel you love your future husband, then be careful about the marriage agreement. Think about divorcing before you get married. It sounds horrible but it can eliminate many troubles. If you are in love you may think it terribly narrow-minded. Just think it over...If you think your family wants you to get married and you do not feel like that, remind yourself that it is only you responsible for your own life.Good luck.

Answer 10

If the ones getting married at that age are emotionally and financially prepared for EVERYTHING that goes along with being married and can COMMUNICATE yeah it's appropriate.