I have a huge conscience and I suffer from guilt.?

Question

How to stop being too considerate for others and start living life freely and naturally

Answer 1

Can you pause and ask WHY you do stuff for others? Who is benefitting? If you don't figure in your own answer, then perhaps you could try and think of an alternative way. We are all taught to think of others and that it is selfish to put ourselves first but what we are not told is that if we don't consider our own feelings then we are going to feel cheated/sad/angry in the end. If I am not looking after myself then I am unable to look after others because the negative emotions get in the way and spoil my own potential pleasure - I am learning that it is good to be 'selfish' and that I have a right to enjoy things I choose to do. Try it once or twice, it can become addictive and the funny thing is that you will be MORE liked and MORE respected than you already are. Its really all about honesty and people respect that... If it harms none, do what thou will!

Answer 2

you need to think that if you do not live your life right now you will miss out on a lot of great opportuneties. put yourself first in your life, take care of yourself before everyone else and just do it as hard as it may seem since you need to focus on you and you only! time passes, people come and go and you are still stuck in this cycle unless you decide to break it for good. i had to also do it-break the cycle myself-and then started enjoying the small things in life such as going out with friends for coffee, eating lunch outside, getting away from the same scenery and trust me that it will help you! take care of yourself,focus on school, grades, classes and then family and friends and so forth! keep in mind that your top priority is you and to make yourself happy and no one else! just go and work out if stressed out, go out to dinner once in a while with pals or have a picnic in the park and then go on the trails with some friends or family! if you try to make others happy that works well for so much and then you realize that you are unhappy and as though depressed! do things that make you happy for yourself and not for others! take others opinion in consideration but do not let it rule your world! know what goals you want, be determined and go after them!do something that you want to do! if you try to please everyone that is okay but at the end of the day you will be unhappy! put yourself first, that will make you gain more self esteem and you will be more of the person you want to be!

Answer 3

U suffer from guilt only when u have disobeyed ur conscience. Ur first statement is therefore contradictory. Reg. being considerte to others in rendering service, please remember that ur help shud be forthcoming w/o being detrimental to urself or ur family and connections.

Answer 4

I'll tell you exactly what my psychologist told me, "its the way you're wired." I am the same way! Dwell over conversations I've had, and think OMG I hope I didn't offend anyone. ect.. What helps me ALOT is Xffexor :) Eases anxiety lots and lots for me, and I worry so much less.

Answer 5

Start treating yourself how you treat others.Learn to say no and have some you time.close your eyes breath in for 10 seconds breathe out for 10 seconds.Relax!Enjoy life you're here to live your life,no one elses.

Answer 6

Maybe having some guilt is natural for you. It is for me. I just try to keep it at bearable levels.

Answer 7

Unfortunately this is up to you only, since you know exactly how considerate you are and how considerate you want to be.

Answer 8

a book that was written with you in mind- "Co-dependent No More" by Melodie Beattie. it is available on cassette and CD if you're not a fan of reading.

Answer 9

if you're not doing anything wrong, why should you feel guilt? So long as you're not stepping on anybody else's toes, go ahead and do your thing!

Answer 10

I think you need to check it from psychological books