I have known a man for 10 years. 5 years ago, I let my irish temper get the best of me and I called it off between us. I rushed into a marriage I later found out was abusive, and he was there for me. Everything is planned out now, but I have some questions. What does it really mean when a man says "No matter who you marry, you'll always belong to me?" What does it mean, upon seeing your children and spoiling them rotten, when he says, in a good sort of sad way and not a bad one "They should have been from me. But you dumped me". What does it mean when you are talking, and the man says he wants more children in the future? Especially when you have to work hard most of the time to get his feelings out in the first place? What does it mean when he says he never thinks anything badly of you and that just a look from you "drives him nuts" and he can't resist kissing you? Is this just talk, or is it real since he didn't try anything in the beginning?
2006-11-02 19:38:29 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
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2006-11-02 19:49:42 · update #1
It was ended on my part due to my immaturity and inexperience. I had a very bad temper back then. I've calmed quite abit. It was my fault, and I admit it. I've apologized to him many many times about it, and he actually said there was no need to. I couldn't believe my ears, and that's one reason i am asking this on different boards to get a wide range of opinions.
2006-11-02 19:51:23 · update #2
I think most men and women can just dream about such a situation, of dumping someone, marrying sumbody else, geting divorced and then founding out that the same person you have dumped is still willing to wait for you. You should be thankfull to God and to your old boyfriend and get married to him as soon as possible, before he changes his mind.
2006-11-02 19:45:13 · answer #1 · answered by Avner Eliyahu R 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you tell most men that you are sick of seeing them etc etc they will believe you and walk away. After a few weeks or months they will get over it, depending on how long the relationship had lasted. It is said that some women have died of a broken heart but no man ever did. The man you are writing about obviously really liked/loved you, his subsequent behaviour seems to prove that. Men do not talk about feelings; it is something that they do not do, like become pregnant. However actions are the way they express themselves.
Nearly every man who freely talks about his feelings is a fraud. From your description it sounds to me like the man is genuine but not demonstrative. This is by no means a bad thing. If you are constantly at him to talk about his feelings he will not particularly care for it and will eventually resent it.
Also consider that your original relationship was when both of you were rather younger.
2006-11-03 03:59:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is this, the 10th time you asked? If you're so obsessed with him, sit him down and have a heart to heart. Asking a ton of strangers over and over isn't going to resolve this for you.
Why did you end it? It must have been something he did. If it was serious enough to make you reconsider once, reconsider it twice.
Take your time with this. You've been down this path before, do you want to go back there? Only you know the answer to this.
2006-11-03 03:49:04 · answer #3 · answered by B Low 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, you belong to no one. Not your existing husband. Not your ex-lover. If you are not happy in your existing marriage, break away from it.
2nd it seems like he's blaming you for leaving him. But maybe he didnt mean it in a bad way. Maybe it was just a joke.
I dont know. Hope the other answers can enlighten you.
2006-11-03 03:43:39 · answer #4 · answered by aLTered_eGo 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
U have married the man but u have not accepted him as such. U wud not have been asking such questions if ur identity had been merged into his and vice versa. Please discuss the matter openly as both of u r mature and responsible persons and there is no reason why shud not do so.
2006-11-03 03:53:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
ask yourself this then. Is it truely better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all? In other words "what does your heart say to you?" pause a moment, look in and ask it darling. with in there lie the answers you truely seek.
2006-11-03 04:00:45 · answer #6 · answered by kop8768 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry i have no idea but try asking someone who is already married or just go to google and search there :)
2006-11-03 12:54:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
So you sleep in the day ?
2006-11-03 03:46:42 · answer #8 · answered by indian b 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋