My husband just wont leave me alone when I am on the computer.He comes in and disturbs me playing checkers and makes me lose. He comes with all sorts of excuses when I am on here in Questions and Answers and expects me to solve all his silly little problems. Why doesn't he get a life of his own instead of sitting on my head all the time?
2006-11-02 18:47:20 · 23 answers · asked by beyond paradise 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He scared you'll run off with some compter nerd. Tell him he can read your communications when your done. This wll relieve his fears, hopefully. Erase our private messages.
2006-11-02 18:51:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
At least he is trying to pay attention to you, and spend time with you, and to show an interest in the things that you enjoy, a lot of people aren't bothered about their partners to such an extent. Although it can be a little smothering, why not turn the PC off and go and do something with him, then ask him for say half an hour's peace and quiet to play checkers. My other half and I always let each other have our own space, because it makes for a healthier relationship.
2006-11-03 03:00:48 · answer #2 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Are you nasty! I think that your selfishness is uncalled for. Your husband deserves to have your attention. I would never get angry because my husband came and interrupted me while I am on here. I stop and give him my time. It is not like you can't go back to what you are doing a few minutes later. It is obvious that he lacks a woman who thinks his needs are important. Isn't that why you married him? You need to set aside time, when he may be involved in his own things, to be on the computer. Maybe you are addicted to the computer and never spend anytime with him?
P.S. His silly problems are more important than the problems of people you don't know. Put him first.
Married 13 years
2006-11-03 02:58:04 · answer #3 · answered by Twisted Maggie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You started feeling it now, your husband might have felt it long back! That is the doubt that is created by your movements and friends. He may not utter a word unless he is having small scar in his mind about you. Hope, my message conveys you what you are expected to do to lead a happy life. All other matters are just illusions and gossips.
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Your mind set is not right to deal with a husband, it is good for a boy friend. If you do it to your B/F, he will kick you there and you will say "Thank you, Honey!".
2006-11-03 02:59:28 · answer #4 · answered by SESHADRI K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he adores you and maybe he feels he is not getting enough attention from you. Willing, loving attention not angery, your in my way attention. Everyone has a love language. Have a read of the artical below. It explains what I'm trying to say. It needs effort to change from both of you.
I hope you can both work it out. Good Luck. Remember the computer can always wait. Your relationship is more important
2006-11-03 03:03:11 · answer #5 · answered by John T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST I MUST SAY THAT YOU OUGHT TO THANK GOD THAT YOUR HUSBAND IS PAYING ATTENTION TO YOU. THEN YOU OUGHT TO THANK HIM AGAIN BECAUSE YOU DO HAVE YOUR HUSBAND. LET ME SHARE THIS WITH YOU. MY HUSBAND AND I WERE VERY HAPPY TOGETHER. WE DID SOME THINGS APART ALSO BUT WHEN HE WAS MURDERED THIS YEAR IN FEBRUARY, I WISH THAT WE WOULD HAVE SHARED EVERYTHING TOGETHER BECAUSE LIFE IS SHORT. YOU WILL MISS HIM MESSING WITH YOU WHEN HE IS GONE FROM THIS EARTH. THOSE LITTLE IRRITATING THINGS, BELIEVE ME, YOU WILL MISS. ENJOY YOUR HUSBAND WHILE YOU HAVE HIM. YOUR HUSBAND IS MESSING WITH YOU BECAUSE HE WANT SOME OF YOUR TIME. I USE TO BE ON THE COMPUTER PLAYING DOMINOES WHEN MY HUSBAND WOULD COME IN AND MESS WITH ME. I KNEW THAT WAS MY CUE TO GIVE HIM SOME TIME. REMEMBER, IT'S NOT YOUR LIFE OR HIS LIFE ANYMORE, WHEN YOU TWO SAID I DO, THE TWO OF YOU BECAME ONE. WHAT'S MORE IMPORTANT, THE COMPUTER OR YOUR HUSBAND? I AM NOT TRYING TO LECTURE YOU. I'M JUST TRYING TO LET YOU KNOW THAT MARRIAGE IS A GIFT AND YOU MUST APPRECIATE WHAT YOU HAVE. YOU SUPPOSE TO BE THERE TO AT LEAST TRY TO SOLVE HIS SILLY LITTLE PROBLEMS IF YOU HONESTLY LOVE HIM. THE THINGS THAT HE IS DOING TO YOU WHILE YOU ARE ON THE COMPUTER IS ONLY A SIGN THAT HE WANT SOME TIME FROM HIS WIFE.
2006-11-03 03:08:30 · answer #6 · answered by PRECIANA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound like a frustrating situation but if you love him try not to get too upset with him. You should really try to explain your feelings to him- but remember that he is probably a little hurt that you will help complete strangers with their "silly little problems" but you don't have the time to help him.
I know from experience (my husband is serving his 2nd year long tour in Iraq) that there are times when you would put up with anything just to have your loved one around.
2006-11-03 02:58:06 · answer #7 · answered by girlinlove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to spend some quality time together. Maybe he just needs a little more attention? Try to explain that you need some of your own time as well. If that doesn't work then go and see a marriage counselor.
2006-11-03 02:50:22 · answer #8 · answered by weezzze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a proper well rounded little earth mother on your profile, you sound like a PMT ridden harpie in your question, which are you?. Why don't you try passing on "that smile that somebody needs" (awwww aren`t you just cute) to your husband instead of blowing smoke at faceless strangers
2006-11-03 03:43:01 · answer #9 · answered by bletherskyte 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I let me wife do whatever she wants whenever she wants as I have personal interests that require large sacrifices from her such as playing golf and the odd night out with work that will involve me spending a night away.
2006-11-03 02:50:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋