do you regret the committment of marriage?

Question

i understand the committment of marriage, because i am married for 2 years now, and have no plans of cheating or leaving. I was wondering if anyone regrets getting married because of what they gave up -- some independence, all the "firsts" of a new relationship, and sleeping with the same person for the rest of your life?

Answer 1

No. I'm going to get married again.

Answer 2

I am married for 12 years - no regrets for getting married. If the commitment is there between both the partners then the relationship is wonderful. If its a compromise on part of any one of the partner then its not going to work out for long in terms of cheating. Marriage is not sleeping with the same person but its living with same person learning the lessons of life as well as essence of life.

Answer 3

I've been married for 11 years now, and I don't regret one thing. My husband and I are very independent. We do things together, but we do a lot of things separately too. He loves sports, football, kite-surfing etc..., I like to read, write and paint! I don't believe in the 'we share everything' thing... I just have to keep some moments for myself and he does too. For the sleeping with the same person part, I thought about it a lot before my marriage and I asked him if I could take some time alone to go out and see if i wanted to have other relationships, but it turned out I kept asking myself 'what does that guy have that my fiancé doesn't?' so I realized that he was the guy and that I needed no one else. Hope it lasts another 11 years at least...!

Answer 4

good day could remorseful approximately it at some point yet as long as he's having an affair (and he's) he won't see the wooded area interior the process the wood each time quickly. My advice is to circulate on. He has already confirmed yu he's no longer rather dedicated to you. maximum men and females persons, while they want out of a dating, do teach symptoms of jealousy while they see the guy they have left at the back of starts to circulate on w/o them. they have a superiority complicated and want the sturdy existence remote from you yet they assume you to pine after them. it incredibly is totally screwed up. Thank the celebs you have been in basic terms married 5 years and did no longer waste yet another 5 w/ him previously he pulled this mess. He would not know what a committment is and/or replaced into on no account rather invested on your marriage. He could be chasing the bright/new feeling of a sparkling dating yet in time will understand that wears off in each and every dating and that relationships take artwork. additionally at some point he will understand that any female who can actively participate interior the betrayal of a marriage, won't be able to be trusted (the different female). She in all probability won't believe him the two. report for divorce. existence is in basic terms too short to be waiting for somebody to "perhaps" come around and utilising double-standards the place they could circulate on yet are unhappy in case you do. save on, sista!

Answer 5

The answer to that very much depends on the situation.

I was married 3 years to a man who was an alcoholic and drug-addict. I was young, naive, and didn't understand that these things existed (I was raised in a very sheltered environment - not a good situation).

At that time, I really believed in the "to death do us part" part, until he almost killed our son because he was drinking and driving. After that, I woke up and realized that there are times when a marriage needs to end. So I ended it.

It took him another 10 years before he got clean. His family kept putting him in rehab, but until he admitted he had a problem, it didn't work.

After that I swore I would never marry again...and I haven't. Marriage is nothing more than a legally binding contract that you sign promising to love each other. I don't want someone because they "swore" to love me, and now they feel they can't leave because they don't anymore.

I would rather be with someone I know who loves me, because he is there with me everyday. Without a legal document to force him to stay.

I believe in marriage if you have children because they need stability.

My marriage lasted 3 years, my long term (unmarried) relationship lasted 15 years.

Just my opinion.

Silk Dragon

Answer 6

I regret it. I regret falling for a man's act. The whole "I'm a nice guy" routnie. Had I known he would turn out to be a completely self absorbed self centered abusive and neglectful person, I would have run far far away. And I have had an affiar. Well, not really. We're separated and getting divorced, and a man I've known for 10 years but stupidly let my temper get the best of long ago and I have hooked up again. I'm just not going to rush so quickly into marriage.

Answer 7

that's is the only greatest and the most beautiful thing anyone would be doing in thier life apart from thier profession.
marriage is not a commitment- it is more a dicipline towards each other which people don't understand and underestimate.
if it was understood then there would not have been so many jokes on relationships.
there are no regrets at all and those who feel they have lost thier freedom they are wrong.
in fact after marriage u are more responsible and dutiful.
who all feel that they have lost freedom in thier lives have become miserable, early or later.
the reason is they fall prey to so many habits not having anything to do and the same guys complain about thier lives at the end.

Answer 8

No, because marriage is a covenant made with God and the family is the fulfillment of our true purpose. I am fairly liberal, actually, and whatever my political beliefs, I really believe that at the end of the day, religion is about family commitment and community. I just don't care to be literalist about it. It's in my day-to-day life and attitude. I don't play the heavy but I am firm on this. Divorce laws shouldn't change, but let's put the general situation in relationships into perspective:

Common-law is simply not marriage. I am not against it; it is good for young people who have certain social needs and often need different experiences. They work, go to college, are learning to drive a car and often share households with friends. It is a natural extension of this situation. It is not a good situation to raise children in. It is not marriage. If you cannot understand that, you may have commitment issues or be confused about what your purpose is in life.

Relationships that are dysfunctional and not based on commitment should be ended. Any relationship involving violence, neglect, verbal abuse, adultery, desertion, a refusal to work or any other significant failure of duties over a number of years or when the straw breaks the camel's back sort of thing should be ended. So should marriages that were forced upon by people due to certain social and family pressures, especially if a teenage girl gets pregnant and wasn't given any other options but marriage.

However, there is no justification for deliberately ruining your marriage. It is also reasonable to give second chances if you still love the other person, there are children involved, there isn't a serious set of problems like the ones mentioned above, etc.

Answer 9

I love my husband with all my heart and soul. I regret nothing, but sometimes I do wonder if it had been different to not settle down so soon . To live a little more,...see more..do more. We've been together 3 yrs, married f/1yr. I'm just now 23.

Answer 10

Have been married for 13 years.

The commitment itself is not the problem. People like to think that singles have it better because of the greater choices and opportunities available to them. But this is seldom the case.

The problem IMO is that many people enter into marriage with too high expectations (which most likely will be dashed) or after a while they take their spouse for granted and assumed that he/she will just have to take it - because he/she is stuck with the relationship.

Answer 11

No I do not regret the committment. I am good with that.

I regret that my wife lost her sex drive and with kids I am now stuck because I made my deal and will stick with it.

When the kids are out of the house though..............