My friend and I both have different views on oral sex. I think a guy should go down on me if he wants me to go down on him. She thinks that she should please the man first before she can expect anything.. What do you think? I have never had any problems. I have always had givers. What is so wrong with wanting to be pleased first? I think if you please a girl you know you are going to be happy, right?
2006-11-02 17:39:53 · 8 answers · asked by khaymankaj609 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
All I have to say is that in today's world, most males think it is mandatory for the females to go down on them even if there's no returning the favour... This is a major misconception, and I usually steer clear of those types of abusive males.
In my life, I believe in doing only what you want and what makes you feel good. If someone wants to go down on you, then great; all the best! If you feel like going down on someone then great too! But I don't believe in giving in to pressure, either direct on inderect, simply in order to "fit in" or "be accepted" or by fear of being ignored or whatever.
If I want to go down on a man, I will and he'll know it.... But if he tries to convince me and starts to to hint at forcing me or that it's like "my duty" that f*ck him; he's a selfish pr!ck who doesn't even deserve I give him an oral treat!
But again, in today's world, I see alot of younger women who give in to this type of male abusive b*llsh!t, and it's very very sad that they do give in, because it's just another way of the males to exert control over females...
Well that doesn't work with me!
2006-11-03 04:44:36 · answer #1 · answered by ButtahChick (ButterChick) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but I really do not understand the question here. Surely its about mutual satisfaction & relationships, not a matter of who does what & in which order. I`m sure that there are times when both sides of the argument are valid. A problem arises when both partners are "takers" then resentment can set in. Just enjoy each other at the momment (however that may be) without all the other stupid hang ups.
2006-11-02 19:34:23 · answer #2 · answered by flicflac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Registered Nurse here; well I like your philosophy on the subject matter, much more than your friends. Furthermore seems you take your partners needs into consideration, before your own. Again I see this as only a plus, for women are usually slower to climax than men, and it takes a caring, passionate guy not to be selfish to his own needs first. Just my opinion, has nothing to do with being a nurse, just my opinion as a female. Where have you been all my life. LOL
2006-11-02 17:41:37 · answer #3 · answered by Strawberry Pony 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it depends on the couple and how they want to do it if the women heads south first then the man sits and enjoys his if the man heads south first then the women gets her time in heaven.... but if u want to save the argument theres always the famous 69 and no one suffers or complains you both get to be happy at the same time ........
2006-11-03 00:39:17 · answer #4 · answered by sheila b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL NEVER GIVEN ORAL SEX TO A WOMAN BEFORE...BUT I WOULD IMAGINE THAT IF YOU WHERE A GOOD MAN YOU WOULD HAPPILY GIVE IT TO HER FIRST B/C IF YOUR GOOD ENOUGH YOU WANT EVEN NEED IT AFTER YOU HEAR THE WAY YOU HAVE PLEASED HER...AND SHE IS SCREAMING YOUR NAME....LOL
2006-11-02 17:53:01 · answer #5 · answered by LT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres no answer for that. each couple finds their own way through those things...theres really no formula. IF one person is more a giving person, then they will just give first...its just how it is.
2006-11-02 17:43:29 · answer #6 · answered by Thumper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
diff person have diff views and wants.if want less problem dont place yourself in wrong situation.
2006-11-02 17:46:33 · answer #7 · answered by aqruipnos888 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u both should plz me @ the same time then i will decide
2006-11-02 17:42:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋