Moms: I need your opinions!!!!?

Question

Okay, I have a new baby (my first baby) and he will be 4 months old next week. I was just wondering how long it took ya'll to leave your babies overnight? I've been thinking about it because my husband and I have our anniversary coming up on the 16th. I'd like for us to stay the night in a hotel but I just can't imagine leaving the baby all night long. I hate being away from him for more that 2 hours and when I am I can't wait to get home and cuddle him. So, what do you think?

Answer 1

yeah i used to feel like that to but just don't stay all night you'll get used to it just stay for couple of hours so you can enjoy with your hubby kids will grow in no time......have a good one

Answer 2

Well I know how you feel, it is really hard to leave them overnight especially the first time. But as long as you completely trust the person you would be leaving them with it will be okay. I heard a saying once that I really believe in, Never leave your children somewhere you wouldn't leave a million dollars. Just make sure you trust the person, and they have contact numbers for you. Or you could consider having someone stay in another room at the same hotel. Then you have your privacy and the baby is just a moment away. Happy Anniversary.

Answer 3

My daughter was 3 when I first left her overnight and that was only because I was having another baby LOL. Not only was it our first time apart overnight but also her first time sleeping somewhere else as well. The only thing that made it easier for me was knowing she was with my parents and she just adores them anyway ! Even tho she was passed the "baby" stage it was still very difficult for me. She had a blast and after the first day I felt better about it. I know you are only talking about one night but just wanted to share my own experience...It is very natural to not want to leave your baby so if you feel too anxious maybe plan a different type of outing with your husband for a few hours. Or even pick a date in the future with the intention of going overnight and practice being apart from your baby for longer intervals until that time. Good luck and congratulations !

Answer 4

GO!!! I have a 6 month old little man and he has spent the night with both sets of his grandparents. He has probably spent the night away from my husband and about 5 times total. He started sleeping through the night at 7 weeks and I don't breastfeed so we didn't have to deal with some of the typical issues related to spending the night away. It is hard the first time, but it is really nice to be able to reconnect with your spouse. It will do you a world of good, especially on your anniversary. I think it is very, very important to maintain your marriage as well as your parenting skills. You and your husband is where it all started; the basis for your little one being here... take time to remember why you fell in love and had him in the first place. Relax and enjoy!!!

Answer 5

I haven't left my 11-month old overnight and wouldn't really consider this yet. (Even though she's a great sleeper, would likely sleep through and wouldn't sleep deprive my parents or anything if I left her with them.)

It's just that don't think that I could stand it yet, and I have the breast feeding issues raised by Hypermama too. (There's absolutely NOTHING romantic about a breast pump.)

Since our daughter was about 4 weeks old though Hubby and I have gone out about once a month for anywhere from 2 to 5 hours. Dinner, movies, concerts, hockey games, even just to Wal-mart without toting a baby is a bit of a treat sometimes when it's -10 degrees out... (Remember, it's important for the two of you to have at least the occasional date!! A friend of mine that had a baby in May still hasn't even left her baby for a couple hours. I think by NOT going out at all it just makes it a bigger deal later for both parent AND baby.)

Good luck with whatever you decide!
Take care!

Answer 6

I have never left my 20 month old overnight. I think my DD, who is now 10 was around 3 years-old. Of course, i breastfeed, so leaving my baby overnight would have meant starvation until i returned and me having to pump during a "romantic getaway." I think 4 months is too early, babies are still forming attachments and learning trust and need you so much.

Perhaps you should get a suite and then your babe can sleep in another room, while you have your grown-up time.

Answer 7

My daughter had her first sleepover at 2 weeks old. It was new years eve and she slept over my moms house. I thought i needed the break and the rest, but i cried the whole time she was gone, and was at my moms front door with breakfast in hand at 6am the next morning. It was a bit early, and i definately wasnt ready for it, but shes going to be 2 soon and is fine with sleepovers now.

If you're not ready for a whole night with out him, have a sitter watch him while you go out so that he is there to cuddle when you get home.

Answer 8

I am not a mom but I helped raise my friends baby, I was with her and her son everyday and well to answer your question its all about how you feel meaning just how comfortable you are. If you cant relax the whole night than maybe its not time for you to do that just yet. You could explore your options, though and well how does your husband feel about this? My friend wanted to go out with her friends for one night of fun and well she herself couldn't relax, its not that she didn't trust the care giver or anything its just she couldn't stand being away for such a long period of time and there is nothing wrong with that. Go with your motherly intuition. Hope that helps.

Answer 9

It took me about 8 months before my hubby could get me to leave my oldest to go celebrate our anniversary. The best thing to do is to leave your baby with a grandma or a trusted friend and take a pic with you so if you start missing your baby you can look at their face and know that they are in good hands.

Answer 10

Hello!!!!!!!!! I'm a stay at home dad! My daughter is 8 months and I never have left her yet with anyone accept grandma and that was only for about 5 hrs.

I think it would be ok for you to leave him with someone you can trust. Go out have a great time and don't feel bad about it. Your still a great mother. I'm sure you could use a break.

Answer 11

If your mom can sit him, go out and have fun. You know you can trust mom right, or even your husbands mom. That was the only way I could handle my son away from me overnight, although still called and checked 2 times, and mom told me, "Hes doing great, and if you dont let me get off this phone, we cant play, so good-bye!" LOL, well I soon learned my baby was just fine. Good luck!