with out any one judging me please help me with this one. i am married with 3 beautiful kids, i love my family more than anything. before i got married i did get intimate with a female and really enjoyed myself. even after that encounter i always knew that men was the thing for me. and when iam intimate with my husband he knows just how to please me. but i still have my days when i want to be with a woman sexually and only sexually. so i guess my question is, am i wrong to feel this way
2006-11-02 17:07:36 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is nothing wrong with this at all. If it is a simple fantasy then enjoy them and have fun with them. If this is a serious longing or hunger for you then you might want to try to talk to your husband about his most wild fantasies... if the term threesome comes up maybe he would be game. I don't know if you could handle the idea of him being involved but if you can include him it would be a shared experience and not cheating... if you sought out a woman on the side without him knowing about it you would be a cheater... Good luck, hopefully you can get a little something!
2006-11-02 17:54:18 · answer #1 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not wrong to have a fantasy...however if you have sex with another....man or women while you are married it is cheating. Have you told your husband about this ? It could be that he would be okay with you being Bi. Only you know how he would react. The down side is that he may feel that he can not satisfy you and that's is why you are fantasizing about a women. It may be best to keep this a just a fantasy.
2006-11-03 01:14:02 · answer #2 · answered by oldman 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course it's not wrong. Whatever you may feel is not wrong. Things you find pleasing may be abhorrent to others and wrong to them, but that's society. Being bisexual and 40 something, I can tell you that I supressed my feelings during my first two marriages and it was a mistake. Now, that's just my personal insight on my situation! I'm much happier since "coming out"....does your husband have any idea at all? He may not be as repulsed by it as you seem to think? It's important to be honest in a marriage, but look out for yourself and your kids first and foremost!! You have my prayers!! Good luck!!
2006-11-03 01:13:09 · answer #3 · answered by ladyw900ldriver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope not, cuz i feel the same as you do! I think its pretty normal. I get turned on by seeing women having sex than men. I have been with a woman too, but love my man and would not ever want to be in a serious relationship with a woman. I would not worry about how you feel, unless it is making you not want to be with your husband. Best wishes sweetie!
2006-11-03 01:11:28 · answer #4 · answered by Hydimyangel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a question for you first. Would you be feeling this guilty if your thougts were about a man instead of a woman? Thoughts are just that, thoughts until you act on them. We are all human and you are simply reminiscing on a pleasant memory. The trick is to somehow now incorporate it into your marriage so it can work For you!!!
2006-11-03 01:11:48 · answer #5 · answered by elmb 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A man may touch your body and physically satisfy you but a woman touches your soul and emotionally fulfills you...women understand women better and incidents between two women is always remembered & cherished...what you did with the woman was special and different...maybe you keep want a piece of that special engagement...you probably want a change from wild and rough sex to slow and passionate one...it does happen and u do like it, dont you..
2006-11-03 01:14:45 · answer #6 · answered by innocence 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'm going to have to go with wrong on this one. Your mind is a powerful tool. Thinking about sinning makes it more likely for you to act on it. I'm not condemning you by any means, that's just the most honest answer I have for you.
2006-11-03 01:19:49 · answer #7 · answered by Lesley C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's fine. Whether you act on it or not will have to be a choice made with your husband. Maybe he won't mind if you get with a girlfriend but, he might think it's okay to get a girlfriend or boyfriend for himself.
2006-11-03 01:19:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, it is wrong only if you feel it is wrong. I have never fantasized about women, I am just not attracted to women. I am reluctant to say it is ok to act on them because I would consider it cheating on your husband.
2006-11-03 01:29:38 · answer #9 · answered by Gorgeoustxwoman2013 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only thing u r missing in having a husband in stead of gf, for sexual needs, is to do oral on her. Try to compensate by doing oral to ur husband, although the tastes r totally different.
2006-11-03 01:12:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋