I want to get married and I am dating someone who is great friend. I'm attracted to her but I'm not sure the chemistry is there. I feel like I should date other people but I don't want to lose her friendship. Is it ok to date someone else while I date her to make sure she is the one?
2006-11-02 16:49:07 · 11 answers · asked by X 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Friendship is a great foundation to a marriage in addition to chemistry. However, you stand to possibly risk the friendship with the break up. There are women who do not want to be friends after the boyfriend/girlfriend relationship ends. It is definitely a bad idea to date someone behind their back because it could really upset them and end any relationship or friendship. An idea is to discuss the situation with her if you want, but you have to realize there is a chance you would lose both the relationship and the friendship by doing so.
2006-11-02 17:10:00 · answer #1 · answered by dawncs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want an honest answer than the answer is absolutely not! You are talking about somone's feelings and you said that you want to keep her friendship right!?!? If you have been dating this person for a while and you question that if there is chemistry there, then there is a 90% chance that it will never be there. There is no need for you to waste her time and most importantly yours if you are talking about getting married. The question you have to ask is "Am I willing to give up a good relationship to ruin be cheating on her!?!?" So I hoped that helped!!
2006-11-02 16:59:57 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica Renee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there!!
As long as you and her have a mutual agreement and she knows completely and fully that you would be dating other women as well has her, then it is ok. Just make sure you speak with her about your feelings and if she is the least bit opposed to the situation, then you need to make a decision whether you want to leave your relationship with her to persue other avenues or stay with her. Just be open and honest with her, and good luck!! :)
2006-11-02 16:53:30 · answer #3 · answered by presserized 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not a good idea to date 2 people at the same time, unless your relationship is not exclusive, if you want to make it that way then talk to her about your feelings and explain carefully what you want and how you feel.
2006-11-02 16:52:24 · answer #4 · answered by twysty 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're unsure of how you feel about her, then by all means continue to date others. And she should date as well. How else is one to discover who they wish to be with? Being up front is better than jumping into marriage and too soon regretting it.
2006-11-02 17:06:15 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No its not ok and thats the quickest way to lose her friendship. I believe you should talk to her. Cuz she maybe feeling the same and just dont know how to tell you.
2006-11-02 17:03:07 · answer #6 · answered by poohbeark19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you feel about her seeing other people?
Even if the freindship survived, would you be ok if she found someone who knew what they wanted.....and wanted her??
How would seeing someone else tell you about the chemistry??
Think..... how you feel about the consequences of your actions.
2006-11-02 16:57:39 · answer #7 · answered by Pat B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are you thinking? Thats a good way to end a relationship and a loose a friend.
2006-11-02 17:02:15 · answer #8 · answered by harleybrent1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you r not positive she is the one than cut her free so she can date other ppl...don't 2 time her
2006-11-02 16:53:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ends justify the means.
2006-11-02 17:02:25 · answer #10 · answered by Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋